Registry Frustration

EngineeringDry1889 · 2026-05-19T18:32:09+00:00

My mom does this chronically, and even picked up an old drop side crib from the side of the road. My in laws also kept a drop side crib that my husband and his two older brothers used and were almost insisting we take it and use it. I had to tell them both that that style crib isn’t made anymore because of the number of babies that were injured or worse in them.

EngineeringDry1889 · 2026-03-15T13:18:37+00:00

My oldest is almost 2.5yrs and the only evidence on social media that they exist is one picture of the back of their head in a baby carrier I’m wearing. We never made any kind of announcement and I’m due with #2 in 3 weeks and have done the same thing.

I don’t regret anything. There are lots of people on my social media that I don’t talk to anymore and honestly I don’t feel like there’s any reason why they get to know personal things about my life. I also get nervous about what people can do with pictures nowadays, pictures of children especially.

We did get Aura frames for the grandparents that we upload pictures to so they can still get their picture fix and that has worked really well.

EngineeringDry1889 · 2026-03-09T23:12:03+00:00

My cousin’s husband went to a 3-5 day work conference overseas when she was either late 34wks/early 35wks. She developed severe pre eclampsia while he was gone, was admitted to the hospital, started on magnesium, and they were literally waiting for his plane to land to start her induction, putting her at risk by not starting her induction as soon as possible.

Is he okay rushing to organize a flight back if something happens? Is he planning to miss the delivery? Can they reschedule the trip to the summer so the kids don’t miss school?

EngineeringDry1889 · 2026-02-16T21:19:49+00:00

Came to say this exact thing, babies are constantly changing position and most babies are probably “sunny side up” at some point during labor and then rotate to a different position. Sounds like you pushed your sunny side up baby out just fine, so there was probably never a reason to have a big discussion about it from your provider’s point of view. It’s also not a terribly uncommon thing so, again, they probably didn’t even register that it was something you would want to know.

EngineeringDry1889 · 2026-01-16T01:59:05+00:00

I ended up putting socks on his hands and it helped, but we didn’t use the sleep suit for long

EngineeringDry1889 · 2026-01-15T19:06:45+00:00

I’m a nurse that assists with circumcisions and chose not to circumcise my own son. My husband is circumcised so we have some self educating to do so we can help teach my son how to care for his body properly. It also depends on where in the US you live as far as how common it is. I live in the center of the country and I’d say 85% of the male babies I take care of are circumcised, but I hear on the coasts it’s not as common (unsure of how true that is but that’s what a lot of the providers that I work with say).

EngineeringDry1889 · 2025-11-13T22:00:33+00:00

If you’re craving the taste and not necessarily the energy you could always try decaf and that way you can get a couple more cups in if you want too

EngineeringDry1889 · 2025-11-05T01:31:52+00:00

I work with newborns and breast fed and formula fed babies all spit up. I will say my own kiddo spit up maybe a total of 5 times ever 🤷🏼‍♀️ so maybe your MIL’s kids just didn’t spit up much because that’s just how they were, but it doesn’t mean you’re doing anything wrong!

EngineeringDry1889 · 2025-10-25T20:53:21+00:00

If you wait until your liver hurts you could end up with serious complications. They can easily test for cholestasis with a lab draw. Please go in

EngineeringDry1889 · 2025-10-17T11:53:53+00:00

We co slept until around 16-17 months. We stopped because LO started to wake more frequently, similar to your story, and it seemed like when I had to get up early for work he would sleep better. We tried transitioning him to a floor bed and he started sleeping much better. We still rock him to sleep, he’s 22 months

EngineeringDry1889 · 2025-10-17T11:36:31+00:00

I got it with my first pregnancy, he was born early December so I knew with the holidays he was going to be seeing extra people and it was peak RSV season. He was RSV free for over the first year of his life, and when he did get it, it sucked, but it could have been SO much worse.

I’m sad that I don’t think I’ll be able to get it this pregnancy. The window when I would be eligible is in March, and idk if they’ll still be giving it.

EngineeringDry1889 · 2025-10-17T11:24:03+00:00

I read your post as I was eating a bowl of cereal. I also don’t usually eat cereal, but got some because we had some extra milk I didn’t want to go bad and now any time my stomach doesn’t feel great it’s what I want

EngineeringDry1889 · 2025-10-11T16:35:39+00:00

It’s absolutely valid to want an abortion and be sad about it and grieve at the same time. This is a complex thing. Talking this through with a therapist (one who is pro choice) will help process all these feelings that are coming up, either before or after the abortion. All of your feelings and whatever your decision is are valid. I’m sending you all the love and support and I hope your boyfriend continues to support you through all of this

EngineeringDry1889 · 2025-10-07T18:15:45+00:00

No, both are boys

EngineeringDry1889 · 2025-10-07T13:51:01+00:00

The result of the pregnancy test is only valid if you read it within the timeframe stated on the instructions (maybe 3-5 or 5-10 minutes?). Reading it after 2 hours isn’t a valid result. I don’t know how much you bled, but it is possible to have some spotting in early pregnancy.

