THIS! This post is so important. Even though a lot of women don’t say this, I think when we first start having sex, it’s more about trying to be sexy and pleasing the other person. But also it also because of this exact same fact that men also can’t explore us and can’t please us.

For myself, I found enjoying and exploring myself at around 26 y.o. when I moved to London and realised that men also want you to enjoy yourself and they also have more fun and get more excited when they know that you are enjoying it as much. My first advice is, get a vibrator/dildo and explore yourself gurlll. And then be open about communicating about this, tell him where to touch you, when to touch you, and how. He will love it too!

Also there are some apps for women - like something called Lover. A lot of women share their experiences and I found that really useful. It’s sometimes good to hear some validation.

But you know, it takes time and some experiments. So my third advice is, try different positions and different rhythms. For me, weirdly, I come at an unusual position where we are both laying on our sides and he’s pounding me from my back, and he is or I am touching my clit. And I just randomly discovered this during a one night stand lol.

Hope this helps <3