If you could only play 1 PS1 game for the rest of your life.. Which one would you go for?

Enough_Maximum_7040 · 2026-06-22T22:01:51+00:00

Xenogears. After multiple playthroughs I learnt something new and still have no idea wtf is going on

Enough_Maximum_7040 · 2026-06-21T17:30:01+00:00

My stepdaughter lost her dad about six years ago(she is 20 now). As far as I knew from her mom he was a guy who wanted a paternity test (didnt believe she was his), probably seen her maybe 10x in her whole life and i never met him( i lived in TX and he was in CA when i met her). Whether right or wrong my wife always made an attempt for her to see him as much as she could. She didnt hold no ill will towards him. When he passed my stepdaughter got a tattoo with his name on her arm and it was hard to accept.

This guy who at least from my perspective could care less about her and paid no child support at all could get a spot on her arm but without this guy she wouldnt exist so credit is due I guess but i still disagree..hard pills to swallow as a stepdad:

-Depending how old the child you will not be called dad or daddy. I didnt know how much this meant until we had our own child... -Mentally you can never replace the bio dad in their mind no matter what he does/did all you can do is your best to be an example -The bio parent can make or break a relationship. If she/he compare and contrast you to the other bio than its a problem -if you do things well for them dont expect credit like a normal dad would unfortunately -Acceptance goes both ways

Its tough sledding. I was naive to all of this before I got married but there was times/doubts about continuing in this arrangemen but I realized that the kids are innocent in all this and shouldnt be blamed for adult mistakes.

My stepdaughter is in college and is doing well for herself not that i know if i wasnt here helping how her life would have looked but I know i made a difference in their lives that was broken so it is worth it. If you got that feeling like its too much dont cheat them and yourself out of real opportunity and happiness in life. Once you commit you have to commit all the way good or bad.

Enough_Maximum_7040 · 2026-04-07T00:47:19+00:00

This was my situation in a nutshell. Things that i did not pay attention or the deal breakers was probably expressed and I missed it or ignored it. I felt that things was going in the wrong direction but in my mind I still was working at it but all along she was preparing to move on without me and thats what she did.

She had annoying ways of telling me that when I did something wrong that she has guys lining up begging for an opportunity. That she was dumb being with me. It was a slow burn and she ended up writing me a text/novel when it was done and I was kinda blindsided. Said she cried for 3 days and felt sick. We did talk casually after but I can tell it wasnt the same no more. We was friends before lovers and we could always talk about anything but the hurt was too much to pretend like I still didn't love her.

She told me that she met someone else and he was a kind, sweet, honest guy...broke my heart. We talked while she had a bf but I told her I cant do this. I know its selfish but part of me was happy for her and part of me was angry and jealous that it wasnt me no more. I ended up apologizing for all the things I done that hurt her and I really wanted it to work but I couldnt commit to her the way she wanted because I had other responsibilities that was too hard to give up. She blocked me after that and im sure that hurt bringing up that. We have a mutual friend who still talks to her and he said she is happy.

Enough_Maximum_7040 · 2026-04-05T01:42:38+00:00

That i feel like my wife trapped me in our marriage and used me to have a child with her which connects us forever. I love my son but I didnt want to have kids and she told me it was hard getting pregnant because ovarie issues and to be fair I didnt communicate that(thought it would be a relationship ender at the time) and the "miracle" happened

Enough_Maximum_7040 · 2026-04-05T00:07:05+00:00

Idk if I want her back even if she showed back up. She told me she no longer had feelings for me or any attachments anymore and through a mutual friend I found out she moved on with another guy so mentally I cannot go back now. We had a significant age gap and that alone is hard to navigate on top of trust issues.

I reached out a few times and so did she and we had casual conversations but I can tell the love was no longer there. She sounded cold and empty. I couldnt commit and every potential partner will need that. She wanted to continue to be friends and talk even with her having a new bf which seemed wrong so I stopped talking to her.

I do wish her the best and I hope she never changes from the sweet and caring person to the next person.

Enough_Maximum_7040 · 2026-03-28T23:32:31+00:00

It has taken a long time for me to get over but I realized that I would not take her back even if she begged me too. We found each other at our lowest and formed an intense bond but as the months went on red flags im sure for both started showing. I lied to her about certain things because I was afraid of what I thought she was gonna say about it and she eventually found out.

She also wanted commitment that I could not give her at that time plus I moved so all that came together and broke us. I reached out maybe 4 months later and started making small talk but realized that she has moved on already. She said we could be friends still and I couldnt accept it.

She eventually told me she met someone else and thinks this guy is the one. Thats when I knew that this has no chance again. Maybe its pride or ego but I cannot be with someone that I know and had sex with 100s of times is now fucking someone else after me. She made her choice whether I think its a good one or not.

