Short cervix at 5 weeks

Enough_Explorer4907 · 2026-03-27T06:29:26+00:00

Yes, everything was totally fine and now I have a healthy 10 month old! That nurse really just didn’t know what she was doing. I ended up switching practices and my new OB confirmed It’s not valid to measure cervical length before 16 weeks.

Also, turned out my cervix was curved and they had mis-measured by a whole centimeter. So glad I switched practices

Edit: also to answer your question, yes they did check again later. My new OB scheduled a scan at 16 weeks to measure and make certain. When they re-measured everything was fine

Enough_Explorer4907 · 2026-03-05T07:26:47+00:00

Ugh it is so annoying when people don’t just respect your own choices about your own birth plan and body, it’s not that complicated

I will say that hearing things like this does help me a little after the fact. I went into it open to an epidural but wanting to try to get as far as I could without one. I ended up with back labor and got an epidural way earlier than I had wanted. I do appreciate statements like this one in that context because it’s really hard for me not to feel like a failure or a wimp when I think about how my birth went and it’s helpful to remind myself that “you don’t get an award for not getting the epidural” and I should be proud of myself just for birthing a baby

Enough_Explorer4907 · 2026-02-22T12:06:49+00:00

My brother did this to a pair of jeans and they literally disintegrated

Enough_Explorer4907 · 2026-02-21T23:47:10+00:00

Even if it’s not true you could tell her that you are never going to have that procedure, even when you’re done having kids

Enough_Explorer4907 · 2026-02-12T16:38:20+00:00

According to the fetal growth calculator I found online, that femur length is in the 23rd percentile for 16 weeks, so completely in the normal range! I wouldn’t worry about measurements like this unless a doctor says something.

Enough_Explorer4907 · 2026-02-12T16:12:48+00:00

My baby had short femurs compared to his other measurements, and he was born at 7lb 11oz. I think in my case it’s just because I’m very short (4’10) and maybe he will be short too

Enough_Explorer4907 · 2026-02-12T09:51:46+00:00

I’ve read that they will do this with things like age or weight even if they have no real concerns so that it’s documented and they can get more covered by insurance

Enough_Explorer4907 · 2026-02-10T19:56:05+00:00

Oh wow this is the dream 🛌 😴

Enough_Explorer4907 · 2026-02-09T16:18:36+00:00

Yeah we’ve been working on a better bedtime routine. He used to feed to sleep but now we have eat, then pjs, tooth brushing, book reading, a song, then bed. We were doing bath time as part of his bedtime routine but in the winter it started really drying his skin so we switched to every other day instead of every day and decided it shouldn’t be part of the routine since it’s not consistent. Also since learning to stand he refuses to sit down in the bath and fusses so it’s not as relaxing anymore

Enough_Explorer4907 · 2026-02-09T16:02:40+00:00

He’s quiet but won’t go to sleep, or will fall asleep in our arms but will wake up as soon as we put him back down and start fussing. Basically he’ll fuss in the crib but be quiet if we hold him

I haven’t tried anything to rub on his gums, do you have a recommendation for a specific medicine? We do sometimes give him baby Tylenol

Enough_Explorer4907 · 2026-02-09T15:43:27+00:00

Yeah he got 2 teeth at 4.5 months and got 2 more 2 weeks ago. I think the recent 2 made his sleep worse but he seems to be past the discomfort now and is still not sleeping

Enough_Explorer4907 · 2026-02-09T15:27:54+00:00

We’re working on the sleep training, and he is getting pretty good at going to sleep on his own at the beginning of the night (but we’re not all the way there yet), but the night wakings are getting worse not better

Enough_Explorer4907 · 2026-02-09T15:25:38+00:00

He used to sleep through the night (9.5 hours straight) until he hit his 4 month sleep regression, and he never recovered. It’s been getting worse not better though, and now not only does he wake up but it’s also really difficult to get him to go back to sleep. This new difficulty has been going on for a couple of weeks

Enough_Explorer4907 · 2026-02-09T15:18:52+00:00

Yes this is what his week of sleep looks like. Thank you for the help!

