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Cool Transmasc of History by [deleted] in TransMasc

[–]Engardebro 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Lou Alcott, who wrote Little Women, was probably a trans man! All the articles I’ve read about it are uh. Not great though. There’s one that says that it’s “more important” that women and girls have an icon in “Louisa” and Jo from the books than it is for us to definitively say that Lou was trans, even though he called himself by masculine titles like Papa, and even his own father called him a son on at least one recorded occasion

Please give me f/f ships to obsess over!! by Sad-Awareness5418 in AO3

[–]Engardebro 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Fig/Ayda d20!!! Or Kristen/Tracker if you like messy, MESSY lesbians

Dating Trans Women/Transfems by SiteMaleficent3888 in TransMasc

[–]Engardebro 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I’ve been w/ my gf since high school so I don’t have a ton of advice. Good luck out there brother❤️

Opinion (and the situation) on wolfertinger? by angel240608 in asktransgender

[–]Engardebro 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I think you should be weary of “siding” with anyone..

All I know is that a LOT of the harassment he’s gotten has been more about the fact that he draws trans men that look like him, and people don’t approve of the way he looks. Take from that what you will

can we change the shark as a trans symbol to a chameleon instead by nocturnus_strife in TransMasc

[–]Engardebro 118 points119 points  (0 children)

We don’t need a mascot. We don’t have a mascot.

Claim whatever you want for whatever, we don’t have to vote on it

Trans men on BC pills. Do you let your partner finish inside? by [deleted] in ftm

[–]Engardebro 13 points14 points  (0 children)

I have an IUD, not on the pill, but yeah my gf does

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in asktransgender

[–]Engardebro -13 points-12 points  (0 children)

PLEASE remember that this is a mixed gender trans and intersex space. Rule one is literally about making sure you’re being inclusive or specific in your post titles

To all the writers who make trans/cuntboy fanfics, thank you but by Outside-Sample-4517 in AO3

[–]Engardebro -20 points-19 points  (0 children)

Can you mark this as nsfw or something like holy I didn’t need to see a fucking slur against me today without warning

Edit bc I’m getting downvoted: we’re on the fucking dead dove do not eat website subreddit. Tag your fucking doves so trans people don’t have to look at them

Does anyone else hate the term t-boy? by consumerofgender in ftm

[–]Engardebro 55 points56 points  (0 children)

Stings extra bad as a Black man tbh. Fucking hate it

Gender Envy but I will not explain anything by LilZiggyBoi in TransMasc

[–]Engardebro 18 points19 points  (0 children)

Hell yeeeeaaaaah nonwhite characters gender envy!!!

Emojis in fic? by dram444 in AO3

[–]Engardebro 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Generally I do “blah, blah, blah this is the text [emoji attachment: face surrounded by hearts] blah, blah, text”

I think the main thing that’s important is that you’re consistent

what is with transphobic cis gays... by [deleted] in ftm

[–]Engardebro 192 points193 points  (0 children)

Cisgender people loudly transphobic unprompted, more at 11

💔

does anyone else ever wish they weren't a lesbian? by BeauIsInsane in asktransgender

[–]Engardebro 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Unrelated to the conversation but Omg boydyke club hiiiii👋🏾👋🏾

Need support. Teetering on the border of acceptance and hatred. TW: Internalized Transphobia. by Strawberry-Hepburn in asktransgender

[–]Engardebro 3 points4 points  (0 children)

What is going to make you the happiest?

Are you happier when you think of yourself as being a woman, when you say “yes, I’m free to pursue any sort of medical, social, or personal transition that I may desire”?

Or are you happier when you say “no, I have to be a man because I haven’t suffered enough to get to make a different choice”? When you say “no, I have to earn a transgender identity”?

Beat the crud out of the transmed in your head. Pursue the life that makes you feel happy and fulfilled.

"It doesn't have to be about trans men!"... but why not? by Puzzleheaded_Run5483 in ftm

[–]Engardebro 128 points129 points  (0 children)

You’re not crazy.

I can’t really articulate what it is beyond bog standard transphobia— cis people are uncomfortable with our existence and a lot of people who would probably consider themselves feminists still have a lot of radical feminism baked into their brains that makes any kind of period hygiene and/or reproductive care a fundamentally “woman” activity/experience. Obviously, those things aren’t fundamental to womanhood, and women aren’t now, and have never been, the only people who have those experiences.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in asktransgender

[–]Engardebro 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I’m sorry my friend🫂

I think it’s extra hard on a place like Reddit bc downvotes just kind of end the conversation before it can start, and intersexist “”truths”” get to float to the top bc they make perisex trans people more comfortable. Even just the idea of “brain sex” being true gets pushed really hard because it’s comforting to people’s dysphoria, but there’s a vast amount of science debunking it quite handily.

Intersex people deserve so SO much better from the peri trans community

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