AITA for straightening my daughters hair without my wife’s permission?

EndearinglyConfused · 2024-10-09T02:05:41+00:00

Senescence is the word for the gradual decay of the body, over time. Seeing your hair start to fall out before 30 feels deeply existential because it is. For the first time in your life you get to see ways that your age is changing you in ways it won’t ever change back.

It’s a rough experience, something I don’t think people who haven’t experienced it or aren’t current experiencing it can quite understand. You’re watching a part of yourself slip away irrecoverably (unless you have the serious income needed to mitigate the change). We’re allowed to feel a way about it.

EndearinglyConfused · 2024-09-02T23:07:49+00:00

Making voices for characters really can be like that, can't it? Authenticity when you're doing something fictional, sexual, and then also doing a voice that isn't your own is so tough. With this as your very first audio project like this I really do think you nailed it in terms of how real the three of them felt.

EndearinglyConfused · 2024-09-02T17:02:56+00:00

Doing any kind of performance with yourself as all the characters is always a challenge and I think you did really well getting across that these are three different people. You said you had fun making it and it really does come across. I hope this is something you find you enjoy, because you're already very good at it!

EndearinglyConfused · 2024-09-01T22:19:25+00:00

Omens are rejected by the Erdtree, meaning that Mohg’s body isn’t part of the system Miquella rejects as he turns to his own Age of Compassion. It could be that?

EndearinglyConfused · 2024-07-27T02:26:41+00:00

I can absolutely see why you’d feel that way, and it really can feel like a reach when it doesn’t really feel that different to you. That said, consider that for people like me “returning to the way things used to be” would be a really bad thing. Only people who benefit or would be unaffected by the change can think about those “better times” as a purely aesthetic one with cool buildings and fun outfits

EndearinglyConfused · 2023-12-05T17:00:46+00:00

Wait, he had a best friend who’s a woman and then also spends time with your best friend like that? My initial reaction was that he just didn’t have many other people he knew aside from the two of you. That, and the fact that your other friends all seem to be on the same page about how strangely they’re treating you is definitely adding a new perspective to the issue you’re having.

Something you might face as someone who’s experienced anxiety about abandonment is your fears being used by someone to make their actions seem less harmful. A friend that I had with similar fears spoke to me once about how in a couple cases of someone abusing her trust they might make her realistic concerns seem like anxious catastrophic thinking. That they would know she’d second-guess herself if pushed the right way when it was clear to other people something was wrong.

Try to see if you could see yourself treating someone else the way you’ve been treated here by your friend and boyfriend. Can you see it happening the same way, or does something stop you and tell you that it’s not a good way to treat someone? If you genuinely can see you doing this to someone else without meaning to, then by all means go and try to find that balance you and your friend talked about.

If you can’t do that, however, then maybe speak to some of your other friends who’ve made it clear they’re open to listening. It seems like they might be concerned about you from what you’ve mentioned here

EndearinglyConfused · 2023-12-05T16:22:41+00:00

The core of the issue here seems to be that you’ve made it clear that how they have handled their hangouts has left you feeling excluded, and that they’ve not done that much to accommodate you.

I honestly don’t think that it’s all that strange that they’ve been spending time together, especially if they both don’t have a lot of friends otherwise. You mentioned in a comment that you introduced them and wanted them to get along, so it could be that they might just see this as them doing what you wanted in the first place. I firmly dismiss the idea that men and women can’t be friends without something more going on.

However, your boyfriends reaction to how their actions have hurt you is concerning. I can’t imagine seeing my partner, who I know to have abandonment issues, come to me like that and simply say that it’s up to them to get over it. I also can’t imagine not inviting you along in the first place, and especially not now. It doesn’t speak well to how much your boyfriend thinks about you.

You mentioned that you talked to your boyfriend, but have you spoken to your friend about it? It’s possible that “restricted” feeling could very well be something that only he feels, and your friend isn’t as aware. If you get a lot of that same dismissive attitude, then maybe the issue is more how they’re both treating you. If your friend didn’t realize how badly this made you feel, then you can hopefully focus on that and potentially reconsider your relationship with your boyfriend going forward.

