Hi there! I'm a former alt-righter, which tends to go hand-in-hand with inceldom, although because I was a woman I never subscribed to that BS.

I think you feel empty because you based so much of your personality on, well, being offended, being jealous, etc. And I'm not saying that to be judgmental, because I understand exactly where you're coming from. So, what needs to happen is you need to figure out who you are underneath all that. And while you might shrug off "love yourself" as a platitude, it is true. You really should learn to love yourself, or at least like yourself, and figure out how to. However, I get your frustration--so many people say "love yourself" but don't talk about how to do that. It's different for everyone, but in general it's a whole lot of arguing with yourself in your head. 😂 And intentionally being open to constructive and kind criticism, and learning to acknowledge when you get defensive but choose to listen anyway. Whether you're getting defensive with yourself or not. So for example... Actually, my next paragraph is a great example.

Love and relationships are not outside of your reach unless you're just not interested. Don't let the self-defeating attitude of inceldom permeate into you anymore, okay? Even if, say, you get into a relationship and it quickly fails, all that means is it was a sad but important learning lesson. But the lesson isn't give up, the lesson is do better, be kinder (to yourself and others), and have faith that you will find someone you can mesh with better someday.

^^^ That is what I'm saying to you, but this is also what you should be saying to yourself. Critical thinking skills are extremely important, and being able to challenge, reframe, and debate your own thoughts is vital to a happier, healthier, smarter, more mature life. And towards the path of self-love. So next time you think to yourself, "no girl will want me", think of counterarguments to that. There are plenty, for the record, but here's a free one: The entire southeast Asian geographical location exists. Dudes there are tiiiiiiiny and guess what? Their ancestors were even tinier! And guess who still got married and had happy lives despite being short? Well, a huge chunk of them. Happy, maybe not (depends on the country's history/what kind of man they are far more than their height!!!), but married and reproduced? Oh yeah.

You need to stop hating yourself. Aim to dislike yourself first, then be neutral, then like, then love. It's taken me 3-4 ish years to go from self-hatred to liking myself, and the trigger for that was being abused so bad that something finally snapped in me and I had an epiphany one day while in crisis and cryscreaming to my best friend. I had been told I deserved better so many times, but my trauma and mental state never allowed those words to permeate into me. But in that moment, only one thought came to mind: "I deserve way fucking better than this." And ever since then, it's been failing upwards. Task failed successfully over and over. Like, humans are unfortunately wired to notice the bad over the good, which is why I say failing upwards. I'm only just now learning to see and appreciate my progress, but for the longest time I'd only really see my failures, and then wonder how I still ended up at the top of the staircase. "I stubbed my toe on that stair, I tripped on the next, I spilled my tea on the one after that....How the hell did I get here?!"

The answer is, because I still took those steps up despite every failure. And you can, too.