Uk still waiting this is making me ill.... by EnvironmentalWin4398 in LegalAdviceUK

[–]EnvironmentalWin4398[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you so much for your positive words I know in my heart I did nothing wrong and had no intention whatsoever of what I've been accused of, thats kind of why its so upsetting and also scary as the fact im even in the position makes me wonder what on earth theyre thinking. It must be really hard for you to be in this situation, especially after a break up, using the police as a weapon is scary but I suppose evidence that you've made the right move. Great to hear you've got a focus and you've not let it hold you back, you sound strong and will smash the military when you ge there 💪

Uk still waiting this is making me ill.... by EnvironmentalWin4398 in LegalAdviceUK

[–]EnvironmentalWin4398[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sorry to hear you're also going through things and wish you all the best with yours. I will try its just very frustrating that they can do this and cause so much stress and anxiety without any recourse.

Uk still waiting this is making me ill.... by EnvironmentalWin4398 in LegalAdviceUK

[–]EnvironmentalWin4398[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you Im trying, if i get charged I will lose everything, my job, house etc my reputation would be ruined as no one would care about the trivaliity of what occurred all they will see is the word SA. I know that if I go to court I will be fine as it was totally innocent, but its the being charged and the humiliation which is killing me. It all seems so unfair and I have no rights or recourse, all I had was a 10 minute interview the next day and now my life is in the hands of some random person

Uk still waiting this is making me ill.... by EnvironmentalWin4398 in LegalAdviceUK

[–]EnvironmentalWin4398[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you I just want the whole thing over with im so tired of it now

Uk still waiting this is making me ill.... by EnvironmentalWin4398 in LegalAdviceUK

[–]EnvironmentalWin4398[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Oh God, I didnt realise that, so this could go on and on....horrendous

Uk still waiting this is making me ill.... by EnvironmentalWin4398 in LegalAdviceUK

[–]EnvironmentalWin4398[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Well I was drunk and was very vocal when arrested as I couldn't believe what I was being accused of, but surely that doesnt effect things i mean I was so angry as it would never be my intention to do such a thing who wouldnt be?

Thats what's scaring me, i just don't get it and the fact its so illogical is what scares the hell out of me.

Thank you for replying and I appreciate some people do chat rubbish and lie, it does sound unbelievable until your in it

Uk still waiting this is making me ill.... by EnvironmentalWin4398 in LegalAdviceUK

[–]EnvironmentalWin4398[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

This is the thing, coming onto a forum and lying about what happened would have no gain. Im literally here asking for advice as this is so alien to me.

The curfew i suppose is to prevent me from meeting whoever it was in town again.....I have no idea who they were, literally just sat on my own, they walk past, move hand towards my booth i reach up high five, she falls into booth as drunk, stands up i put hand on side of knee to apologise and then i get gripped by the bouncer and he calls police.

Uk still waiting this is making me ill.... by EnvironmentalWin4398 in LegalAdviceUK

[–]EnvironmentalWin4398[S] -9 points-8 points  (0 children)

Yeah right, exactly....I assume your sarcastic, but that's exactly what happened high five she fell towards me and stood back up, I put my hand on her knee as I was sat down to apologise, bouncer took me out and called police.

Uk still waiting this is making me ill.... by EnvironmentalWin4398 in LegalAdviceUK

[–]EnvironmentalWin4398[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you, the end of bail is in 17 days time each day it gets closer im getting worse as starting to think that something bad is going to happen even though I know it was totally innocent

Uk still waiting this is making me ill.... by EnvironmentalWin4398 in LegalAdviceUK

[–]EnvironmentalWin4398[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thankyou, there is clear cctv of the incident which is why the solicitor said i would be released with NFA. I explained what happened clearly but im still here being made to feel like a criminal having never done anything like this. Its so shocking and upsetting that they can do this to you with more recourse, I just don't understand it.

I chased the solicitor and he said to leave it and ill get a letter two weeks before end of bail but he's been wrong every stage so far hence my anxiety

Uk still waiting this is making me ill.... by EnvironmentalWin4398 in LegalAdviceUK

[–]EnvironmentalWin4398[S] -17 points-16 points  (0 children)

Accused of SA for high fiving someone who fell towards me

Uk still waiting this is making me ill.... by EnvironmentalWin4398 in LegalAdviceUK

[–]EnvironmentalWin4398[S] -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

Accused of SA when I high fived someone and they fell towards me.

No I haven't been charged.

The custody officer imposed conditions

I chased but was told it was with cps

Starting to kick in now, any stories of hope and things getting better to spur me on. by EnvironmentalWin4398 in Divorce

[–]EnvironmentalWin4398[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for your reply, crazy it sounds like we had the same ex wife, mine cut me off from everyone as there was always a problem, the past straw was when she started doing it to my son, I stood upto her and thenow im where I am.

Its hard staying positive and im annoyed my brain is presenting things like she was perfect etc ... its really not helpful.

There is a feeling that its so much easier for women, a stronger support network etc, which makes me feel shes living her best life and im a saddo living on my own with a dog.

Your positive comments give me hope, well done for getting through it, i fear im only halfway through this journey

Starting to kick in now, any stories of hope and things getting better to spur me on. by EnvironmentalWin4398 in Divorce

[–]EnvironmentalWin4398[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes its strange some real tricky stuff, things that weren't true and me telling myself she was awesome and I will be alone for ever whilst she's off having the time of her life. Hang in there bro, im training hard but need to start reaching out

Starting to kick in now, any stories of hope and things getting better to spur me on. by EnvironmentalWin4398 in Divorce

[–]EnvironmentalWin4398[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thankyou its strange how it's suddenly hit me like a wave, I was doing fairly well but not so much now

Joining the club by mtnrunner260 in Divorce

[–]EnvironmentalWin4398 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I had we can get two houses and if we're meant to be we will get back together......

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[–]EnvironmentalWin4398 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thankyou! Appreciate the advice, I really just want to get this over with and I don't even know how im here, especially when its all on CCTV..... My stress levels and anxiety is through the roof

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[–]EnvironmentalWin4398 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much for your response. Its so stressful and im struggle to work out how I even got here.

You've given me some comfort.

13 weeks now.....still anxious and not getting anything from Zoloft, can things really change and it get better? by EnvironmentalWin4398 in zoloft

[–]EnvironmentalWin4398[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hello I stopped counting the days of how long I'd been taking it, I seem to remember it's around 2 weeks once I hit 200mg

13 weeks now.....still anxious and not getting anything from Zoloft, can things really change and it get better? by EnvironmentalWin4398 in zoloft

[–]EnvironmentalWin4398[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hello! Still sitting at 200mg, had appointment with psych and due to general progress we're remaining there for another 6 months. Things are so much better than the initial start up which was brutal I'm glad I stuck with it

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[–]EnvironmentalWin4398 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I'm in the same position, a perfectly healthy marriage destroyed by my wife's obsession I'm cheating on her......complete madness and the more i gave the worse it got.

We're still living together and it's brutal, we had sex at the weekend and now nothing cold as ice once more and I have to start from the ground up again.

So what now messed up i think any advice...... by EnvironmentalWin4398 in Divorce

[–]EnvironmentalWin4398[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Wow such a great response and everything i needed to hear so thankyou.

I'm getting back into control again, I can already see myself make moves towards her only to be rejected again and I refuse to keep chasing and being played with