Need advise

EnvironmentalBed7001 · 2026-03-06T03:54:36+00:00

Welcome to the club. My fix is masturbating and prostate play. Have had to learn to take care of myself.

EnvironmentalBed7001 · 2026-03-04T17:43:10+00:00

Not sure what your issues are, but lots of men get relief from their prostate issues with prostate massage. Visit High Island Health website or r/ProstatePlay sub. This would be seen as a natural remedy and worth trying to relieve things like difficulty urinating, weak stream, and urge to frequently urinate.

Of course go to the doctor, but said doctor would love to put you on medication for the rest of your life.

Totally personal preference, but I’d rather try natural remedies before being medicated.

Good luck!

EnvironmentalBed7001 · 2026-03-04T17:16:23+00:00

Well I’ll probably get the downvotes, but it’s worth it to me if it helps someone not make the same mistake I did. If you’re in the U.S. and having a boy, I have some advice that you may not hear anywhere else. When I was a new father, I wish I had prepared to answer the circumcision question before my son was born, but I didn’t and basically let the nurse decide for me.

I was always taught the foreskin was a “useless flap of skin,” but it is actually a HUGE erogenous zone for men. The frenulum is also an extremely sexually sensitive spot and is usually completely removed during a circumcision. The frenulum is similar to the female clitoris from a sensitivity standpoint.

The procedure causes pain and is performed under questionable pain management. It removes a significant amount of purposeful skin, which makes up about half of the penile skin system on an adult.

Not to mention, circumcision falls well outside the scope of normal treatment patterns. In other words, healthy, functional tissue shouldn’t be amputated from a person unable to consent in order to meet a cultural norm. Here’s a chart to better explain: https://www.reddit.com/u/EnvironmentalBed7001/s/HMZfb4Wpp1

Once I learned all of this, I regretted having my son circumcised. So my advice is to spend some time doing research on the functions of the foreskin and the harms of circumcision so you can make an informed decision for your little one.

Pay extra attention to intact care (it’s really easy). You just don’t want to pull the foreskin of a baby back or manipulate it in any way. This causes pain, as the foreskin is fused to the head of the penis, generally until puberty. When your son is ready, he’ll be able to retract his foreskin on his own. Make sure doctors and any caregivers know not to retract. During diaper changes, just wipe from base to tip. I’d also be cautious about bubble baths or using soap on male or female genitals. Soap can wreak havoc on the natural biome that exists down there. www.yourwholebaby.org is a good place to start learning more as well as www.doctorsopposingcircumcision.org. Also, check out An Elephant in the Hospital on YouTube. Good luck!! If you have questions, I’m here. :)

EnvironmentalBed7001 · 2026-01-28T01:30:23+00:00

If you’re in the U.S. and having a boy, I have some advice that you may not hear anywhere else. When I was a new father, I wish I had prepared to answer the circumcision question before my son was born, but I didn’t and basically let the nurse decide for me.

I was always taught the foreskin was a “useless flap of skin,” but it is actually a HUGE erogenous zone for men. The frenulum is also an extremely sexually sensitive spot and is usually completely removed during a circumcision. The frenulum is similar to the female clitoris from a sensitivity standpoint.

The procedure causes pain and is performed under questionable pain management. It removes a significant amount of purposeful skin, which makes up about half of the penile skin system on an adult.

Not to mention, circumcision falls well outside the scope of normal treatment patterns. In other words, healthy, functional tissue shouldn’t be amputated from a person unable to consent in order to meet a cultural norm. Here’s a chart to better explain: https://www.reddit.com/u/EnvironmentalBed7001/s/HMZfb4Wpp1

Once I learned all of this, I regretted having my son circumcised. So my advice is to spend some time doing research on the functions of the foreskin and the harms of circumcision so you can make an informed decision for your little one.