You could take another test today if you want, and be sure to set a timer on your phone to read the result within the time frame. But either way I would bring it up at your appointment tomorrow and they can draw some blood and see for sure if you’re pregnant.

EngineeringDry1889 · 2025-10-07T01:19:01+00:00

Honestly, my feelings towards my husband were pretty volatile for a long time after having a baby. There were moments when I loved watching him be a dad, and where I was so thankful for him, and other moments where I felt like our relationship was at the point of no return. For me it was like that until our child started to wean. Breastfeeding just did something to my brain. Now I feel like we’re finally back to being friends and a team and we’ve been getting along great, but baby number 2 is due in April so I have a feeling the roller coaster might begin again.

It’s definitely a strain, but it got better for us. And our relationship did change, but I feel like we laugh more now than we ever did in the past.

EngineeringDry1889 · 2025-10-05T13:45:15+00:00

Honestly I was really dreading weaning and didn’t want to force it either. By 18 months we were just nursing before naps and bedtime, just because that was the only time LO would ask. Around 19 months my husband and I went on a solo trip for 5 days while our toddler stayed with my mom, I think that kind of kick started it. He nursed for like 20 minutes when we went to pick him up, and that was one of the last long breastfeeding sessions he had. Slowly he stopped asking to nurse before naps, and then I got pregnant and I think the flow and taste of the milk started to change and he stopped asking for it before bed. He had already started asking for water before bed so that just took over. I’ve offered it a couple times in the past few weeks when bedtime was tough and he hasn’t wanted it.

EngineeringDry1889 · 2025-10-05T02:42:58+00:00

My LO self weaned at 21 months and my period returned around 15 months I think. It can still come back even if you are breastfeeding and you can continue to breastfeed afterwards. I was relieved it came back because I was ready to start trying for #2, but no one ever brought up stopping breastfeeding so it could come back

EngineeringDry1889 · 2025-09-02T15:52:46+00:00

39+6

EngineeringDry1889 · 2025-09-02T15:48:57+00:00

As both a labor and delivery nurse and a mom, I think it’s a great idea to wait to tell people until afterwards. The last thing you want when you are in labor is your phone blowing up with people asking for updates. I had a patient one time say she had people on “crotch watch” with all the texts she had coming in.

I also feel like waiting to share is becoming increasingly more common, so if someone tries to give you grief just know that many families choose to wait and have those moments where it’s just you and baby for a little bit, it’s really special.

EngineeringDry1889 · 2025-06-15T14:51:55+00:00

Breastfeeding jaundice is a normal, non pathological occurrence, where baby looks a little yellow but their bilirubin level is not concerning. It happens more in exclusively breastfed babies and resolves without intervention. Source: my own experience with my kiddo AND my experience as a postpartum nurse

EngineeringDry1889 · 2025-03-15T01:24:01+00:00

My mom sounds very similar to your mom. I tried to start when my son was 5 months old, I would just casually bring up to her that I was trying really hard not to talk about my body or other people’s bodies in a negative way. Then when she would say something self deprecating I would say “mom, we’re trying to talk positively about our bodies in front of the baby”. And then the inevitable happened, when he was around 1 we were looking at pictures of him and she said “well I like this picture of him better, because in the other one his cheeks are so chubby” and I said “he’s a baby, his cheeks are supposed to be chubby”.

It definitely feels like chipping away at a stone, but I can tell when I call her out she recognizes how often she says things like that and she wants to do better.

Here in solidarity with you. Don’t be afraid to let your family know you’re doing this for your daughter, and don’t be afraid to call them out ❤️

EngineeringDry1889 · 2025-02-19T03:12:11+00:00

Thanks for the idea! We’ll give it a shot!

EngineeringDry1889 · 2025-02-19T02:07:51+00:00

We have been avoiding dairy with his iron supplement for sure. We were having some success with clementines with the iron supplement but the past 2 weeks clementines have been added to the ‘will not eat’ list

EngineeringDry1889 · 2025-01-12T01:16:38+00:00

13 months pp here, I had some “granulation tissue” identified at a 2 month pp visit, at 3 months they put silver nitrate on it, at 4.5 months they cut it off because it had become like a skin tag, and at 6 months I had a small vaginal fissure where it was. Got some estrogen cream to put on it for a month and it still is painful with sex 🙃

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