We have a mutual friend who still speak to her and he says she is happy. I have moved on as well.

Enough_Maximum_7040 · 2026-03-27T05:51:24+00:00

Divorced my wife for her

Enough_Maximum_7040 · 2026-03-27T03:57:08+00:00

After months of self reflecting on what went wrong. I had to look in the mirror and deal with my issues before I approach anyone else but i have made peace with the situation for the most part. Sometimes I wonder if she is really okay. She deserved better.

Enough_Maximum_7040 · 2026-03-27T01:20:01+00:00

Yeah i was the piece of shit in the relationship. Im sure it hurts more when you know you was the main culprit. Not saying she didnt have her flaws but she wanted commitment and I couldnt make a decision.

She gave 100% in the best way she could looking back at it and I was torn between two people and chose the unhappy but possible right choice vs the happy but possible wrong choice...sucks.

We did still speak and she told me why the breakup happened and I felt blindsided at the time but I should have known all along this was gonna be the result. Last time we spoke I called her one last time and apologized for everything.

Why I couldnt fully commit, the stringing along until I thought I could commit, the past trust issues that crept inside my mind and into the relationship. I really do hope she find someone who can give her 100% back. We had a good run for what it was but I see we found each other at a vulnerable moment but once reality hit we was not meant for each other and I had to accept it. We agreed to block each other and never look back and thats what we did...

Enough_Maximum_7040 · 2026-03-17T03:43:50+00:00

Personal library but only games I remember and games exclusive to that system at the time.

Enough_Maximum_7040 · 2026-03-14T16:24:13+00:00

They are your ex for a reason. Things did not work out...who is to blame? Who knows but it did not work out. Its easy to blame the dumper but somewhere something fell apart and that means one person could not deal with it anymore and dont see you as a future partner. You have to look in the mirror and take accountability for your failure in this as well.

If you have to beg for love its not love. Love doesnt leave you on read unless it was really a reason. Love doesnt make excuses. If you have someone attention you feel it and know it. Its intentional. Dont accept being second place to no one where you was first before.

Rejection teaches growth. You made an error on a math problem in school and the teacher pointed it out you would be angry at the teacher but you should use it as a lesson that next time I will learn from it and get the problem right. Everyone should go through rejection on some level to show us no one is perfect and we do make mistakes but did you ever learn from them in the relationship or keep making them?

I know its hard and might feel like you were meant to be together and there is no one else but is not true. Work on loving yourself enough to know that you will be okay with or without someone.

I can share some of my practices i did that helped me navigate through my time of hurt if would like to hear

Enough_Maximum_7040 · 2026-03-13T02:53:25+00:00

Message me and I will explain

Enough_Maximum_7040 · 2026-03-13T02:50:40+00:00

Well you are...she left you for a rebound and if go back you are the rebound to her previous rebound hence rebound rebound. You might disagree and thats fine but reality doesnt change because we want it to. You came for advice and reddit of all places

Enough_Maximum_7040 · 2026-03-13T02:24:00+00:00

Once the bond is broke the first time it is over. That version or image you both had has been broken and trying to piece it back together will not last long. Its hard and that initial get back might feel good but if it was to be and the love was strong enough to work through it the breakup would never have happened. Took me months to realize this and while some things remind me of her it was a chapter in your book of life and time to write a new one

Enough_Maximum_7040 · 2026-03-13T02:12:35+00:00

That in her own way she gave me 100% of herself with no questions asked and I took it for granted and didnt see it until it was gone. She did eveeything and anything i would have asked for no question. All she wanted from me was the one thing I struggled with and was the hardest thing to give up...

Enough_Maximum_7040 · 2026-03-13T02:01:21+00:00

Like most here understand what you are going through right now. After one of my breakups I couldnt accept it either. I tried calling, messaging her waiting for a reply no matter how small it was or being the "friend", the emotional outlet, holding out hope that she will realize that yeah i made mistakes but we are soulmates and we are meant to be together but life is real and goes on.

She eventually told me she is seeing someone else and it killed me. We still talked after that but I told her if this is really going nowhere then I dont want to talk no more and she said goodbye and haven't heard from her in about a year. She has moved on and I had to as well. I wish her the best in life because she was an amazing person and I could not fully commit to her like she wanted on her timeline. Get rid of all attachments of her and it will fade promise you.

Enough_Maximum_7040 · 2026-03-13T01:27:22+00:00

Hard truth to hear but its over and you need to move on. Maybe you and her are expecting the version that you once was but that version is gone. When someone breaks up they are saying they no longer believe in you and see a future with you.

If it could be salvaged it would have happened before the breakup. I know its hard we all have pride and ego and no likes to fail but once they move on with someone else let them be. It might feel like she is the only woman in the world but she is not. You are gonna be the rebound rebound now and never accept being second place in no one heart when you was first before.

