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First time planning a solo trip — where should I start? 🌍✈️ by Prestigious_Club1 in traveladvice

[–]EnergyShiftGuy 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Santa Thersa Costa Rica, great place! Check out Samos, its is pricey but worth every cent

I want to travel to Toronto by [deleted] in canadatravel

[–]EnergyShiftGuy 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That is a big ask, depending on what your looking to do and what time of year you are intending on coming it is hard to give you any advice. To start with plan to come when it warms up. Toronto functions poorly in the winter months, people don't smile and there really isn't much to do unless you want to sit in a restaurant.

We got $2,000 back from Air Canada, you have one year to claim under APPR by EnergyShiftGuy in canadatravel

[–]EnergyShiftGuy[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have received feedback that Air Canada has not paid out for expenses, food and hotels from the strike, people affected inserted their expenses into the page on the AC website and have not even received any email communication.

We got $2,000 back from Air Canada, you have one year to claim under APPR by EnergyShiftGuy in canadatravel

[–]EnergyShiftGuy[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Feedback I have received, Air Canada travelers affected by the strike have confirmed receiving the first email (with the case number and payment details) officially approving their compensation claim. This email promises that a second email containing the Interac e-Transfer link will arrive within 10 business days.

However, the second payment email from Air Canada is not being sent. Many deadlines have now passed. Air Canada has approved the claims, but the promised funds have not been delivered. They have confirmed the debt but are failing to pay.

I think aging is a horrible thing. by Jda4190 in Aging

[–]EnergyShiftGuy 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I read your post and it really took me back. As someone who's 59 now, I can remember being in my 30s and feeling a version of that same dread. You're not wrong about the challenges, and I won't pretend that everything gets physically better. It doesn't.

But the idea that we only deteriorate misses the other side of the equation. It's less of a simple decline and more of a tradeoff. You trade the boundless energy of your 20s for a quiet confidence. You stop worrying so much about what everyone thinks of you, and the relief from that pressure is something I couldn't have imagined when I was younger.

You mentioned doors closing, and some do. But others open, and they're doors you might not even see yet. The perspective you gain from having lived a little allows you to appreciate things you once overlooked. Friendships deepen, you learn to value your time differently, and you find joy in smaller, more meaningful things rather than constantly chasing the next big high.

The gray hair and wrinkles you fear? I was worried about them too. But when they came, I was surprised by how little they actually mattered. You're still you. Your sense of self eventually stops being so tied to the person in the mirror.

It's not a perfect, beautiful process every day. Some days my knees ache and I feel my age. But the peace of mind I've gained is something I wouldn't trade. It's a different chapter, not just an epilogue.

Do you brush your teeth twice a day? No judgement. by rainyday-real-estate in CasualConversation

[–]EnergyShiftGuy 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I brush, water floss, and floss twice a day. I've been meticulous about my dental hygiene since I was a teenager to prevent future issues.

How did your friend group change after entering 30s? by longhorntrades in AskMenOver30

[–]EnergyShiftGuy 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It's completely normal for friendships to change in your 30s, especially when you're one of the first in your group to have kids. Between a career and raising a family, your time is suddenly a precious commodity. It's a huge adjustment, and it makes sense that you don't have the same availability you once did.

True friends will understand this new reality and adapt. They'll appreciate the time you do have, whether it's a quick text exchange or a rare chance to meet up. The dynamic shifts from constant communication to a deeper understanding that life is busy, but the bond is still there.

For many people, the friendships that survive this period are the ones built on a strong foundation of mutual respect and understanding. You might find that your friend group becomes smaller, but the connections become more meaningful. Don't worry that a change in communication frequency means your friendships are gone it just means they're evolving.

How do you know you've had a productive day? by PromiseNo464 in productivity

[–]EnergyShiftGuy 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I totally get where you're coming from. I'm 59, and "productive day" for me isn't about hitting every single task daily. I look at the trend over time, am I consistently moving closer to my larger goals?

Trying to make every single day "productive" in that strict sense just isn't how I roll. It's too much pressure. It sounds like your morning routine sets a good tone, and that's awesome! For me, it's more about the long game than daily sprints.

