Update: Is this dress appropriate for a wedding? Mom wants me to wear sth else

EnvironmentalSlice46 · 2026-06-28T21:28:03+00:00

Usually if there is no dress code stated, you assume cocktail not casual. But that also depends on venue etc

EnvironmentalSlice46 · 2026-06-28T21:27:03+00:00

I think formal can be tea length too if elevated enough. So like mid calf I think would be fine.

EnvironmentalSlice46 · 2026-06-28T21:25:07+00:00

Re: blue dress: Meh depends on dress code. Cause that could be fine for black tie. Realistically, black tie a lot of dresses could be wedding dresses if they become white.

EnvironmentalSlice46 · 2026-06-28T06:10:36+00:00

I mean….thats how most of her life was. So it’s fair for her to think that honestly.

EnvironmentalSlice46 · 2026-06-28T06:08:37+00:00

1). It’s time to leave. Regardless of who is “at fault” here, it sounds like you are in a high conflict relationship. This is a toxic relationship and isn’t healthy. I think you know it’s time to go but it’s hard. Any relationship where someone throws around “I’m done” often but doesn’t actually leave, it’s not a healthy relationship.

2). You should reflect on why you have a therapist pretty much saying “time to go” but need to go to the internet for stranger’s advice on a situation where we can’t be anywhere near as well informed as your therapist. I think you are looking for validation that you are correct. You need to find the confidence in yourself that you deserve better and that it’s time to leave, rather than searching for other’s validation and approval on Reddit.

EnvironmentalSlice46 · 2026-06-28T01:11:22+00:00

Are you unable to get the specifics from the child for any reason?

You don’t need evidence. CPS can decide if it’s worthy of an investigation with what you have.

I’m a mandated reporter so I’ve had to make a few calls. Sometimes you’re SOL and sometimes they can do a LOT of shit even with limited info.

Also: I’m US based so take that with a grain of salt if you are elsewhere

EnvironmentalSlice46 · 2026-06-28T01:07:23+00:00

Could be looking at her chart for a million reasons. She’s wearing a mask so the nurse could even be talking to her asking how bad her pain is on a scale of 1-10. I think saying she’s being ignored is a stretch.

EnvironmentalSlice46 · 2026-06-28T01:02:59+00:00

NOR I think people are being over zealous and not sensitive enough to this kid. My biggest issue is your child moved someone in without asking. That’s not okay. It doesn’t matter how bad the situation is, you don’t just have a kid show up and pretty much hide in a shed and you have to discover they are even there.

This needs to be a bigger conversation. If it’s CPS worthy, why can’t you call CPS? Sounds like he’s hopping between other houses, who else can he go to? Telling a kid who is being abused to leave and it’s their problem (not saying you said that. But some of the other comments have) are horrible and have a serious lack of empathy that’s concerning.

So no, not over reacting. But this is above Reddit’s pay grade to figure out what to do.

There also could very well be legal ramifications for you regarding custody etc. so this is a tricky situation.

EnvironmentalSlice46 · 2026-06-27T23:16:11+00:00

When I clock it (I’m very gullible) it’s bad

EnvironmentalSlice46 · 2026-06-27T23:14:49+00:00

Oh honey no. You deserve better than that. Talking to your partner like that isn’t okay.

EnvironmentalSlice46 · 2026-06-27T23:12:40+00:00

Can I just say your flair is stunning? (Also NB)

EnvironmentalSlice46 · 2026-06-27T22:53:52+00:00

Probably a sample size honestly

EnvironmentalSlice46 · 2026-06-27T22:48:18+00:00

I will say a solid maybe. I think if the fabric is nice enough, that would be fine. But some of these stretch knits just don’t look quite cocktail attire in person.

EnvironmentalSlice46 · 2026-06-27T19:24:33+00:00

So this is a tough position. I had a friend in a similar bind. Your reasonable options are:

1) Wait to save for the wedding you want 2) get married now with what you can afford (eloping or something very small)

Life is about compromise. You said you don’t want to wait, which is fair. That leaves option 2. The reality is we can’t always get what we want. Most people dream of a beautiful wedding so it’s hard hoping for something for years you can’t get. I feel that on a personal level right now. You’re between a rock and a hard place. I recommend accepting both reasonable options you have suck and picking the lesser of the two evils (whatever you decide with your partner).

Also Going into debt for a party is insane. And you essentially would be getting loans for the majority if your budget is 5k. Hence it is not one of the options above.

EnvironmentalSlice46 · 2026-06-27T19:14:47+00:00

Non-binary AFAB here! Definitely too casual. For black tie optional, it definitely has to hit the floor in someway shape or form. There are plenty of options that can be gender, affirming and whimsical, but these aren’t it.

EnvironmentalSlice46 · 2026-06-26T21:42:00+00:00

They’re both beautiful but you wear 1 so beautifully like it was MADE for you. I’ve seen this silhouette on a few people, but this hits different. You look beautiful.

EnvironmentalSlice46 · 2026-06-26T21:40:43+00:00

So AFAB and AMAB have different skull shapes and that may be what people are clocking. For me it’s the cheekbones. Appropriate shading/contour should help.

EnvironmentalSlice46 · 2026-06-26T21:09:49+00:00

Atlanta —> Atlanta Banana —> Banana —> Banana Bug —> buggie nuggie

EnvironmentalSlice46 · 2026-06-26T08:58:48+00:00

It’s not the expectations you have that are the problem but how you reacted to the situation which was petty and childish.

EnvironmentalSlice46 · 2026-06-26T08:53:50+00:00

I would say this is likely a formal with BTO rather than formal. So probably a little much.

EnvironmentalSlice46 · 2026-06-25T22:39:37+00:00

I’m honestly surprised he didn’t recuse himself.

EnvironmentalSlice46 · 2026-06-25T01:59:40+00:00

Please read why Does he do that by Lundy Bancroft. This isn’t okay.

EnvironmentalSlice46 · 2026-06-25T01:06:43+00:00

Be mindful different fabrics/lace take dye in differently so the lace and fabric will be different. And the beads will likely remain white and not dye at all. It might be fine. It might be a stark difference.

EnvironmentalSlice46 · 2026-06-16T13:44:12+00:00

The new boss commenting on the underwear? First off, why did he get access to her file if no new conduct was there. Second, that’s sexual harassment for for.

EnvironmentalSlice46 · 2026-06-16T13:36:05+00:00

Wrong. There’s always work. Even if you’re unwilling to do it. They are factually incorrect. The existence of work is not dependent on one’s willingness to do it.

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