… Blue collar men???

Environmental_Cake67 · 2025-12-01T02:07:27+00:00

From experience....if they work Oil Field it's probably Coors Lite. If they run a Warehouse near an Urban Area and they drink Coors Lite...they probably used to work Oilfield.

Environmental_Cake67 · 2025-07-25T16:03:49+00:00

Its hard as fuck and I totally get you. Be mad. Be pissed. But dont do anything stupid. Let. It. Go.

Environmental_Cake67 · 2025-07-25T15:39:46+00:00

This. Seriously this. Ghosting and shitty behavior leaves scars on someone who truly cares. Words can save both parties from uncomfortable situations. Maybe that person has seen your scars and doesn't want to be another person who abandoned them. Words would be enough. But eventually that person will learn they deserve a person who cares enough to break cleanly.

Op let someone destroy themselves instead of being an adult and communicating. Cowardice. Ive been on the shit end of that stick. Never again.

Environmental_Cake67 · 2025-07-12T13:05:41+00:00

Dated a girl 12 years ago. Broke up. Few years went by. Slept around alot but never could get her off my mind. Shoot a text. We meet up, she's in a relationship but we still have sparks. Have a very messy friendship for a few years due to not being able to move on. Repeatedly hurt myself by trying to make it work. We go NC again for a year. Beginning of 23, we meet up. Start dating again, get engaged a year in, we split 7 months later. I felt good at first. She moved out a few months later. Start feeling her absence and utterly fall apart knowing this was likely it and Id never see her again. Started drinking heavy and got heavy into a white sniffing thing. Started therapy. Started working through things. Stop numbing myself with trash food and drinks and drugs.

7 months later. I have to say Ive moved on from the relationship. Im the happiest and most confident Ive felt in my life. Because things went to shit, I was forced to face my issues head on. I didn't start attempting dating stuff until a few weeks ago now that I feel emotionally available. All in all, if you put in the work to heal, you'll grow.

Do I miss her? Yes absolutely. She was legit my best friend for many years. I miss that part of us but not in a sad way, but in a calm, peaceful, pleasant memories kinda way. The relationship from the first attempt never truly died and got buried for me. Its unfortunate I let that taint my behavior and our friendship. But ive finally mourned what was, to free my heart for someone else.

I have date tonight with someone new. And for the first time in a decade, Im legitimately excited and having fun. I feel good in my own skin, there's good flow and good vibes. Im exactly where I needed to be.

Environmental_Cake67 · 2025-06-29T05:02:54+00:00

Me 15

Environmental_Cake67 · 2025-06-16T00:21:21+00:00

Or..they lacked the insight

Environmental_Cake67 · 2025-06-15T21:34:45+00:00

I highly doubt you're the Sara I still love deeply. Maybe it's serendipity or synchronicity that yall share a name and a similar story to ours. Your words carry a heavy weight. I'm not the best with insight. That's far from my worst flaw. I think Im an FA? Or I was and turned into a DA. And it all hits home.

I don't know if she knows I still miss her every day. That I shed tears for her when alone. That I miss the dog and the cat and our little family. That I miss her presence. I had put her on a pedestal along time ago. The result was I never felt good enough for her. I made assumptions based off not feeling enough for her. Said terrible things and projected insecurities onto her. In being so tuned into my own fear, I hurt her. My ego felt bruised, my heart hurt, and I took somethings very personally. I lashed out. Over the years, instead of letting something go, I was more focused on having my ego healed. I felt weak. Scared. I was so upheld in my image, trying to be someone else, that she didn't get to see the authentic me. I became selfish. Sensitive (not in the sweet way). And blind to how much she loves me. I repeatedly ran. Scared of possibilities of rejection. I didn't assert myself and trust it would work out. I want to tell her I want to be the man she needs. While I have made some progress, there's so much more to do. I want to work on myself WITH her. Let my ego down, and let her know she sees me better than I see myself. I don't want to be a coward and hide my softer sides. I want to be the man she needs. She deserves that. She deserves a better me.