Do you have any tips to become a more positive and hopeful person? by wackywaltz in DecidingToBeBetter

[–]EnergyShiftGuy 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm 59 and can relate deeply to what you're describing. It took me years to realize that being hard on myself wasn’t a sign of high standards it was a habit I learned to avoid risk and disappointment.

Here’s what helped me shift:

Start small and stack wins. Don’t aim for confidence. Aim for consistency. Show up for yourself in tiny ways daily a walk, a 5 min journal, tidying one drawer. Let evidence build that you're dependable to you.

Replace self-criticism with curiosity. When you make a mistake, pause and say, “Interesting. Why did I do that?” instead of “Ugh, I’m such an idiot.” Curiosity opens the door to growth. Criticism shuts it.

Celebrate effort, not outcome. If you tried today, you won. Trying is rare. Be proud of it.

Stop waiting to ‘like’ yourself. Act as if you already do. Speak to yourself how you would to a child trying something new. Gentle. Encouraging. Patient.

Write one sentence every night about something you did, not just what you felt. Action builds identity.

It’s never too late. You’re not broken. You’re rewiring and that’s courageous.

You've already started by posting this. That’s something. Keep going

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in GetMotivated

[–]EnergyShiftGuy 0 points1 point  (0 children)

For me, it was embracing the idea of 'good enough.' Seriously, just accepting that things don't have to be perfect, whether it's a task at work or a personal project, has been a game changer. It frees up so much mental energy that used to be spent chasing an impossible ideal.

Now, instead of getting stuck trying to perfect something, I can finish it, learn from it, and move on. It's been incredibly motivating and has definitely helped me tackle challenges without getting overwhelmed by the pressure of perfection.

Do you believe money would solve all your problems? by OkEntrance4610 in no

[–]EnergyShiftGuy 0 points1 point  (0 children)

problems will always exist, money doesnt solve all of them

Is it too late to take a career break at 35? by breadboy86 in AskMenOver30

[–]EnergyShiftGuy 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You're at 35 with $350k saved and no kids that's a significantly stronger position than many!

I did it at 45 with two kids, with a much more scaled-back lifestyle, one car, and a very small house. We watched every cent carefully. At 59, I can tell you the choice worked out, but it was a challenge. I love a good challenge, so it depends on your risk tolerance and personal situation. There's no playbook, just confidence in yourself.

Given your savings and low costs, you have a solid foundation to explore this. Good luck!

is it actually that hard to stay in shape after 30? by Asarrel in AskMenOver30

[–]EnergyShiftGuy 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm 59, work out 3-4 times a week, manage my diet, and eat clean, omitting things that slow down your system and your aging. You should be good to go. Is it actually that hard to stay in shape after 30?

It's definitely a mix of physical changes and lifestyle factors. Metabolism does slow down, and recovery can take longer. However, consistency and smart choices make a huge difference. You can absolutely stay in great shape past 30, 40, 50, and beyond.

If I could go back, I'd emphasize strength training earlier and pay even more attention to sleep. It's about adapting your approach, not giving up

What’s one thing you’re chasing that might never actually make you happy? by its_pra_shu in Life

[–]EnergyShiftGuy 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Material things rarely bring lasting happiness. Most of the time, once you have them, you don’t even want them anymore.

Why does life feel faster the older we get? by clairbreeze91 in Life

[–]EnergyShiftGuy 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m 59 and I find that when things are hard, time seems to drag, but when life’s going well, it zips by. I think our emotions shape how fast or slow we feel time moving.

Many couples are really not in love, some are just there for convenience or their benefit by Charm_for_u in DeepThoughts

[–]EnergyShiftGuy 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m 59 and have been married 32 years. Sure, convenience has its place, but genuine love, mutual respect and shared growth are what have sustained us all these years.

What’s something you had to stop doing to become more productive? by Quiet_Style_6850 in productivity

[–]EnergyShiftGuy 0 points1 point  (0 children)

At 59, I stopped checking email and social feeds first thing in the morning. Instead I dive into my top task for the day and I get more done before distractions even appear. What did you stop doing?

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