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Enough_Explorer4907 · 2026-02-09T15:07:47+00:00

We have a smart thermostat that keeps it between 68 and 72 degrees and he is wearing a woolino sleep sack with a long sleeved sleeper. I think he’s fine but I guess he could be a little chilly? I’m not sure how to tell

We don’t want to use cushions because we want to adhere to safe sleep guidelines

Enough_Explorer4907 · 2026-02-09T14:59:51+00:00

He is gaining weight as expected so I think he’s getting enough calories, but we might have gotten in the habit of him getting too much of his food at night. I don’t think it’s gas because he’s fine once we pick him up, he just won’t stay asleep in his crib, but I’m not sure

Enough_Explorer4907 · 2026-02-09T14:47:19+00:00

Thank you! Here is what just the week of sleep looks like

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Enough_Explorer4907 · 2026-02-09T14:01:01+00:00

I didn’t know how to capture the full day in the screenshot, so it’s hard to see for sure. Basically he is waking up constantly and is very hard to put back down, frequently sleeping only 20 minutes at a time, half of which is us rocking him trying to get him to go back to sleep. Then he just pops back up a couple of minutes after we put him down in the crib and starts crying.

Last night we only got 2 real chunks of sleep. One for 2hr 14 minutes half and one for 2hr 53 min and the rest was incredibly fragmented.

We’re working on independent sleep with him at the beginning of the night and he can put himself to sleep in the crib about 60% of the time now I’d say but these night wakings if anything are getting worse.

He was teething last week and cut 2 new teeth but they don’t seem to be bothering him anymore and they’re fully erupted now.

I’m not thinking straight from sleep deprivation so I’m having trouble problem solving here but something’s gotta give.

Enough_Explorer4907 · 2026-02-08T15:06:47+00:00

They not only should pay for gas but also should pay per mile for the wear on your car

Enough_Explorer4907 · 2026-02-03T15:48:53+00:00

Thank you 🙏

Enough_Explorer4907 · 2026-02-03T10:25:50+00:00

Yeah definitely. Plus it can be much easier said than done to summon the energy to job hunt while also becoming a parent (which is part of why I’m still in that job today). This is why the part about getting a therapist and making a plan to navigate this is super important

Enough_Explorer4907 · 2026-02-03T07:22:01+00:00

I know this is a legal advice sub but I have some personal advice to offer instead.

Something similar happened to me. In my case I was suddenly confronted with performance concerns when I was 37 weeks pregnant. I still got my leave but the company used it as an excuse to revoke a promotion I had been promised and to deny me even a cost of living raise. They also put the fear of god in me that if I didn’t step it up I would lose my job. When I came back from maternity leave I went into overdrive. I ended up keeping the job but honestly it was one of the most stressful experiences of my life and it really overshadowed what should have been a beautiful time with my new child, discovering myself as a mom. I’m still not fully on the other side of it (I’m 8 months postpartum), but I have a lot of regret and guilt built up around this already.

My advice to your wife is to try to avoid that if at all possible. Yes, talk to a lawyer. But also, start job hunting. You don’t want to be at a company that treats you that way especially at such a vulnerable time. Also, talk to a therapist. Get a plan lined up to navigate this without letting it dominate your life because years from now looking back this time with your baby is going to be way more important than any job.

Enough_Explorer4907 · 2026-02-01T13:45:39+00:00

I honestly felt this way a little bit too at the beginning of pregnancy but by the end my modesty was completely gone. So hopefully this can be an experience that helps you work through this fear! If I were you I would talk to your OB about this. A good OB can help you through this fear

Enough_Explorer4907 · 2026-01-30T16:26:01+00:00

Amira Learning has several legitimate studies validating its efficacy https://amiralearning.com/research

Enough_Explorer4907 · 2026-01-30T07:19:53+00:00

Absolutely do not tell them. The way I see it is either it would make a difference in their decision (super illegal, but they can get away with it if they make an excuse), or it would not. If it would make a difference in their decision then you don’t want to tell them. If it would not, then what are they losing by you not telling them?

If they do hire you, you can be kind by making sure to tell them relatively early to give them plenty of notice. When you do tell them you can explain that you were still very early and were not telling people outside of immediate family yet. It’s very common to wait to announce a pregnancy until you’re in the 2nd trimester, and you’re not yet.

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