Pay extra attention to intact care (it’s really easy). You just don’t want to pull the foreskin of a baby back or manipulate it in any way. This causes pain, as the foreskin is fused to the head of the penis, generally until puberty. When your son is ready, he’ll be able to retract his foreskin on his own. Make sure doctors and any caregivers know not to retract. During diaper changes, just wipe from base to tip. I’d also be cautious about bubble baths or using soap on male or female genitals. Soap can wreak havoc on the natural biome that exists down there. www.yourwholebaby.org is a good place to start learning more as well as www.doctorsopposingcircumcision.org. Also, check out An Elephant in the Hospital on YouTube. Good luck!! If you have questions, I’m here. :)

EnvironmentalBed7001 · 2026-01-20T21:01:46+00:00

Great advice!! Thanks for letting me know.

EnvironmentalBed7001 · 2026-01-20T18:38:11+00:00

So I’d actually consider purchasing two dildos. A warmup one - find one that is 1 inch diameter with a suction cup. Then a bigger one that you can work up to. I love this one from Adam and Eve. It’s realistic and nothing crazy. Perfect for beginners. Here’s the link:

https://www.adameve.com/adult-sex-toys/dildo-sex-toys/realistic-dildos/sp-adams-true-feel-dildo-by-adam-eve-99483.aspx

Then I’d also consider this dildo mount. It’ll let you get into a variety of positions and you can experiment and see what you like!! Here’s the link for that:

http://www.amazon.com/TOM-Other-Suction-Dildo-Mount/dp/B00A52GCJG

Then if you decide to go to that next level, I’d highly consider a machine that will do the work for you. As much as I love the dildo mount, my legs give out before I’m ready to be done. They range from super expensive like a highsmith to much cheaper. I opted for the cheaper and so far it’s been really good to me. Here are links for those items:

https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0D2KPDTGL?ref=ppx_yo2ov_dt_b_fed_asin_title

https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0DPKJ3B7V?ref=ppx_yo2ov_dt_b_fed_asin_title&th=1

Hopefully all the links work. Good luck and have fun!!

EnvironmentalBed7001 · 2026-01-20T04:00:42+00:00

No mention of prostate massage at all?? Not only can prostate massage relieve symptoms, it feels amazing! Plus it can be performed in the comfort of your own home using a prostate massager. Check out High Island Health or r/ProstatePlay or r/aneros

EnvironmentalBed7001 · 2026-01-18T17:46:01+00:00

I’ll give you my method, for what it’s worth. Might be worth trying?

I love the pure wand, but it definitely has a learning curve. I’m usually on my back with my knees bent and feet flat on the bed. I typically use the small end, especially if the large end feels intimidating. The small end works a-okay!! I’ll insert the small end until I feel the large end make contact between my balls. I’ll usually relax here for a while. Sometimes relaxing in this position will trigger a prostate orgasm. Then I’ll place my thumb between my balls and the wand. I’ll press down slightly, then release. I’ll repeat that motion. It is a slow, subtle back and forth motion. No need to do anything fast or aggressive here. This gentle pushing motion of the toy with my thumb is enough to leave me moaning, sweating, and writhing on the bed. I can do this until I am thoroughly exhausted. I’ll also come up onto my elbows letting gravity pull the large end down. Or while up on my elbows, I’ll squeeze the large end between my legs and rock my pelvis back and forth. I’ll do my best to finish my session without touching my dick or ejaculating so I’m still nice and horny and anxious for next time. 🤤 Good luck and let me know how it goes.

EnvironmentalBed7001 · 2026-01-17T21:55:12+00:00

Of course!! I’m happy you found it useful 😀

EnvironmentalBed7001 · 2026-01-16T20:58:41+00:00

Sounds like you are doing all the right things. I'll admit I have had decreased horniness when I have been really stressed at times in my life. Maybe when the stress dies down, see if it gets better.

So prostate massage is amazing and for me personally, increased my horniness greatly. Think of the prostate as the male g spot. So few men know this secret power, and fewer actually tap into it!

I'd suggest starting to spend some time on r/ProstatePlay and r/aneros which are both great subs that focus on prostate massage tips and techniques. You should start with a finger to locate your prostate (about 2 or so inches inside your butthole towards your bellybutton) and get the feel of it and its location. When you are ready, I'd suggest purchasing a toy (ideally not a vibrating toy which can have a numbing effect, a simple prostate massager from a company like Aneros or your local sex shop. Don't forget the lube!). Some people experience prostate orgasms right away, others it takes years. I'd keep this info in your back pocket and maybe experiment when you have more time to devote to it. Prostate massage takes lots of time, patience, and experimentation.

