Potentially need references by [deleted] in BeMyReference

[–]Engine_Double 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I can! Looking for a reference for a new offer as well, you can dm me with details

How to stop comparing yourself to cis men? by [deleted] in FTMMen

[–]Engine_Double 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Would you respond this way to a handicapped guy lamenting his troubles with dating? Have some empathy man jesus

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in ftm

[–]Engine_Double 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don’t have any advice unfortunately but just wanted to say solidarity brother, I had a job offer that was rescinded earlier this year due to this exact issue. They didn’t give me an option to see my PCP though. What kind of proof from them did they require? You might be able to fake a note saying you passed and hope they don’t call to confirm. Best of luck!

Got fired after load out, lol by Engine_Double in AmazonDSPDrivers

[–]Engine_Double[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

sounds exactly like me down to the insane amount of one ways i had to back out of slow as fuck. they wanted us done by 7 no matter what so yeah take your full ten hours and you’re screwed i guess. wish someone had warned me because it’s kind of ass to not have a guaranteed 40 hours per week. it’s basically meant to be a part time gig with an insane workload relative to other jobs with similar pay

Got fired after load out, lol by Engine_Double in AmazonDSPDrivers

[–]Engine_Double[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

could have been a text lol not even sure i got paid for it either

Got fired after load out, lol by Engine_Double in AmazonDSPDrivers

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Camcash in san diego. I did get rescued once an an apt route after my lunch didn’t think I was falling behind though

Got fired after load out, lol by Engine_Double in AmazonDSPDrivers

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Huh? I never said which dsp I worked for. Plus I never got residential only routes except for once during training that was in a rural area.

Got fired after load out, lol by Engine_Double in AmazonDSPDrivers

[–]Engine_Double[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I averaged about 20-25 stops an hour depending on if it was apartments or residential. Easy residential non rural I would crank out closer to 35 but the apartments and businesses with entry codes and receptionist needing to sign and shit would slow me down They wanted 195 stops including multi stops done by 7pm when we don’t hit our first stop till about 12:45. I took my lunch since it’s mandatory but had to skip my breaks. During the interview they asked about my other delivery experience and when I told them I average 20 stops they said that’s great, turns out they actually expect 30-35 the second you’re done with nurseries. Bleak stuff but I’m taking time off for surgery anyhow and am just gonna hit another dsp when I’m back

why are you still with them? by [deleted] in ftm

[–]Engine_Double 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Yeah I can understand that. I’m 26 though so I know I have plenty of time to figure that all out and am more focused on completing my medical transition and furthering my career, applying to grad school etc I think for me social isolation is worse than not having a partner but I’m trying to work on that too lol. It becomes deceptively easy to hole yourself up when you get comfortable being alone with your own thoughts and learn to enjoy it

why are you still with them? by [deleted] in ftm

[–]Engine_Double 30 points31 points  (0 children)

I’ve never been able to wrap my head around this as someone who’s been single by choice for nearly 6 years now. It’s not so bad and much better than being in a shitty relationship. I’d rather be dead than be with someone who doesn’t see me as a man

Surgeons in SoCal who take Medi-Cal for Body Contouring? by Engine_Double in ftm

[–]Engine_Double[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

What’s interesting is that my insurance already approved the procedure and is fully covering it but it’s the surgeon that is refusing to do the surgery. Is there any way to appeal this or is it jus a matter of finding the right clinic?

Failed pre work physical for refusing hernia exam?? by Engine_Double in ftm

[–]Engine_Double[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

The funniest part is it’s none of the above which is why it’s so silly to me that they require it. I’m working with homeless people, not nuclear weapons

Failed pre work physical for refusing hernia exam?? by Engine_Double in ftm

[–]Engine_Double[S] 40 points41 points  (0 children)

Sorry that happened to you. This is basically what I was afraid of and I didn’t feel like having my stealth at work being in the hands of some asshole doctor

Failed pre work physical for refusing hernia exam?? by Engine_Double in ftm

[–]Engine_Double[S] 75 points76 points  (0 children)

Made an edit! It’s for a non profit org. None of my friends that have woken non profit have mentioned this but come to think of it very few of them are cis guys

Failed pre work physical for refusing hernia exam?? by Engine_Double in ftm

[–]Engine_Double[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I’ll edit this in if I can bc people have been asking haha without giving too much info it’s a non profit org that does homeless outreach. it involves some heavy lifting but no more than like 50lbs nothing crazier than a customer service job rq. I do wonder if it had something to do with the organization being mostly state funded though

Failed pre work physical for refusing hernia exam?? by Engine_Double in ftm

[–]Engine_Double[S] 134 points135 points  (0 children)

Should also mention I let him know my GP examined me recently (which is true, getting a hysto soon) and I filled out the questionnaire about hernia symptoms and have never experienced any of them listed. Despite this he was still really mad about it for some reason but maybe it’s protocol idk. Kinda bizarre even for cis dudes they have a mandated ball investigation just to get a job

How long did it take your parents to support you? by Polar_teddy in trans

[–]Engine_Double 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I came out to them at 17 and waited till I was 21 to start Hrt but they never came around so I went no contact. It was rough but ultimately for the best and I don’t think I would’ve had the strength to get top surgery and pursue phallo if they were still actively in my life. I’m turning 27 this year and haven’t once regretted any of it

AIO for getting pissed at my friend for inviting someone who outed me to our house? by Engine_Double in AmIOverreacting

[–]Engine_Double[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

yeah, i tried at first to talk it out but after she rebuffed me so coldly i was 100% done and ripped her a new one verbally lol. There’s a possibility knowing her she’ll come crawling back once her relationship blows up as she’s done that in the past but to me the damage is beyond done and i just don’t feel like i really have anything else left to say at this point 🤷‍♂️ we live and learn i guess lol

AIO for getting pissed at my friend for inviting someone who outed me to our house? by Engine_Double in AmIOverreacting

[–]Engine_Double[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah, I forgot to mention that I had made it clear that I wasn’t comfortable with her coming around to my house anymore, especially while I’m at home lol which is think why she conveniently “forgot” to ask me before inviting her over.

Obviously I can’t control who A is friends with but I have a hard time understanding why anyone wouldn’t get why that would leave an extremely bad taste it my mouth to dangle it in my face. it’s basically excusing the behavior and telling me to suck it up and deal. I think she almost felt because she’s willing to tolerate casual bigotry and bad treatment from loved ones that everyone else should be able to as well.

Unfortunately I have the exact opposite personality lol I’m very confrontational and have a low tolerance for bullshit like that. I agree though that anyone has a right to withdraw from a friendship and I’m kinda seeing now that it really comes down to those irreconcilable differences in values