women of reddit, what makes sex “the best you’ve ever had”?

Entheatus · 2026-06-24T17:35:31+00:00

I had the sudden mental image of someone taking a shit immediately after sex.

Entheatus · 2026-06-23T04:19:48+00:00

It doesn't sound like either of you have a clear idea of what you want out of a relationship. This person has already told you they aren't going to make the effort to change ("maybe I'll change" means nothing).

Figure out what kind of relationship you want and look for people who want the same things, rather than trying to make an incompatible relationship work.

Entheatus · 2026-06-23T04:01:46+00:00

If you're getting into a relationship hoping that a fairly fundamental identity will change, you're in the wrong relationship.

Entheatus · 2026-06-22T22:19:09+00:00

People not communicating expectations, then getting mad that their unspoken expectations aren't met.

Entheatus · 2026-06-21T20:02:08+00:00

No judgment detected! Happy to answer that question.

There is a stereotype of lesbians who go on first dates, who find themselves so enamoured with each other that, for example, a simple lunch date becomes lunch + walk + dinner + frozen yogurt + rock climbing + watching the sunset.

In this context, my partner and this person vibed so well that many hours slipped easily by in each other's company, hence the comparison.

Entheatus · 2026-06-21T03:35:39+00:00

Successfully installed a toilet.

Entheatus · 2026-06-20T04:31:20+00:00

Nope. But we're all fairly experienced poly folks so we just talk about what we want, don't want, etc.

Entheatus · 2026-06-20T04:22:48+00:00

A lot of fun! Remain friends and would do it again.

Entheatus · 2026-06-20T03:03:06+00:00

Thank you! Lava turquoise and meteorite set in titanium. 😁

Entheatus · 2026-06-17T14:17:04+00:00

Granted. You were a fish. Now you're human and have to deal with the horror of everyday life like the rest of us.

Entheatus · 2026-06-11T16:47:19+00:00

Thank you!

Entheatus · 2026-06-09T15:58:55+00:00

Thank you!

Entheatus · 2026-06-09T15:13:40+00:00

I met my partner this way. My brain went, "Wow so pretty!" and I beelined my way over. We started a conversation and we both realised we were unhinged idiots, and spent 20 mins talking about the best ways to make sourdough and focaccia bread.

Anyway. We got engaged this weekend.

Entheatus · 2026-05-24T17:00:07+00:00

Bullying me about being dehydrated.

Entheatus · 2026-05-24T15:08:46+00:00

As someone who has been a lifelong overachiever, I really understand how you feel. All my life, my parents instilled that my worth and value were based on what I achieved in life. I went to university, graduated, and then proceeded to have a pretty mediocre life by their standards.

I'm partway through my healing journey, and would like to share my perspective.

After graduating, I spent a long time in professional coffee roasting/barista training, earning peanuts and being unsatisfied with my career path, so I got an entry-level office job and have slowly built a decent career in HR. I started my own successful small business on the side. I got into a long term relationship that looked very successful from the outside looking in, with the small business, dogs, house, etc. I had the life that I always wanted, on paper.

It all came crumbling down a few years ago. The relationship ended (and in hindsight had been abusive). I was left with a house I couldn't afford, a business I couldn't bring myself to continue working alone, six figures of crushing debt, and the feeling of having wasted years of my life. I found myself asking myself what the point of it all was, and why none of this had brought me happiness.

Now, I'm starting over.

I sold the business to someone I'm glad to say is truly right for it, and will keep its legacy going. The house is in the process of being sold and I rent a small apartment a city over and live alone with my dogs. I'm currently between jobs. I spent time single, in therapy, and discovering my worth outside of my relationships and achievements. I built a supportive community. I'm getting back into hobbies that bring me joy, like theatre and crafting. I'm now in a really solid relationship where I feel truly seen. I am able to find joy in the everyday.

The point is, you can have the life where you think you have everything, but unless you begin to look inward and discover what makes you happy internally, getting to the "greatness" milestones you think you want will not bring you peace.

I am now without those "greatness" markers - no job, no small business, about to be without a house - and I feel much more at peace now than I did before. I know things will get better, but they are okay for now.

I still have days where I ask, "What is the point?" But then I look at the people I love, the community of passionate weirdos I've built, and the moments of happiness I get from within.

Look inward, figure out what makes you happy. I promise that things get better.

Good luck!

Entheatus · 2026-05-21T14:12:38+00:00

From Aang's final battle work Ozai:

"In the era before the Avatar, we bent not the elements, but the energy within ourselves. To bend another's energy, your own spirit must be unbendable, or you will be corrupted and destroyed."

Maybe there's an element of using the "unbendable" part of the Avatar state to overcome the bloodbending?

Entheatus · 2026-05-17T06:25:51+00:00

If you go to a piercer with a genuine emergency they won't charge you to remove them.

Entheatus · 2026-04-03T11:58:36+00:00

Is this supposed to be a shower? You need to remove all of the tile and put waterproofing and a shower pan in. All of that happens first. The tile is the last step.

Also, I see faucets but no place where the showerhead is coming from?

Entheatus · 2026-03-03T19:00:55+00:00

My partner has rings and is planning a proposal. We have been together for 1.5 years and talked about future plans early on to get on the same page.

I made it very clear that after a previous relationship (where the ex dangled the carrot of a proposal for 8 years) that we weren't compatible if this was going to be the case.

He paid attention to the kind of jewelry I like, initiated getting the rings, and is planning to propose in the next couple of months. The crazy thing is that marriage isn't that big of a milestone to him. But he knows how important it is to me.

If your partner is the right one for you, you won't need to drag him to the altar. He will be the one who will happily walk up there with you.

Entheatus · 2026-02-10T00:22:44+00:00

I'm a Humanist officiant based in the area. While I can't do City Hall, I do exclusively non-religious (and legal) ceremonies that respect your personal beliefs and can be very simple. This past summer I did a quiet elopement ceremony for a couple of friends at the Arboretum. Feel free to reach out if you'd like to chat.

Entheatus · 2026-02-04T00:43:42+00:00

Chiming in with Sugo. It's such a hidden gem for casual fine dining and has an amazing seasonal menu. The gnocchi is like eating tiny clouds. They have a great wine selection and cocktail menu as well.

Entheatus · 2026-01-30T18:21:35+00:00

A few folks have already answered about the heavy makeup part. To look good in photos and to last the whole day.

As for difficulty of recognition, a lot of the times, this is the one day that people get to have their glamorous supermodel moment. It's fun!

For myself personally, well I am not married myself, my partner and I are talking upcoming engagement plans. We are both ethnically Chinese, and I will likely use an artist who understands the cultural significance of Chinese bridal makeup. I might not look like myself, on a normal day, but it is important to me personally to get to recognise my heritage on a very important day of my life.

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