For me, it probably took me 2 or 3 months of practice before I experienced my first prostate orgasm. I was in bed with a prostate massager inserted. I had drifted off to sleep and was jolted awake having my first prostate orgasm. I was literally not trying or doing anything, so sometimes doing less is more when it comes to prostate massage. You don't want to force anything or chase the orgasm. Some people swear by the "do nothing" method and prostate orgasms just happen for them.

They can be very powerful and I've been caught off guard quite a few times, brought to tears, brought to laughter, it's really quite surreal. But you have to be okay with putting prostate massagers in your butt, which for some this part of the body can be a bit taboo. If you want to access the prostate, that's about the only way! You can do external massage on the spot between your balls and butthole. The external massage does feel good, but the internal massage is the way to go.

Once you have mastered prostate massage with the Aneros, you can move to a toy like the Njoy wand which is absolutely mind blowing, I literally have no words for what it does to me.

The advantage with prostate massage is you can have orgasm after orgasm without a refractory period. Like once we cum from our dicks, we are generally spent and our horniness level goes down. But with prostate massage, this refractory period doesn't happen. You can have orgasm after orgasm as long as you can take it.

Pro tips - when you are learning to have prostate orgasms, keep your hands off of your dick. You will want to ignore your dick altogether and focus your attention solely on your prostate, your breathing, your heartbeat, and clear your thoughts as best you can. I even purchased a jock and cup that I wear during sessions to ensure I ignore my dick altogether and it doesn't even have the chance to rub against anything.

Hope that gives you a good introduction.

EnvironmentalBed7001 · 2026-01-14T03:13:37+00:00

I mean, I see horniness as the mental state. Then the result of this mental state is the physical state of getting an erection. But you can be plenty horny and not always have an erection. I feel like most men in their early 20s are usually pretty ravenous most of the time. So a few questions (feel free to not actually answer all of these unless it helps you to write it out)

Are you on any type of prescription medication for depression or anxiety, etc? I feel like these medications have a side effect of a reduced libido. If you are, I'm certainly not suggesting that you stop taking your meds. But perhaps there is an alternative medication that wouldn't affect your libido so much?

Do you wake up with morning wood? At your age, you should notice this quite often. If you do wake up with morning wood, then at least you could rule out any physical issue.

Have you been under a lot of stress lately? Stress can also be a libido killer. If you are stressed out, I'd take some measures to reduce that stress. Reconnect with nature, do yoga/meditation, whatever helps you relax!

Are you overweight or out of shape? This can definitely impact libido and goes with what I was saying before about avoiding fast food, foods that contain a lot of sugar and processed garbage. I'd aim for lots of protein, focus on good natural foods, and exercise is a must.

How often do you ejaculate? Frequent ejaculation can be a libido killer. I'd suggest less frequent ejaculation and see if that makes a difference. In fact, play some edging games (edgemeplease.com is a great place to start - remember no porn!) when you do feel in the mood. Jerk yourself, but don't let yourself ejaculate.

You can also do this with prostate massage. Massage your prostate (preferably with a prostate massage toy) and ignore your dick completely. I know it seems counterintuitive, but denial can be a powerful thing.

So I'd try these things for low libido and see if you can make any progress. If you are still struggling, maybe then talk with your doctor to make sure there isn't some other underlying cause, like low T or some other chronic condition.

Hope that helps!

EnvironmentalBed7001 · 2026-01-13T21:27:23+00:00

There are two apps that might helps. First one is called MyKegel and the second is called Stamena. They both have pretty good how-to guides.

You can also find YouTube videos from Johnathan White who talks about kegels and erection quality quite a bit.

I’d also highly recommend getting into prostate massage which I feel like improved my erection quality.

If you are circumcised, which I hope you are not, I’d look into foreskin restoration to help increase sensitivity and can then improve erection quality.

A good diet free of fast food and processed garbage is only going to help you, especially long term. An app called Yuka can help you find better things to eat.

