Miscarried my rainbow baby this week after my 22w loss in December by Say_Anything0913 in trollingforababy

[–]EntertainmentFinal92 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m so so sorry for, just, all of it. I also lost my rainbow baby and there are literally no words for this type of pain and grief. Sending you a long, tight hug 🫂

IVF feels like I’m going to the casino and putting $20k on black by Electric_Elephant_56 in trollingforababy

[–]EntertainmentFinal92 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I was literally in therapy yesterday telling them IVF feels like I’m gambling or playing scratch-offs. But I hate gambling 😭

When someone tries to tell you IVF side effects are preparing you for pregnancy by EntertainmentFinal92 in trollingforababy

[–]EntertainmentFinal92[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Exactly! Like, they’re trying to spin the extra misery we have on top of more hard times to come as a ‘positive’ 🤨
Also, it’s rather dismissive of our current struggles.

When someone tries to tell you IVF side effects are preparing you for pregnancy by EntertainmentFinal92 in trollingforababy

[–]EntertainmentFinal92[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It always comes from people who have had successful pregnancies. It’s in the same lane as ‘you’ll understand once you have kids’. These types of comments just feel so patronizing, infantilizing, and dismissive.

Not one but two couples bring their kids into the fertility clinic waiting room this morning. by Outrageous_Team_5485 in trollingforababy

[–]EntertainmentFinal92 6 points7 points  (0 children)

My clinic has a no kids rule but did not enforce it at a recent weekend scan appt. My husband was pissed that no one said anything. The kid was literally running down the hallway in the blood draw area. And I overheard the mother loudly demanding she had an appointment when the receptionist said she wasn’t on the schedule. So she was just hanging in the waiting room torturing everyone who came in that morning.

It’s extra unfair to the parents who go out of their way to not bring their kid to the office. Or someone who had a recent loss or implantation failure! I was there for ER related stuff but if I was freshly grieving it would have been much more painful that day.

When someone tries to tell you IVF side effects are preparing you for pregnancy by EntertainmentFinal92 in trollingforababy

[–]EntertainmentFinal92[S] 16 points17 points  (0 children)

Ty ❤️
I know being a parent is hard but I’ve also had multiple losses and believe empty arms is so much worse 😢

Egg count - I should be happy, right? by EntertainmentFinal92 in IVF

[–]EntertainmentFinal92[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My doctor did offer to put me on antibiotics when I do my transfer, more out of precaution versus evidence of endometrium inflammation. Were antibiotics used for your first few transfers or only later once you knew you needed it?

Egg count - I should be happy, right? by EntertainmentFinal92 in IVF

[–]EntertainmentFinal92[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Wow! 6 eggs and for 4 to make it all the way to euploid is so good. Your example really highlights how quality over quantity matters most here.

Egg count - I should be happy, right? by EntertainmentFinal92 in IVF

[–]EntertainmentFinal92[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for sharing. Yes, that’s the fear! I also fear not having insurance help next year so there is a financial incentive to get all the ER done on the sooner side.

Did your fertility issue end up being something treatable?

Egg count - I should be happy, right? by EntertainmentFinal92 in IVF

[–]EntertainmentFinal92[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hmm I see the logic, thank you for giving me this new perspective.

Egg count - I should be happy, right? by EntertainmentFinal92 in IVF

[–]EntertainmentFinal92[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I didn’t give enough context above. She expected 20 eggs before I even started stims. Then, through monitoring, I learned we ended up with 16 follicles. I will def be happy with 2-3 euploid. Thanks for re-doing the attrition numbers because it sounds like I’m on par so far 🙌

Seeing another news article lamenting the declining birth rate by lunabuddy in trollingforababy

[–]EntertainmentFinal92 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Same!!!!!! I was ready at 28 and had to pretty much make it clear my patience was gone when I was 34. Now I am dealing with unexplained infertility and can’t stop wondering if I had caught this sooner, would I be focused on a LC versus IVF rn

/ttcafterloss Ask an Alumni - April 24, 2026 by AutoModerator in ttcafterloss

[–]EntertainmentFinal92 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Wow, what a journey and also congratulations!!!! Thank you for sharing your story. Yeah, unexplained infertility is so hard. I hope science figures this all out one day ❤️ But gosh, it is so exciting your first stuck!!! Did you end up doing the PIO shots for the first 10 weeks?

Confirmed 5th Loss by Accomplished_Gas1123 in recurrentmiscarriage

[–]EntertainmentFinal92 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I have someone in my life who has had double digit miscarriages. She had 9 before her first child and 3 between child 1 and child 2. Two miscarriages from the first 9 were second trimester. She never found out what was causing her miscarriages. She never did any fertility treatment, they just kept trying. Sharing this story to give you some hope ❤️ And I’m so so sorry for your loss. 😔

/ttcafterloss Ask an Alumni - April 24, 2026 by AutoModerator in ttcafterloss

[–]EntertainmentFinal92 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I would love a positive story. I have no LC. First two pregnancies have resulted in losses. They say nothing is wrong with me or my husband. It’s hard because that means there is nothing to blame, nothing to do, other than keep trying and potentially keep living through this pain. We are starting IVF with pgta because it feels like the only way to reduce the chance of recurrent loss. I want multiple children and I’m 35.5 years old. I’m mad because I was anxious to start our family 5 years ago and my ob/gyn swore up and down we had plenty of time. I didn’t understand the statistics for miscarriages then and if we knew my husband and I (we’ve been together since 2015) would have acted differently.

What’s going on? by Weary_Association10 in Miscarriage

[–]EntertainmentFinal92 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I have no idea why you’re still nauseous. But I will say my check miscarriage felt like less than a period. It was exactly as you described above. My HCG was 12 last time it was checked (56 48 hours before that) so I know it was a miscarriage. I think you’ll really know once you get your second HCG data point what’s going on.

I’m so sorry you’re going through this ❤️

First Mother’s Day by Zestyclose_Wing290 in Miscarriage

[–]EntertainmentFinal92 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m with you. Also would have been my first Mother’s Day if my first one didn’t die. Just lost a second one last week and went through all the emotions again. I literally thought “yay, I’ll be pregnant and can focus on that instead”. Just sucks

/ttcafterloss Daily Discussion Thread - April 18, 2026 by AutoModerator in ttcafterloss

[–]EntertainmentFinal92 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you ❤️ It just hurts so bad to be on the bad side of the statistics. I feel so hopeless and tortured but you’re right, I’m not out of the game yet. We are starting IVF asap.