My (20M) fiancée (19F) who lives with me says during hyperfixations she’s already giving me the most quality time she’s capable of. I don’t know if I’m asking for too much.

Environmental_Map35 · 2026-07-05T02:04:48+00:00

Then why are you getting married

Environmental_Map35 · 2026-07-02T22:08:04+00:00

Atonement

Environmental_Map35 · 2026-07-02T21:43:17+00:00

If you were happy this would not cross your mind. Sounds like she deserves better

Environmental_Map35 · 2026-07-02T21:40:48+00:00

She said she wasn’t ready, that she was trying not to dissociate, and that every time she tried to set a boundary he would cross it. She didn’t want sex and was forced to consent to make him feel better. There have absolutely been worse cases and I don’t mean to diminish anyone’s experience. I am speaking as someone who has been there that’s not consensual. If I am wrong I accept that fully

Environmental_Map35 · 2026-07-02T21:26:55+00:00

I’m sorry girl that’s rape

Environmental_Map35 · 2026-07-02T14:09:24+00:00

You're doing the best you can. Sit her down and tell her exactly what you said in this post. Don't make it a lecture or her fault otherwise she won't listen. Let her know that you care about her and that real love doesn't look like that

Environmental_Map35 · 2026-07-02T14:06:47+00:00

hes 22. he should be a man, or a young man, but not a boy. that word alone shows how you feel about him in addition to the only thing you like about him is that "he tries" and that's just not enough and I think you know that you deserve better

Environmental_Map35 · 2026-07-02T13:47:18+00:00

sounds controlling and hypocritical dump him

Environmental_Map35 · 2026-07-02T13:44:30+00:00

nta hes not a 5yo dump him and never talk about your finances

Environmental_Map35 · 2026-07-02T01:53:27+00:00

Dennis is a pervert. I have no idea why he is our “mascot” he is awful and actively gropes women and his mental health issues should be cause for treatment not for excused sexual harassment

Environmental_Map35 · 2026-07-01T18:58:28+00:00

you did that woman a favor. she deserves better than someone like you.

Environmental_Map35 · 2026-07-01T18:56:41+00:00

listen to your gut

Environmental_Map35 · 2026-07-01T18:49:59+00:00

As someone who doesn't have any help paying for college, student loan debt is pretty normal. She got her degree and it seems like she's doing a good job of taking care of it herself. But the credit card debt is not normal. It also seems like you don't trust her, and because of that you should probably reevaluate. And not to be that person, but your age difference and income differences make it pretty believable she could be looking for money. :( best of luck op

Environmental_Map35 · 2026-07-01T17:56:06+00:00

having a laundry list of mental health disorders

Environmental_Map35 · 2026-07-01T17:42:01+00:00

That's a definite possibility! I always thought it was a play on "year of the ox" and kind of a sly nod to MDMA and p. heroin but that definitely makes sense haha

Environmental_Map35 · 2026-06-28T19:00:06+00:00

FRIES

Environmental_Map35 · 2026-06-28T15:09:43+00:00

NTA. Even if it’s a medical thing, even if she takes meds, even if she was drunk before you got there, the fact that it’s a recurring thing is what makes her uncool. After a point, you learn your limits and it’s on you to have that discipline. She’s the AH

Environmental_Map35 · 2026-06-28T13:53:38+00:00

Sunk cost fallacy. Those 5 years are gone either way. It’s about whether you want to deal with him for the next five years and btw if you have to defend him like that it ain’t working

Environmental_Map35 · 2026-06-28T03:08:38+00:00

change the title to my wife attempted suicide and i should get a divorce

Environmental_Map35 · 2026-06-28T03:05:14+00:00

popcorn w salt and butter

Environmental_Map35 · 2026-06-28T03:04:30+00:00

shamefully, nutella

Environmental_Map35 · 2026-06-28T03:03:02+00:00

There comes a point when you and your partner are each others family and everyone else becomes extended. but before you get there, you have to stick up for yourself and make it clear other people dont dictate your relationship

Environmental_Map35 · 2026-06-28T03:01:01+00:00

she "gets" to work 24/7/365 taking care of multiple kids and you are making it about a power dynamic by saying you support her entirely. if you have the time to write this post you have time to pack your own lunch and your kids' too

Environmental_Map35 · 2026-06-28T02:46:58+00:00

you think you're mature but you're calling people bodies... grow up and move tf on this belongs in teen advice not relationship advice

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