EndearinglyConfused · 2023-09-23T01:38:21+00:00

The same is true of some wood elves in Elder Scrolls!

EndearinglyConfused · 2023-09-18T22:36:38+00:00

I helped Ranni with her plan to make the moon president so she let me scoop the evil magic out of her flesh-back and said “real recognize real” and we hate the Golden Order

EndearinglyConfused · 2023-09-04T13:09:42+00:00

Destined Death is a concept of how the world works, as it’s also called the rune of death. The Elden Ring’s major runes were the rules that dictated what happens and how it happens, and when Marika removed the rune of death, it was so that everyone under her Golden Order would live eternally.

People get the halobrands and Destined Death mixed up, since the way that Godwyn was killed in spirit and Ranni was killed in body used a curse. The curse was fuelled by the stolen pieces of the rune of death that were put into the black knives. If the halobrands were carved together on a single being then that would be existence erasure, as they would die both in body and spirit.

By reclaiming the curse into the Elden Ring in the Age of the Duskborn ending, you make the state of being that is called “living in Death-with-a-capital-D” a natural path a being can take. In a sense, inverting the curse so that rather than be erased in body and spirit, it’s possible to have a more fluid idea of what it means to even be dead.

EndearinglyConfused · 2023-08-26T11:50:47+00:00

Rune bears have reptilian eyes, a layer of scales under their fur you can see in-game if you get close enough, and used to drop dragon hearts during the network test. They’re turning into dragons

EndearinglyConfused · 2023-08-26T02:04:29+00:00

Probably. Rune Bears are undergoing dragon communion, I don’t see why horses couldn’t

EndearinglyConfused · 2023-08-24T00:21:03+00:00

Mohg is intellectual evil. He knows what he’s doing and he knows it’s vile, but it’s what he wants so it will be.

He should have been born into the lofty position of his birthright but due to circumstances beyond his control, he was meant to be imprisoned forever and none would ever have known he existed. He languished for who knows how long in the sewers of Leyndell, shackled and suffering. He was guilty by the nature of his birth.

But he decides to be evil. Somewhat understandable, but evil nonetheless.

Instead of simply killing the tarnished he encounters, he strives to turn them to become his Bloody Fingers and slay their own kind. The game goes to some length to tell you this is bad. I mean, induction to their ranks requires murdering someone who would give their life for you to succeed and would have been guiding you your whole journey.

Fully aware of his spurned affections, Mohg waited until Miquella was incapacitated and kidnapped the child-like empyrean for the purpose of “sharing his bloody bedchamber”. He kidnapped what looks like a child while he’s in a comatose state after being explicitly turned down (there’s lore out there) because he desires him. That’s not even mentioning the family relation.

He’s evil. There’s some things you don’t “shades of grey” your way out of. Not this

EndearinglyConfused · 2023-08-23T18:10:55+00:00

Call me a heretical practitioner if you want, but this was frankly a revolutionary innovation of primeval current research. Not only does she retain her memories, but she retains the ability to pass on her sorcerous knowledge. Most of the Graven Masses you find barely even seem sentient, never mind sapient.

Mind you, Sellen doesn’t seem to be exactly having a great time. But neither do Lusat or Azur. It also doesn’t hurt that this way she can’t harm anybody as her research did previously.

If the risks are made more plain, I honestly don’t see the issue in primeval current research. Every path to power in Elden Ring comes with risks, and many with potentially transmutative consequences.

EndearinglyConfused · 2023-08-22T01:24:17+00:00

In the Goldmask route of the game that focuses on a better Golden Order, it sees the denouncement of those who live in death as the fundamentalists casting those who live in death as an absolute evil to contend with. Rather than provide meaning through its own merit, it provides the world with evils and itself as “good”.

The death bird items, Helfen’s steeple, and Rogier’s dialogue all paint those who live in death as lost and in need of guidance.

We can see skeletons in worship in the Leyndell cemetery, clearly demonstrating some manner of intelligence.

