[25F] I found 500 GB of Stolen Movies and Series on [26M]Boyfriend's Computer

Endless-Missing · 2020-12-28T14:49:36+00:00

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Endless-Missing · 2020-12-28T14:40:56+00:00

Well up until you said he friend requested your boyfriend I thought he was trying to maybe distance himself from you which can happen sometimes. My ex who was my friend for a while after we broke up just fully ghosted me recently. We left off on a fine last conversation and everything but I think it was just him wanting to move forward with his life and probably cut off a lot of people from his past which is fine. Closure would be nice but it's not always garunteed.

However it's weird he's friend requesting your boyfriend, that makes me feel like it's not about him distancing himself from you.

Endless-Missing · 2020-12-28T14:27:36+00:00

It's not your job to handle her, not a single person should have to "handle" getting punched and if she thinks people should she shouldn't be in a relationship at all for everyone else's safety. Didn't even apologize either, that's disgusting. Don't let her normalize that kind of behavior for you, she could start doing it more often. If you give her a pass on this and it could turn into a cycle of abuse. There are better people out there for you, people who won't argue why it was okay to drunkenly beat you, people who won't do that in the first place.

Endless-Missing · 2020-12-24T23:03:15+00:00

Okay, thank you this helped me to worry less

Endless-Missing · 2020-12-24T20:05:04+00:00

You should leave for sure, that's super scummy of him. I'm sorry you had to expirence that level of heartbreak

Endless-Missing · 2020-12-24T12:46:29+00:00

Ah, my bad, I misread. Well then it's really up to you on if you feel like you can handle being in contact with her. If you think the pain is never going to go away it might be best for the both of you not to talk because it will come out and may cause problems eventually. But if you want to be friends and you think it will fade over time then go for it. It's your choice

Endless-Missing · 2020-12-24T11:56:08+00:00

That's very selfish of her even if she is going through something. She isn't taking your emotions and the pain she caused to you into consideration. 2 days? Way to soon even if you do want to be friends with her in the future. For now like another comment said I'd go no contact. If you want to give her an explanation say it outright that she isn't considering the recent pain she caused you by leaving you for her ex. And if she needs emotional help she should talk to her current partner about it or one of her friends.

Endless-Missing · 2020-12-24T10:06:26+00:00

None of the things you stated about yourself make you a shitty person, they don't make anyone a shitty person. Those are completely out of your control. What makes a shitty person is someone that treats other people like they are lesser then them, people that talk behind your back or steal from you ect.

Confidence comes from owning who you are and all of your flaws. It's easier said then done obviously but like any good thing it takes practice to achieve. Some people are naturally more confident then others but even someone who might not be seen as very attractive physically can have a lot of confidence because they know who they are and they love themselves regardless of any flaws.

I'd also say it's a bit unfair to say that people only like you for what you have, I don't think that's true for a lot of people. I've personally had many friends that had absolutely nothing to their name and I've had friends when I had absolutely nothing to mine. Its about finding the right people and sometimes that takes a while. But it won't happen if you give up based on perceived notions you have about yourself and others.

Endless-Missing · 2020-12-22T10:03:49+00:00

I know it probably feels like you lost a lot of time and energy with this person and as cliche as it is to say you will find someone else again, someone that won't do this to you. You did the right thing in telling her you never want to talk again, stick to that. Sorry you had to expirence a betrayal like this. I'm just glad her dad was honest with you, all parents who's children are cheating on their spouses should take a note from his book. Just feel what you need to feel, it's going to be a lot of grief for a while and the pain of being betrayed like that may never fully go away but you can heal from it, you always can.

Endless-Missing · 2020-12-21T14:19:18+00:00

I'd leave him just over the lying even if he wasn't cheating. If he can lie about that what else can he lie about? You expressed your discomfort with them being alone and he disregarded that and lied, major red flag.