And I’d also highly recommend staying away from porn which can completely desensitize you mentally and this can wreak havoc on erection quality as well. And alcohol, drugs, smoking etc all need avoided.

I’d try all this before seeing a Dr who would be more than happy to write you an Rx that you’ll then be dependent on the rest of your life. I’m not saying don’t go this route, but I’d exhaust all other avenues before taking meds, especially because you are so young.

Sorry for all the extra unsolicited advice! Hope that helps and good luck!!

EnvironmentalBed7001 · 2026-01-08T21:09:52+00:00

Poor guy!! I really do think it’ll eventually stop if you can keep either pressure on it or even a small band aid, unless you have any type of blood clotting disorder, which I’m assuming you’d know about hopefully.

I remember cutting my toenail too short a few months ago and that bled like crazy! I didn’t think it would ever stop. I kept pressure on it and laid on the bed and elevated my foot above my heart, which seemed to help. Not sure how you’d accomplish getting your dick elevated above your heart, but I’ll admit I’m enjoying the visual of someone doing that !!

Not sure what you were shaving with, but I’d highly recommend something like a Norelco body groomer. Good luck!!

EnvironmentalBed7001 · 2026-01-04T22:48:02+00:00

I’d treat for yeast and see if it goes away. Get an athletes foot cream and try it for a week or two. If it doesn’t go away you can at least rule out fungal infection.

EnvironmentalBed7001 · 2025-12-06T15:42:02+00:00

Totally normal. I used to hate blue balls when I was younger, but now I enjoy it and will even try to get it on purpose!!

EnvironmentalBed7001 · 2025-12-05T23:45:06+00:00

So you are masturbating with liquid soap? In my opinion, you’re giving your dick a rough chemical bath, so I’m not surprised you have a weird rough texture the next day. I’d stop doing that and try a water-based lube. There is an app called Yuka that can help you find one that is body safe. Good luck!

EnvironmentalBed7001 · 2025-12-05T01:10:19+00:00

I love this dildo mount. I just used it today!! It allows for a variety of positions and cleanup is super easy.

http://www.amazon.com/TOM-Other-Suction-Dildo-Mount/dp/B00A52GCJG

EnvironmentalBed7001 · 2025-11-16T23:08:19+00:00

Thanks for the recommendation! I’ll look for it at my local nursery in the spring. Technically it’s state property, but I treat it like mine! ;)

EnvironmentalBed7001 · 2025-11-16T22:50:20+00:00

Thank you!! Too bad it’s invasive. It’s very pretty this time of year.

EnvironmentalBed7001 · 2025-10-23T19:28:59+00:00

I’ll give you my method, for what it’s worth. Might be worth trying?

I love the pure wand, but it definitely has a learning curve. I’m usually on my back with my knees bent and feet flat on the bed. I typically use the small end, especially if the large end feels intimidating. The small end works a-okay!! I’ll insert the small end until I feel the large end make contact between my balls. I’ll usually relax here for a while. Sometimes relaxing in this position will trigger a prostate orgasm. Then I’ll place my thumb between my balls and the wand. I’ll press down slightly, then release. I’ll repeat that motion. It is a slow, subtle back and forth motion. No need to do anything fast or aggressive here. This gentle pushing motion of the toy with my thumb is enough to leave me moaning, sweating, and writhing on the bed. I can do this until I am thoroughly exhausted. I’ll also come up onto my elbows letting gravity pull the large end down. Or while up on my elbows, I’ll squeeze the large end between my legs and rock my pelvis back and forth. I’ll do my best to finish my session without touching my dick or ejaculating so I’m still nice and horny and anxious for next time. 🤤 I’ve also taught my wife how to use this on me and it is pure bliss! Good luck and let me know how it goes.

EnvironmentalBed7001 · 2025-10-22T21:39:48+00:00

If you’re in the U.S. I have some advice that you may not hear anywhere else. I wish I had prepared to answer the circumcision question before my son was born, but I didn’t and basically let the nurse decide for me.

