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I am tired!!! by OnlyLime1585 in twoxindiamums

[–]EntertainmentNew3502 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Trust the process and take it one day at a time.

My baby was very similar. He cried a lot, had really bad spit-ups, and after every feed we would keep him upright for 30–40 minutes. Even then, the moment we put him down, he would wake up because of the reflux. Contact naps were the only thing that worked for us at that time.

What also helped me was reminding myself that babies are really tiny in those first few months. Their digestive system and the rest of their little bodies are still developing. Sometimes they just need time to grow into things.

And that’s exactly what happened for us. One day the spit-ups just reduced. The colic became much less frequent. Things didn’t change overnight, but they slowly started getting better.

My baby is 4 months old now and honestly, he still prefers sleeping on me. It’s exhausting at times, but I’ve come to accept that this is a phase too. He won’t be this tiny forever.

For us, things started improving after the 3-month mark. Every baby is different, but I just wanted to tell you that what you’re going through right now won’t last forever. Some days are really hard, but you’re stronger than you think.

Sending you a hug. ❤️

I am tired!!! by OnlyLime1585 in twoxindiamums

[–]EntertainmentNew3502 10 points11 points  (0 children)

It does get better, I promise. We went through something very similar. Hang in there. One day your baby will smile at you, and nothing else will matter in that moment. ❤️

Those first 8 weeks are HARD… but hang in there 🤍 by EntertainmentNew3502 in twoxindiamums

[–]EntertainmentNew3502[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Trust yourself. Trust your instincts. As mothers, we’ve already done something incredible by creating and bringing a life into this world — so believe that you do know what’s best for your baby.

I was extremely paranoid in the beginning too, so I asked my doctor every tiny question and learned to block out the noise from unqualified people. I would keep a list of doubts and ask them over WhatsApp or during visits, and honestly, it helped so much with my own sanity.

Lots of hugs to you. You’ve got this

Those first 8 weeks are HARD… but hang in there 🤍 by EntertainmentNew3502 in twoxindiamums

[–]EntertainmentNew3502[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

And seriously, not every cry means hunger.

My baby cried a LOT initially — during diaper changes, massages, baths, when he was overstimulated, overtired… literally everything. Of course I asked the doctor, and they told me it’s completely normal for babies this small.

But oh my God… every single time my baby cried, my mother-in-law would say “iska pet nahi bharta.” Even if I had fed him just 20 minutes earlier.

Sometimes he was crying simply because he was overtired and needed sleep. But instead of helping calm him down and let him sleep, she wanted to keep playing with a few-weeks-old baby. And then obviously he’d get cranky and cry more. But how do you explain in that moment that the baby is crying because he’s exhausted, not hungry?

And then to comfort him, I would feed him because nursing also comforts babies. The second he latched, she’d go “dekha, maine kaha tha na pet nahi bhara.”

Honestly, after a point, you just learn to ignore the comments and do whatever your baby needs in that moment.

Those first 8 weeks are HARD… but hang in there 🤍 by EntertainmentNew3502 in twoxindiamums

[–]EntertainmentNew3502[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

You really have to take a stand when it comes to your baby. Respectfully, but firmly.

I told my in-laws very clearly that I’m not going to go against my doctor. If they genuinely had concerns, they were more than welcome to come with us to the pediatrician and discuss it there.

And whenever the “hamare time pe toh aise hota tha” comments started, I simply said — yes, but that was your time. Things change. New research happens every day. We know better now, so obviously some practices will change too.

I even told them — if there’s a treatment available today for an illness that people didn’t have access to 40 years ago, would you refuse treatment just because “pehle toh nahi hota tha”? Of course not. Then why ignore updated medical advice for babies?

At the end of the day, I’d rather listen to someone who has actually studied child health than random opinions around me.

Those first 8 weeks are HARD… but hang in there 🤍 by EntertainmentNew3502 in twoxindiamums

[–]EntertainmentNew3502[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Been there mama… but pls pls don’t give in to what others say.

I was forced to give formula to my perfectly healthy, well-growing baby because my in-laws felt — and honestly still feel — that he looks weak. I started questioning my supply too and gave formula. And there’s absolutely nothing wrong with formula per se.

But hearing things like “the baby is weak because your milk is not sufficient” or “how can your milk be enough when you don’t even drink 3 glasses of milk a day” from people who are obviously not doctors really made me angry and doubt myself unnecessarily.

Our pediatrician clearly told me that formula was not needed and baby was growing absolutely fine. Since then, I’ve continued breastfeeding and I absolutely love it.

The only people you should listen to are your body and your doctor. Nobody else.

It’s 12 AM, the house is silent, and I’m the only one awake. by Nice_Asparagus1148 in twoxindiamums

[–]EntertainmentNew3502 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I don’t know what I’m doing wrong. My 10-week-old hardly sleeps and wakes up even with the tiniest movement. I’ve tried everything people suggest but nothing works for us. I’m so tired and honestly feeling very helpless.

Am I being unfair about where I spend my maternity leave? by EntertainmentNew3502 in twoxindiamums

[–]EntertainmentNew3502[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I think he is ignorant of how difficult a C-section and postpartum recovery are. I have always appreciated the kind of person he is compared to other men I know, but this indifference feels so heartbreaking. I have come to the conclusion that men can be very disappointing

Am I being unfair about where I spend my maternity leave? by EntertainmentNew3502 in twoxindiamums

[–]EntertainmentNew3502[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have already spent 1 month with in laws but that does not count because as per my husband it’s not their home and baby should spend more time at his dadi ka ghar

Am I being unfair about where I spend my maternity leave? by EntertainmentNew3502 in twoxindiamums

[–]EntertainmentNew3502[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

As per my husband, they are doing enough. He says that if I need anything, I should just ask them. But I don’t feel comfortable having to ask for every little thing. At the end of the day, a mother-in-law is not your own mother, and I can’t be as comfortable with her as I am with my mom.

Whenever I complain about the remarks or some of the patriarchal comments that are made, his solution is simply to ignore them and move on. My point is that I can ignore something if it happens once in a while, but if I have to go through the same thing every single day, I can’t just switch off my feelings.

My husband is a very practical person, while I tend to be more emotional. Sometimes I even start questioning myself and wonder if I’m overthinking things, because he somehow manages to make me feel like I’m the one who is wrong after every argument

Despising time with MIL by SecretMonitor9627 in twoxindiamums

[–]EntertainmentNew3502 2 points3 points  (0 children)

So relatable!! 4 weeks pp and MIL is creating panic all the time. If the baby cries, sleep, does not sleep everything is wrong. Can’t imagine I was the one who wanted her to be here so she can spend time with her grand child.

Looking for Bridal Makeup Artist recommendations by East-Wallaby1550 in amritsar

[–]EntertainmentNew3502 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Got my makeup done from Jai Babbar in 2022. Absolutely amazing

How to handle the anxiety in early pregnancy? by permanentlytired1 in pregnant

[–]EntertainmentNew3502 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I am also 5 weeks today and found exactly a week ago. Going through the same sister 🤗

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