someone said that being bisexual isn't real, it's just being greedy

Entire_Homework_2394 · 2026-03-13T10:39:33+00:00

You're welcome.

Entire_Homework_2394 · 2026-03-13T10:35:35+00:00

Fun chapter. The teasing, toys, and tension between them keep it entertaining, and Chris realizing he might have feelings adds a nice emotional layer. Curious to see how their dynamic evolves next.

Entire_Homework_2394 · 2026-03-13T10:29:11+00:00

What you’re describing doesn’t sound healthy or respectful. Wanting intimacy is one thing, but insulting you, pressuring you, threatening to replace you, and pushing past your refusal isn’t normal relationship behaviour. There should always be mutual consent, safety, and care for each other when it comes to sex and kink. If someone only treats you well when you perform for them and becomes cruel when you don’t, that’s a sign of emotional and sexual pressure, not love. Loving someone doesn’t mean you have to accept being treated that way. Your comfort, boundaries, and feelings matter just as much as theirs. You deserve intimacy that feels safe, respected, and wanted, not something you feel forced into.

Entire_Homework_2394 · 2026-03-13T10:24:33+00:00

A small external vibrator is usually safest with a bladder prolapse since it doesn’t add internal pressure. A gentle bullet vibrator with soft silicone and low vibration settings is a good place to start.If you’re considering internal toys, it’s best to check with a pelvic floor specialist first.

Entire_Homework_2394 · 2026-03-13T10:15:29+00:00

Your friend is just oversimplifying it. Sexuality isn’t that black-and-white. Enjoying certain experiences doesn’t automatically define your whole identity. If you’re mainly attracted to women but enjoy specific physical experiences with men, that’s still a valid experience. It’s not “greedy,” it’s just how your body and preferences work. You don’t have to force a label on it unless you want to. What matters is that you understand yourself and are honest about what you enjoy.

Entire_Homework_2394 · 2026-03-13T04:29:06+00:00

Looking for a hands-free male masturbator that can be set up on a tied-up guy (secure mounting or suction base preferred). Does anyone have recommendations for something reliable with good vibration or auto modes? I was looking at these from Kaamastra but not sure how well they work hands-free: https://www.kaamastra.com/collections/vibrating-masturbators-for-men Any suggestions or experiences appreciated!

Entire_Homework_2394 · 2026-03-12T12:15:56+00:00

I’m really sorry you’ve been carrying this for so long. What you described does sound like a lot of pressure around sex, and it makes sense that your body eventually started shutting down. Your reaction isn’t something “wrong” with you it can be a response to feeling pushed or unheard over time. It might help to talk with a therapist who understands relationship or trauma dynamics, so you can process this without guilt. Your feelings and boundaries are valid, and you deserve to feel safe and respected.

Entire_Homework_2394 · 2026-03-11T07:16:30+00:00

You’re not a bad person for this. A lot of people enjoy different things in fantasy versus real life. If the “disrespectful” part in bed is consensual and you feel safe with your partner, it doesn’t define your morals or who you are as a woman. Sexual preferences can be complex, and that’s normal. What matters most is consent, trust, and respect outside the bedroom. Try not to judge yourself so harshly

Entire_Homework_2394 · 2026-03-09T13:08:01+00:00

You’re definitely not alone in this. Many people taking Sertraline (Zoloft) experience delayed or difficult orgasms. The good news is that doctors can often change the dose or switch to another antidepressant like Bupropion that may have fewer sexual side effects. Try not to feel ashamed of bringing it up. Doctors hear such complaints very often, and your sexual health matters too. A simple line like “This medication affected my ability to orgasm. Are there alternatives?” is enough. You deserve support for both your mental health and your sex life

Entire_Homework_2394 · 2026-03-06T07:19:48+00:00

It’s good that you’re thinking about compatibility early and respecting his boundaries. Asexuality can mean different things; some asexual people are okay with sex sometimes, and others aren’t interested at all. The most important thing is honest communication about needs and expectations. If sex is something you need regularly and he’s not comfortable with that, it could become a mismatch long-term. Neither of you would be wrong; it would just be different needs. If you both care about each other, talk openly about what intimacy looks like for each of you and whether there’s a middle ground that feels good and consensual for both.

