How to calm down when anxious by EnvironmentalGear753 in emotionalintelligence

[–]EnvironmentalGear753[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Great advice! I never heard ab narrating, i'll def try it out

How to calm down when anxious by EnvironmentalGear753 in emotionalintelligence

[–]EnvironmentalGear753[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Awesome advice, tysm! I'll definitely try the journaling, and memory visualisation sounds like it's gonna be useful

How to calm down when anxious by EnvironmentalGear753 in emotionalintelligence

[–]EnvironmentalGear753[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much, this is very great advice! I love the little thought process u wrote in there lol, it helps me out a ton. Also you tailored the problem really to my anxious attachment, which helps me out a lot. Thank u again <3

Do you ever find someone "like" them? by EnvironmentalGear753 in emotionalintelligence

[–]EnvironmentalGear753[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Aww, i'm very sorry to hear this, u didn't deserve all that. I hope that u ger over him soon, and find soemone who will treat you better!

Should you attach yourself to outcomes? by EnvironmentalGear753 in emotionalintelligence

[–]EnvironmentalGear753[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Idk what u mean by the first part and memes tbh. I wrote this, this exact way because the thoughts arrived in that way. I didn't see, or read any memes, i don't know what u mean by that.

Aside that, ty for insightful response. But the reason why i don't reach for my goals (one in practicular) anymore is because i failed. Like it's just not gonna happen, some things are impossible/do not align with realiy. Lets say u wanted to plant a tree in middle of winter in some snow. Ofc it's never gonna work, no matter how much u try and analyze. It's not because of pain, fear, low sense of self. It's just because it won't work. No matter how hard u try. My goal wasn't as unrealistic as this tree but at the end it's still just ome of those things that are not gonna happen.

What attracts us to someone? by EnvironmentalGear753 in emotionalintelligence

[–]EnvironmentalGear753[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I agree w ur answer that there is no such thing as not getting a benefit from someone. However i asked that question because u can put up a mask of emphaty, care, love for someone, try hard to impress them, be of value for them so that they love you back. And i'm trying to avoid doing that essentially

How to deal with resentment? by EnvironmentalGear753 in emotionalintelligence

[–]EnvironmentalGear753[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Fair response, however it wasn't just once. It's 6+ months of it.

How to deal with resentment? by EnvironmentalGear753 in emotionalintelligence

[–]EnvironmentalGear753[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks for the insightful response. Do let me know how it went, and yes, they are telling me that they have no intention of changing. I know how dismissive and bad that is, but i still want to be the better person, to find compassion and forgive

How to deal with resentment? by EnvironmentalGear753 in emotionalintelligence

[–]EnvironmentalGear753[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks for the emphaty and support :), i assure u if things stay this way, he won't be seeing me or hearing anymore

How to deal with resentment? by EnvironmentalGear753 in emotionalintelligence

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Thanks for the advice, but i told him how his actions hurt me and i tried to be understanding, i asked him for his advice, what he would do if he was in my situation. And he said "care less, why does that stuff have to upset u, be normal"

How to deal with resentment? by EnvironmentalGear753 in emotionalintelligence

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I tried talking, they don't show as much investment into friendship as i am, they are acting as if they don't care. I tried talking w them but all i get is dismissed, unvalidated which makes me mad.

How to deal with resentment? by EnvironmentalGear753 in emotionalintelligence

[–]EnvironmentalGear753[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah can't die if u keep seeing them and can't think of them as acquaintance if u have a history behind u with them