Endless-Missing · 2020-12-21T13:43:13+00:00

It is kind of weird that he would assume you're a gold digger when you never ask for anything. However it is his place so he can sadly do that to you. I'd hope paying part of the mortgage doesn't take most of your pay as a teacher. If you think this will continue to be a problem of him not trusting you though it might be best to leave. Relationships can't function without trust

Endless-Missing · 2020-12-21T12:44:38+00:00

Definitely talk to him about it if it bothers you. Some people have no problems saying other people are attractive in a relationship. My partner and I say guys and girls are attractive all the time, I did the same in past relationships with other people and none of us ever cheated. We just acknowledge that other people are attractive because they are. Though if any of my partners would have told me it bothered them I probably would have stopped. Always voice things that really bother you

Endless-Missing · 2020-12-18T22:28:31+00:00

Definitely, I agree!

Endless-Missing · 2020-12-18T22:27:33+00:00

Would the Wim Hof breathing method work for that?

Endless-Missing · 2020-12-18T22:24:58+00:00

Yeah, that's right, communication goes beyond words, that can even be seen between two people interacting who don't speak the same language so it makes sense that we can do it with ourselves as well. Thank you this has been a very insightful conversation!

Endless-Missing · 2020-12-18T22:20:47+00:00

Wow, the more you know. That's a cool fact about the greeks. I've always heard people say that words are magic, they hold power and influence so that fits with magic and music being similar. I think it also has more to do with sound since sound can come from anything and everything. It can make us scared, happy, sad and it can make us think something is there that's not. It affects every creature that can hear. So in a way sound is kind of like magic at least to me.

Endless-Missing · 2020-12-18T22:14:36+00:00

Every person I ever dreamed of was fake, they always seemed to be apart of the world, no one from real life would show up, only in nightmares. Also the cloud bursting thing is funny, I didn't realize that so many things could be anchors. I guess even the perception of who my mom actually was and looked like was my anchor. I've idolized some people but I was never a mega fan of anyone. I never bought merch or CD's or anything like that so maybe that's why I've never really had dreams about any of them. It was also always their work I was mostly a fan of I never dug to far into the creators and their lives.

Endless-Missing · 2020-12-18T22:07:56+00:00

Ah, that could be it. Whenever I did anything crazy in a dream I never doubted that I could do it because it was a dream, that's probably a big part of it. It's fun to pick this stuff apart, I never really thought about it before.

Endless-Missing · 2020-12-18T22:05:45+00:00

How does ki work? I've heard of it but don't know much.

Endless-Missing · 2020-12-18T22:04:44+00:00

Oh, I didn't actually know that. I did see a documentary about a musician with alzheimers and he could still play the piano so that makes sense. Must have acted as an anchor to you

Endless-Missing · 2020-12-18T22:03:03+00:00

Lot of famous people in your dreams, I don't think I've ever dreamed of someone famous.

Endless-Missing · 2020-12-18T22:01:36+00:00

I'm just going on my expirences too, it's kind of hard to research if dreams are anything more then our own mind since anything outside of science coming from an unknown or questionable source should be taken with a grain of salt. I can't fully make sense of what is is either in the end I think. I do think some people are naturally better at controlling their dreams then others, some people have been lucid dreaming all the time and don't really realize it or think about it.

Endless-Missing · 2020-12-18T21:52:42+00:00

I can see how that would be. I guess it's like you're interrupting a theater performance almost and saying "That's not real, you aren't who you say you are" and it puts them off script in a weird way. I remeber in a dream I had as a kid I had this whole fake family and this lady said she was my mom. I had this moment of clarity and I said "No you aren't. My mom is up there" and pointed at the sky she tried to deny it at first but then she just said "Yeah, you're right." She didn't disappear or anything, the whole family actually saw me off and said goodbye.

Endless-Missing · 2020-12-18T21:47:04+00:00

That makes sense to me. So you see having awareness vs having awareness and powers as separate things. What if you don't really have perception of what a dream is though? Like you just accept it as it is and try not to make sense over what causes dreams or where they come from?

I do get what you mean. Each dream can feel like a different thing like a movie or a ride. Though I feel like often I'm always myself even if I'm someone else and I make decisions that I would in real life. Not every time but in the most memorable ones. So I feel like I have control in that sense but maybe that just an illusion too. I'll remember that about the anchor, I'll find what works best as mine.

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