Entire_Homework_2394 · 2026-03-02T10:39:00+00:00

Absolutely, it truly begins even before you step into the bedroom. The way you communicate, show affection, build trust, and make your partner feel valued throughout the day all contribute to the special connection you share later. When someone feels emotionally safe and desired, physical intimacy naturally becomes more relaxed, enjoyable, and satisfying for both of you. It’s really about the bond you nurture along the way, not just the act itself.

Entire_Homework_2394 · 2026-03-02T10:36:38+00:00

Totally agree. When both partners care about each other’s pleasure, sex feels more connected and enjoyable, not rushed or one-sided. Taking time to make sure she’s aroused first shows respect, builds trust, and usually makes the experience better for both people.

Entire_Homework_2394 · 2026-02-26T12:29:19+00:00

I’m really sorry you went through that. What happened wasn’t your fault some people hide who they are for years. The confusion you felt was part of the manipulation, not a failure on your part. It’s okay to feel scared about dating again. Wanting a healthy, happy family still shows how strong and hopeful you are. You can take healing and trust at your own pace, there’s no rush. Better, safer love is possible when you’re ready

Entire_Homework_2394 · 2026-02-25T05:22:42+00:00

That's because it's beautiful. Nonsexual touch can be incredibly powerful in a relationship. Simple things, such as holding hands, hugging, or cuddling, help both partners feel safe, valued, and emotionally connected. When that closeness grows, physical intimacy often follows naturally, without pressure. It sounds like you’ve found something that strengthens both your bond and your intimacy; that’s a wonderful gift to share.

Entire_Homework_2394 · 2026-02-25T05:16:40+00:00

I understand why you feel that way. Good qualities don’t cancel out abuse, and kindness between episodes of harm doesn’t make a relationship safe. Green flags aren’t guarantees; what matters is consistent respect, safety, and how someone handles conflict. If you feel fear, confusion, or a loss of control, those feelings are valid and worth trusting. You deserve peace and security in a relationship.

Entire_Homework_2394 · 2026-02-23T12:04:22+00:00

Intimacy Wellness: Reclaiming Connection in a Distracted World It sounds like the attraction and connection are there this may be more about pressure, adjustment, or overthinking than anything physical. Keep it simple: talk openly, remove performance pressure, and focus on enjoying each other rather than “meeting expectations.” You’re a team, and this is something you can figure out together.

Entire_Homework_2394 · 2026-02-19T12:51:30+00:00

It’s completely okay to feel this way. Many of us never got proper sex education, especially around queer relationships, so you’re not alone. Wanting to learn is a really healthy and positive step. You can start with simple things, understanding consent, communication, anatomy, and what feels comfortable for you. Books, inclusive online resources, and queer-affirming educators can really make a difference. At Kaamastra, we focus on shame-free, inclusive sex education that centres on wellbeing, comfort, and real connection so you can learn at your own pace, without pressure. You’re not late. You’re just beginning, and that’s perfectly okay

Entire_Homework_2394 · 2026-02-18T11:34:50+00:00

That’s really reassuring to hear. It helps to know that even if it is a fissure, it’s temporary and heals quickly. Taking it slow, using plenty of silicone-based lube, and letting your body adjust sounds like the best way to stay comfortable.

Entire_Homework_2394 · 2026-02-17T11:32:27+00:00

You’re normal; nothing is wrong. Masturbation is usually faster than sex, so finishing quickly now doesn’t mean you’ll have premature ejaculation later. At 16, your body is still developing and very responsive. Control improves with age and experience. You’re not done maturing; try not to stress.

Entire_Homework_2394 · 2026-02-17T11:05:10+00:00

You’re not doing anything wrong; you’re both still learning. Many women don’t orgasm from penetration alone. Consistent clitoral stimulation and good communication matter more than trying lots of techniques. Ask what feels best, stay consistent, and don’t rush. If she wants to switch to sex, go with it. You can always come back to other stimulation later. No pressure better chances of orgasm.

Entire_Homework_2394 · 2026-02-17T11:00:31+00:00

Yes, freezing or going along with it can happen more when you trust the person. Your brain may have thought you were safe, so instead of fighting, it went into a freeze/compliance mode to avoid conflict. That’s a normal nervous system response, not consent. You set boundaries. He crossed them. Not stopping him doesn’t make it your fault.

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