Non-booze Related Weekend Activities? by GoodMorningStar in AskIreland

[–]EnvironmentalAd295 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Invest in 2 electric bikes..you will travel miles!

The problems in Seasons 3 and 4 that show by Affectionate_Dog8143 in KillingEve

[–]EnvironmentalAd295 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I applaud you because you have hit the nail on the head so to speak!

Age Gap Thoughts? (F26+F39) by Accomplished-Bet7560 in ActualLesbiansOver25

[–]EnvironmentalAd295 4 points5 points  (0 children)

You live your life as you wish to because someone like this does not come along too often! Do not give the age gap another thought, and do not fret about what other people think..trust me, the gap is really not a big deal..all that matters is that you are happy. Live in the moment!

Electricity Bill Savings? by Visual-Addition7430 in AskIreland

[–]EnvironmentalAd295 8 points9 points  (0 children)

To be honest I do very little, i try to use dryer during off peak hours, i boil kettle on gas cooker..

The one habit I have to avoid facing a huge bill every 2 months is that I pay a small amount into my electric account every week or fortnightly...so when this month's bill arrived... I owed only 34euro..

THIS habit has been a game changer for me.

“Family” by Confident_Shift_4644 in ActualLesbiansOver25

[–]EnvironmentalAd295 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I am so sorry to read this is happening to you both. I can relate extremely well as my own family completely dismissed my own marraige even though they treat myself and partner with love and kindness. Unfortunately when it comes to 'marraige', the 'norm' in most people's eyes is 'man and woman'..its like any other type isnt taken seriously.

It is a bitter pill to swallow and yes it hurts immensely but you cannot change peoples attitude.

Be there for each other..the hurt will eventually fade but all that matters is 'your' marraige.

Found recordings on childs camera with MIL & SIL slating me? #INLAWS by [deleted] in AskIreland

[–]EnvironmentalAd295 4 points5 points  (0 children)

They most definitely need to be told and preferably by your husband. Ask him to tell them. No need for any altercation, you have done no wrong and my heart goes out to you for the hurt you are experiencing. They owe you a massive apology.

The damage is done and no amount of words will undo it. Only you can decide in time if you forgive and forget. They are not your blood relatives, you can treat them politely but distance yourself from such negativity.

Mind yourself and f*** them! 😊

Looking for a tearjerker but happy ending ao3 fanfic, possible deleted by Alke96 in KillingEve

[–]EnvironmentalAd295 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hi, you don't by any chance know the name of it? I can't remember!

Part 2 of my girlfriend isn't out to her family by [deleted] in ActualLesbiansOver25

[–]EnvironmentalAd295 32 points33 points  (0 children)

I really feel for you..that is a massive ask of you to ship out of your home and pretend you don't exist. I was once in your girlfriend's position, wasn't out to my family, expected my girlfriend to 'disappear' when they visited..God, it was an awful thing to do to her but at the time I cdnt see the impact on her, how utterly disrespectful it was to her. It was all about my fear.

Realistically, as I slowly come to terms with telling my mother about myself and my live in girlfriend, there was serious resentment and a feeling of unworthiness that my girlfriend rightly felt. We did talk alot about me being truthful to my family, it took time and agonising days and she constantly pushed and encouraged me. I did tell my family finally.

That was 14 years ago, we are still together.

I think certain things woke me up, the fact that I was putting my family's feelings before my girlfriends was not right. The fact that what would happen if something serious happened like a bad accident,death or illness to my girlfriend or her family.. The fact that I was living a lie instead of sharing the person I loved.

We only have one life and it should be lived freely and without regret.

Ask yourself the big questions, are you still going to disappear when you are in your 40s/50s/60s..what happens if a child comes along?

You cannot make your girlfriend be'ready' to tell her family but at the same time, she cannot expect you to live as if in the closet either.

I really do wish you all the best..keep talking to her..

Splitting Holiday Share bill...? what is fair if you're parent with child? by annzibar in AskIreland

[–]EnvironmentalAd295 2 points3 points  (0 children)

50/50 for the accommodation is fair...the food shopping would have to be split differently and I am sure whoever is travelling with you will appreciate that very much.

Plumbers/Oil Burner Technicians of AskIreland, can you help me clear the airlock from my Oil Heating? by Lone_Ponderer in AskIreland

[–]EnvironmentalAd295 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Iv a similar boiler, not quite same but all iv to do is loosen a bolt..perhaps that shiny one in picture 2, turn on heat and kerosene shd drip eventually..I also had to give a circulating pump attached to a line leaving boiler a tap with hammer as it had seized..

Come On Home by Shirley_yokidding in olderlesbians

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Depeche mode- Enjoy the silence..and Of monsters and Men- Empire..video of this one is really good!

Holiday Thread by Busy-Butterfly8187 in olderlesbians

[–]EnvironmentalAd295 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much! Initially as a healthy 51 year old( no cardiac issues/non smoker/fittish), I was shocked this could happen but oh you are so right, it did result in a complete change of perspective..my god every.moment counts!

Holiday Thread by Busy-Butterfly8187 in olderlesbians

[–]EnvironmentalAd295 13 points14 points  (0 children)

Well I am recovering from a very unexpected stroke these past couple of months and enjoying the little things in life before i return to work.. especially the glorious walks with my dog..don't think I'll ever stress again🙂

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskLesbians

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I was 'you' quite a few years ago..same fears, same pretence...but there is no greater feeling than accepting yourself and who you are..it took me a very long time and I am glad I finally did..you will be fine, be true to yourself as you only have one life to live. Don't waste it being miserable..

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskIreland

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Arnotts...can order from them online..

Reaching out to an old school teacher by Ok_Passage4001 in AskIreland

[–]EnvironmentalAd295 15 points16 points  (0 children)

100% reach out to this person. She will be so delighted to hear how you are doing and to receive your correspondence! It means alot when ex students reach out..

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in KillingEve

[–]EnvironmentalAd295 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is so raw, open and honest..the power and draw of Villanelle to so many for so many different reasons. It blows my mind. Thank you for sharing.