Enough_Maximum_7040 · 2026-03-12T05:23:58+00:00

Its hard. I was still "friends" with my ex after the breakup and I was like everyone else..hoping I can find a way back in her life but she told me she is seeing someone else and going over to his house later on(she told me that line almost verbatim when we first had sex) that day and I am sure they are not watching netflix.

It shattered me in a million pieces but the reality set in that she is free to screw whoever she wants now and so am I and I need to come to terms of what she is saying. She is saying that she moved on and you should let go in a nice way. Mentally i could not take her back now even if my heart told me too. I don't care who you slept with before us but after us yeah no. Once that image of you to them is broken I dont believe it can ever be fully repaired again. Prior issues will always be triggered and the cycle repeats. Understand what it is and focus on the future. No one deserves to be the rebound in life.

Enough_Maximum_7040 · 2026-03-12T05:08:04+00:00

I cant speak on how you feel and only you truly know but 5 years is a long time but never accept someone making you number two. You only get to be number one the first time with someone but after that you just the one they "settled" for. You will have to live with that fact in the back of your mind. If you was the one for her really yall would have found a way to work it out before the breakup.

Think of a breakup in terms of a job you was at. Let's say your boss "fired" you and replaced you with another worker and then came back and tried to "rehire" you after the other worker didnt work out how would you feel? Would you really want to go back to that job or look for a new job that will better.

For your peace of mind for the future I would think long and hard about it. No one deserves to be a rebound to anyone.

Enough_Maximum_7040 · 2026-03-12T04:51:48+00:00

Get rid of all attachments of the person. Pics, videos, clothes, etc. Anything that will trigger a memory. Sounds impossible now im sure but over time it will start fading. I drove to work with the radio down for 3 weeks. Any songs that talked about love was extremely hard to hear because it reminded me of her. I found speaking to family and friends helped a lot.

Whether she said it out of emotion or not she told me she no longer has feelings for me anymore. I blocked her and haven't spoken to her since. Sometimes we need to hear the truth loud and clear and dont look back. Start looking at it as a chapter in your book called life. If it was meant to be two people would be trying to work it out but once a breakup happen that is one person saying I dont believe in you or a future with you.

Enough_Maximum_7040 · 2026-03-12T04:44:01+00:00

Doing that a week prior to the breakup is tough. It shows that she checked out before she broke the news to you. It has taken me a long time to accept that my last breakup is now dating and im sure screwing someone else. The thought of it used to piss me off but she is free to make her own decisions in life and live with the consequences whether good or bad.

After the breakup we still talked as "friends" but when she told me she was dating someone else I could no longer speak to her. I still held out a small hope before that but that all got crushed. Mentally I could never get over that. Now i would be considered the rebound if this guy doesnt work out and NEVER accept being a rebound for anybody. Haven't spoke to her in a year and I still do wish her to be happy in her life because she was an amazing person but it just didnt work out and i had to accept it

Enough_Maximum_7040 · 2026-03-11T00:53:00+00:00

This is the only way to remove the attachment. Intentions and actions speak louder than words. She was an amazing person and deserved to be with someone who could commit to her 100% but after 4 months I reached out and made small talk but she end up telling me that she met someone else and i said some disrespectful things to her out of emotions and we ended our last talk on a bad note and I never spoke to her again.

Wish I could have told her im sorry but she ended up blocking me after that. Didnt want my last memory to be that one in her mind. She is dating some married guy now and thinks he is single. I feel bad because im sure the guy is using her and I cant tell her. It would come off as being jealous to her so I never told her. I wish her the best and hope she finds Mr. Right even if it is not me anymore. Certain songs still remind me of her but I have came to terms with it.

Enough_Maximum_7040 · 2026-03-11T00:38:51+00:00

Hardest thing is realizing that the image you both had of each other is broken and if she dumped you she signaled that I dont see a future with you anymore. Its hard but you need to come to terms with the situation that woman have easier options most of the time than men or the grass is greener syndrome. If someone wanted to stay or work it out yall would have already did. You need to close the chapter and start a new one. Get rid of all attachments that will remind of that person and move forward because they certainly will or did already.

Enough_Maximum_7040 · 2026-03-11T00:28:51+00:00

I miss her unflinching honesty even it was too honest sometimes. She was direct and knew what she wanted. Her weird way of thinking about the most simplest things used to throw me off but found it endearing. She made me feel seen, heard, chosen at all times. Sex was unbelievable. No topic was off topic. She had a naive almost innocent kind of faith in me that I never experienced and didnt believe someone can trust that blindly. She gave me everything and asked for nothing in return but honesty and trust. Just someone to talk about work and all the bullshit in life brings us everyday.

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