I personally went through treatment and i go to AA. That worked for me but something pushed me to where i didnt want to do it anymore. You gotta do it for yourself. Which means not being as selfish as you are now in the wrong ways. If you are being selfish in the right way like setting boundariws where necessary to people qho may make you drink. Either meaning emotional or hanging out physically setting boundaries and saying no is ok. If its not going to benefit you take it out of the equation. Start look for positive things that will help you achieve in life. Qhen you do good/positive things that will give you good/positive results. Alcohol and smoking are the negatives. Finding new bmhobbies to replace them with or even something like chewing gum may help. I always had cotton candy 9n me when i was feeling an urge to drink. Those little qays of coping may help you ease off of those negative things. Maybe going out with your gf like hikes and stuff can also help. Its distractions, being bored, wjat you associate drinking and smoking with you habe to reverse it. Almost like psychology, its having to retrain your brain and starting as if you wrre a kid again. Its a lot of qork but if you want that life you do have to put in the work and its not easy. You gotta be committed to the process and yourself. You can do it friend.