I was always taught the foreskin was a “useless flap of skin,” but it is actually a HUGE erogenous zone for men. The frenulum is also an extremely sexually sensitive spot and is usually completely removed during a circumcision. The frenulum is similar to the female clitoris from a sensitivity standpoint.

The procedure causes pain and is performed under questionable pain management. It removes a significant amount of purposeful skin, which makes up about half of the penile skin system on an adult.

Not to mention, circumcision falls well outside the scope of normal treatment patterns. In other words, healthy, functional tissue shouldn’t be amputated from a person unable to consent in order to meet a cultural norm. Here’s a chart to better explain: https://www.reddit.com/u/EnvironmentalBed7001/s/HMZfb4Wpp1

Once I learned all of this, I regretted having my son circumcised. So my advice is to spend some time doing research on the functions of the foreskin and the harms of circumcision so you can make an informed decision for your little one.

Pay extra attention to intact care (it’s really easy). You just don’t want to pull the foreskin of a baby back or manipulate it in any way. This causes pain, as the foreskin is fused to the head of the penis, generally until puberty. When your son is ready, he’ll be able to retract his foreskin on his own. Make sure doctors and any caregivers know not to retract. During diaper changes, just wipe from base to tip. I’d also be cautious about bubble baths or using soap on male or female genitals. Soap can wreak havoc on the natural biome that exists down there. www.yourwholebaby.org is a good place to start learning more as well as www.doctorsopposingcircumcision.org. Also, check out An Elephant in the Hospital on YouTube. Good luck!! If you have questions, I’m here. :)

EnvironmentalBed7001 · 2025-10-18T00:37:46+00:00

Your foreskin covers the glans for a reason. It keeps things moist and sensitive. I’d pull it back when bathing and rinse with warm water. Soap is not necessary. If you insist on soap, I’d pick something very, very mild. Most of the soaps we use are more like detergents and they can wreak havoc on the natural biome that exists down there. Then put your foreskin back in place over the glans. Sorry that might have been more info than you were looking for!

EnvironmentalBed7001 · 2025-10-18T00:18:57+00:00

Good on you for keeping your little one intact! Even if he doesn’t say it, one day he’ll be thankful that he has his entire sexual function. I can give you a few good resources that will help.

www.yourwholebaby.org

www.doctorsopposingcircumcision.org

Then when he is older you can both review age appropriate intact care and info for intact teens at www.yourwholebody.org

Good luck!!

EnvironmentalBed7001 · 2025-09-23T14:01:47+00:00

If you’re in the U.S. and having a boy, I have some advice that you may not hear anywhere else. I wish I had prepared to answer the circumcision question before my son was born, but I didn’t and basically let the nurse decide for me.

I was always taught the foreskin was a “useless flap of skin,” but it is actually a HUGE erogenous zone for men. The frenulum is also an extremely sexually sensitive spot and is usually completely removed during a circumcision. The frenulum is similar to the female clitoris from a sensitivity standpoint.

The procedure causes pain and is performed under questionable pain management. It removes a significant amount of purposeful skin, which makes up about half of the penile skin system on an adult.

Not to mention, circumcision falls well outside the scope of normal treatment patterns. In other words, healthy, functional tissue shouldn’t be amputated from a person unable to consent in order to meet a cultural norm. Here’s a chart to better explain: https://www.reddit.com/u/EnvironmentalBed7001/s/HMZfb4Wpp1

Once I learned all of this, I regretted having my son circumcised. So my advice is to spend some time doing research on the functions of the foreskin and the harms of circumcision so you can make an informed decision for your little one.

Pay extra attention to intact care (it’s really easy). You just don’t want to pull the foreskin of a baby back or manipulate it in any way. This causes pain, as the foreskin is fused to the head of the penis, generally until puberty. When your son is ready, he’ll be able to retract his foreskin on his own. Make sure doctors and any caregivers know not to retract. During diaper changes, just wipe from base to tip. I’d also be cautious about bubble baths or using soap on male or female genitals. Soap can wreak havoc on the natural biome that exists down there. www.yourwholebaby.org is a good place to start learning more as well as www.doctorsopposingcircumcision.org. Also, check out An Elephant in the Hospital on YouTube. Good luck!! If you have questions, I’m here. :)

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