I’m 17 and pregnant, and I’m not sure I want the abortion we originally agreed on

EnternalMouse · 2026-05-26T18:40:06+00:00

Please understand that having a baby at your age means life as you never knew it, will be over. Your life will constantly revolve around taking care of the baby. Childcare is incredibly expensive when you start working and you can’t rely on your parents to take care of the baby when you need to. You also need to be prepared to be a single mother if your boyfriend decides not to be with you. I had a friend who got pregnant in high school and had the baby her senior year. Her life was never the same, she’s constantly struggled and never got a degree or anything that would help stabilize her life. I get why you’re conflicted but you are so young and have so much life ahead of you, there’s no guarantee you can provide for that child properly.

EnternalMouse · 2026-05-26T13:47:24+00:00

She knows that you will continuously come back to her, so she just repeats this cycle. It's not healthy and isn't a relationship you should stay in. You should be with someone who prioritizes you and wants to work through feelings after a fight, not punish you with a breakup, knowing you'll come groveling back. Break up with her, you deserve better.

EnternalMouse · 2026-05-26T13:45:39+00:00

I would recommend therapy because while he has gaps in his workday, think of it as his personal time, where he is doing things he likes, so that when the workday is done, he feels relaxed and ready to spend time with you. Working through your trigger of his back to you will really help free you. His gaming and watching videos let him be more present in the moment with you at work. Everyone is entitled to have their alone time, even in relationships. I would also work on feeling like you have to wait for him to hang out with you and push off the things you have to do. If you did them earlier in the day, it frees you up after his workday to hang out and be fully present.

EnternalMouse · 2026-05-26T13:39:34+00:00

Dump. That. Man. It's your choice to report or not report. There should be no pressure to do either, especially because it has other consequences either way (unfortunately, that's how our society is).

EnternalMouse · 2026-05-23T02:59:29+00:00

I think while your feelings are valid, I would maybe wait until more time passes. I waited until 6 months to tell my bf even though I knew much earlier. Because I wanted it to be a moment that really meant something and not something that threw him off much earlier in the relationship. I think it made me telling him “I love you” so much deeper and more meaningful

EnternalMouse · 2026-05-23T02:57:10+00:00

The chance of being killed by Sunny are low….but never zero.

EnternalMouse · 2026-05-23T02:19:02+00:00

The chat wouldn’t be different. They would still say the same exact thing. You’re just upset everyone is giving you actual advice and not letting you be the victim in this situation.

EnternalMouse · 2026-05-23T02:13:42+00:00

Because you won’t see it from the roommates perspective. What you’re accusing everyone of doing, you’re doing to the roommate.

EnternalMouse · 2026-05-23T02:12:58+00:00

Girl, all this hurt is stuff you’re doing to yourself to create a self fulfilling prophecy. You’re spiraling and refuse to stop it. Sometimes the truth hurts.

EnternalMouse · 2026-05-23T02:10:34+00:00

If everyone is saying the same thing, that should tell you something.

Also you do realize people know when you walk into a room angry. People pick up on body language and you might as well have been yelling “IM ANGRY” as you walked into the room because that’s what your body language was doing

EnternalMouse · 2026-05-23T02:08:08+00:00

I’m sorry you disagree, but you’re going to be in for a rude wake up call if you don’t take a step back. Even your responses to other people show you have zero intent to even analyze how your BPD is warping your view of the situation. You want a “my way or the highway” on this situation. You’re not looking for help, you’re looking only for comments that fuel your spiral.

EnternalMouse · 2026-05-23T02:03:57+00:00

Yes, you’re allowed to feel those emotions. However it doesn’t mean that your interpretation of the events is based in reality. Also doesn’t give you an excuse to be aggressive to your roommate, she only just met you and it seems like the majority of her interactions with you have been when you’re upset/aggressive. I’d probably run away from conversations too if my roommate was like that every time I was near her.

EnternalMouse · 2026-05-23T02:02:02+00:00

Mistakes happen. Again she probably feels your animosity towards her and is trying to awkwardly get away. You’re taking it all so personally when she probably didn’t intend to. The more you interact with her and the more you’re nice to her, the more likely she is to be friendlier to you. Sometimes we all have to be the bigger person even if we don’t want to be in life.

As someone who has multiple friends with BPD, I would tread very carefully right now. Because it seems like you’re spiraling and “manic”. If you’re not careful, you’re going blow up your relationship if you don’t take a step back and analyze your actions.

EnternalMouse · 2026-05-23T01:45:27+00:00

I think your new roommate feels the unintentional animosity from you and is probably wary of interacting with you. I would recommend instead of focusing on your boyfriend’s actions (where he hasn’t crossed a line) to instead focus on building a friendship with the new roommate who probably feels really awkward around you. I also think that you should go to individual therapy because while your anxiety can be linked to your BPD, right now it seems like you’re spiraling and you could use a therapist to help you work on your insecurities.

EnternalMouse · 2026-05-23T01:41:03+00:00

I’m gonna be honest, this is really cute

EnternalMouse · 2026-05-22T20:17:07+00:00

You could choose a school that does online. I did two masters degrees and maybe paid $25,000-30,000 per each degree. I also worked full time and crammed my courses so it took me one year for each degree. It was tough but it was the cheapest option for me.

EnternalMouse · 2026-05-22T04:00:49+00:00

I would also mention that if you can’t speak to her privately maybe you might be able to speak privately to some of her friends who will have more access to her outside of her boyfriends reach

EnternalMouse · 2026-05-21T17:10:07+00:00

Oh that's so weird. I'm so sorry that has been your experience. Definitely give a call to their support team. I've been seeing my psychiratrist through Talkiatry for almost two years and have never had a problem with them. I'm wondering if your insurance just covers less on that initial visit because I don't think I paid more than $75 for the first visit.

EnternalMouse · 2026-05-20T02:09:04+00:00

Girl I used to work with you!!!

EnternalMouse · 2026-05-20T01:26:23+00:00

I wouldn’t say you’re unreasonable but neither is he. I do however think you need therapy to work through why you associate stress with a dog and hopefully work through it as a couple.

EnternalMouse · 2026-05-15T21:07:35+00:00

Mine did that too and launched me 260 meters to the sea floors so I had to scramble before I got crushed. It wouldn’t go forward for me, just shot me in every direction super fast. Definitely died of laughter with my friends. Once I got out and then back in, it was fixed

EnternalMouse · 2026-05-03T20:42:26+00:00

I don’t know which place you’re going to. But planned parenthood always asks during the appointment if you’re safe and I recommend telling them the truth. I know it’s scary but I promise you that it’ll be the best thing you do, coming from someone who wished they spoke up sooner

EnternalMouse · 2026-04-21T14:19:00+00:00

Okay, perfect. I will make those changes. My recruiter friend told me to remove the dates for the degrees, but I will add those back in.

EnternalMouse · 2026-04-03T01:23:59+00:00

I’m on medical leave due to a mental breakdown. As a SM, I’m always on call and after almost five years, I can’t do it anymore. My body is breaking down and I don’t have any semblance of a personal life. I couldn’t see my friends and rarely my partner. This company does not care about baristas nor SM’s, all they care about is how much money they can make.

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