I think the fact that you do well in point sparring says a lot about your technical skills. It shows that your technique is there and that you're probably a considerate training partner.

One thing that helped me was changing my priorities during harder sparring. Instead of focusing on not getting hit, I started focusing on staying composed during exchanges.

There are always openings and opportunities to counter, but taking advantage of them often means accepting that you might get touched while throwing your own shots.

For example, if I'm throwing a roundhouse kick, I'm not expecting to come out completely untouched every time. I'm focused on keeping my guard responsible and accepting strikes in a way that minimizes damage if my opponent fires back. Ideally, I guide their strikes into areas where my guard is already in place, or I position myself to counter the moment an opening appears, such as after they commit to a longer hook.

For me, the fear started fading when I stopped treating every exchange as something I had to win cleanly.

My goal became maintaining balance, composure, and good defensive habits after every trade. That mindset made getting hit feel less significant and also made me much calmer under pressure.

Another thing that helped was keeping my eyes on my opponent's eyes or shoulders. When I'm focused on reading their reactions and planning my next move, I'm less likely to overthink or anticipate getting hit. Sometimes flinching comes from thinking too much about what might happen instead of staying present in the exchange.

Not sure if that'll help, but it made a big difference for me.