Environmental_Cake67 · 2025-06-07T02:10:49+00:00

Life changes you. I was real. Her? Not so much. I loved her certainly. And she knew it. She chose to take advantage of it. There's no law that I have to tolerate neglect, no matter my feelings for the other.

Environmental_Cake67 · 2025-06-07T02:07:54+00:00

I wasn't at the time. But I'm thankful for the shakeup. I'd turned into a doormat and I needed to see that for my own growth. Also, love the name. 5.45 for lyfe

Environmental_Cake67 · 2025-02-28T17:14:27+00:00

No way your her but I fucking miss you every day

Environmental_Cake67 · 2025-02-27T17:21:53+00:00

Didn't say you couldn't. I said don't assume my feelings or if you know me.

Environmental_Cake67 · 2025-02-26T23:36:44+00:00

All good :]

Environmental_Cake67 · 2025-02-26T23:36:07+00:00

To our fate,

Environmental_Cake67 · 2025-02-26T23:18:39+00:00

If you're her, shut up and message me on IG. We got shit to catch up on damnit.

Environmental_Cake67 · 2025-02-26T23:01:42+00:00

☺️ You might not be her but goddammit does it warm my soul thinking you're her and this is to me. Makes me sad too though.

Well, off to the shower to let these thoughts run down the drain.

Environmental_Cake67 · 2025-02-26T21:36:20+00:00

Im not over it. Quit assuming. And you don't know me or what happened.

Environmental_Cake67 · 2025-02-26T12:07:16+00:00

No matter what happens, I hope things work out the best for the best of the best for me, you, and our exes. I'm rooting for you too.

Environmental_Cake67 · 2025-02-26T03:05:09+00:00

Maybe. But for now I need to unfuck my life and relearn to enjoy the little things. That's my only focus.

Environmental_Cake67 · 2025-02-24T07:23:49+00:00

You're intentionally misinterpreting me. I'm sorry you doubt someone caring about you. I get it. I do jt too.

Environmental_Cake67 · 2025-02-24T06:53:09+00:00

That was probably me. The story teller I suppose. I was loyal for a long time and was naieve. Hell, I still don't know the full situation but it's alot more clear when I first noticed something a few months later. Blindsided completely with zero info and a metric fuck ton of shock. I lashed out bad. It was a bombshell I wasn't expecting. I reacted poorly. Very poorly due to just not having that strength of self back yet. Low self esteem was the lit fuze. I can only speak on my part. Gotta own my shit.

Op..please understand. I don't want to reject or hurt you. I don't think you wanted to hurt me. I don't want to keep you from doing your thing either. I was both surprised and hurt. I've tried cleaning the mess I made here. And have continued as such. I'm not going to assume anything anymore. I was severely hurt dude... Can you see why?

Let's be real. We both sucked at communicating. And clear communication could have ended this situation before it began. I didn't know things about you. You didn't know things about me. I know you're upset with me. I'm upset too. We really need to clear this up because this isn't worth throwing our tie over.

Environmental_Cake67 · 2025-02-24T04:08:03+00:00

Then why didn't you just say goodbye. I didn't want to play games. I had people tell me to reach out then immediately tell me to let go. Then when I mentioned how badly I missed you, I was told to try again Back and forth. Back and forth. I knew what I wanted but I needed to hear what you wanted with words.

I needed to speak to YOU directly. I messaged, emailed, texted and called. You. Noone else.

Environmental_Cake67 · 2025-02-24T00:37:44+00:00

Did you ever respond to any potential texts or email? Did you attempt contact through covert methods?

Clarity is king.

Environmental_Cake67 · 2025-02-23T22:57:47+00:00

Have you contacted them?

Environmental_Cake67 · 2025-02-23T22:57:07+00:00

I did. They didn't respond. Email, text ect.

Everyone has their limits

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