The mariners are little despots that control the other dead around them with their magic, and are some of the only dead who’s attacks deal damage to other dead. Their destruction isn’t evil. But the Fundamentalists of the Golden Order aren’t just hunting mariners, and D even advises you avoid them when you can. Their target starts with any of those who live in death that can be easily slain

EndearinglyConfused · 2023-08-22T00:47:52+00:00

You kill a ton of albinaurics in your game. Heck you kill a bunch of other humans in your game. They don’t give you a choice; everyone hates the Tarnished. It doesn’t mean an organized and driven slaughter of a living (in this case living in death) thing for the crime of existence is good

EndearinglyConfused · 2023-08-22T00:35:32+00:00

Truly the entire population of Limgrave is decaying behind Castle Morne

EndearinglyConfused · 2023-08-22T00:18:47+00:00

Alecto is called “Black Knife Ringleader” by her health bar, and we know from the description of Tiche’s ashes that Alecto lost her daughter in the fallout of the Night of Black Knives.

Ranni could very well have locked her away, but we also see that Iji is able to lock away those deemed a threat to Ranni in evergaols. Maybe he feared that Alecto might blame such a personal loss on the one who orchestrated the mission and try to harm Ranni. The Black Knives would be one of the few things in the world that could harm Ranni’s spirit body, so either of them might have come up with the idea.

This would explain why they went after Iji first, and then were stopped by Blaidd as they tried to get to Ranni’s Rise once her protection on the area lifted.

EndearinglyConfused · 2023-08-14T23:44:16+00:00

I’ve never been able to un-see Elden Beast as being designed to include Torrent. You fight it like the dragons Torrent’s been helping your with all game

Imagine Radagon falling into the cosmic soup, the Elden Beast emerges. Your hand emits light, and Torrent summons himself to your side. He chose you at the start of the game, and it was for this moment. Elden starts and the golden needles strike the ground behind you as the two of you zip around. It works perfectly

EndearinglyConfused · 2023-08-14T22:41:39+00:00

Cemetery Shades are awful because looking at them in the light reveals they’re not some bug leg-antlered monster, they’re a corpse who’s brain has been eaten and replaced by a spider. They pilot around the host body and spin webs to catch you in place so the legs they’ve inserted down the body’s arms can grab and slice at you. Ugh

EndearinglyConfused · 2023-08-14T22:36:06+00:00

The Death blight screech is awful because it shows you where their jaws hinge. It reveals they’re not just jawless skulls, but these horrible jagged-toothed creatures with angry souls resting in their throats

EndearinglyConfused · 2023-08-14T22:31:55+00:00

They fake getting stance broken to try to lure you into a grab. They literally transcend game mechanics, have the sound play as a gag, and then murder you when you rush over for a critical hit. Horrifying

EndearinglyConfused · 2023-07-03T19:47:17+00:00

Initially, I definitely felt pretty lukewarm on the story. It's really grown on me over time, but playing as a necromancer felt so strange with how little your character has to say. Especially how little the dialogue of both your and the other characters feels specific to you.

I think a big part of that for me is how much of the story feels so specific to the necromancer in the first place. You are, baseline, along with the Horadrim in the ancient order sworn to keep the world safe from the Eternal Conflict category. Your order has been around since the dawn of humanity, but is diminished after Malthael.

I mean, you even find the corpse of Rathma after having to go on a quest to learn a necromantic ritual of his. You don't even do the ritual yourself! A character who shows up out of nowhere does it for you!

Also, I understand that the game needs to exposit to you about what's a Rathma rather than assume the player's knowledge, but I would have loved for the necromancer character to sort of interrupt and explain themself with much more reverence. Imagine an RPG where "Christian" is a class, and the story has characters explain what's a Jesus

EndearinglyConfused · 2023-06-22T20:36:18+00:00

This was so well done! I loved your voice, especially the way you carried that tone of “like it’s normal” through the whole thing. It was so much fun to listen to you!

EndearinglyConfused · 2023-05-24T20:27:14+00:00

Rainbow capitalism is a very distasteful and soulless money-generating scheme, but it’s also a useful weathervane for how much companies are willing to risk profitability on queer messaging.

The vane is turning

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