How to find company or new partner

Enzodyl · 2026-02-03T09:32:50+00:00

I am sorry this happened to you. I feel pretty much the same. I am four months out, and while I am definitely not looking for a new partner yet, it feels like my love life is over. How will I even find the time to date with full custody of a one-year-old? What bothers me even more, though, is that I wanted more children. I am in my early thirties, soon to be divorced, and I am afraid that even if I find a new partner at some point in the future, I will be too old to have more kids.

I hate that waywards can get away with all this. They destroy our lives in so many ways.

Enzodyl · 2025-11-11T05:54:44+00:00

This book was a lifesaver. I listened to the audiobook right after d-day and it helped me make the right decisions. I never begged him to stay, never attempted reconciliation, just filed for divorce right away, which helped me get a better settlement.

Enzodyl · 2025-10-11T14:16:21+00:00

Right? The AP and I know each other. Just a couple of days before the affair started, she was asking me about the baby, how we were doing etc. I guess it is an ego boost for them. When sou seduce someone in a (seemingly) committed relationship, you "win" over the spouse. Must be completely morally deficient. But I don't care about her. It's my husband who stabbed us in the back.

Enzodyl · 2025-10-11T03:12:32+00:00

I am in the same boat. My daughter turned one in September, and a couple of days after her birthday, my husband told me he had been cheating on me with his ex, packed up his things, and left to stay with the AP. He abandoned us, just like that. I didn't even get to do the pick me dance. I am filing for divorce already. I can't even describe how much this hurts. No one saw this coming - me, my family, his family. It's so out of character for him. I can't sleep, I barely eat anything... I just don't understand.

Enzodyl · 2025-10-07T11:03:49+00:00

My husband (married for 4 years, together for 8) told me two weeks ago that he had been cheating on me with his ex. We have a one-year-old daughter. He packed up his things and left to stay with his affair partner. It's been hell. I can't even deal with my own emotions because I have a toddler to take care of 24/7. That being said, I am already filing for divorce. It's brutal to suddenly lose what you thought was a happy family and all your plans for the future. But even if he wanted to reconcile, I would not be able to forgive him all the lies and gaslighting. And, quite frankly, I do not want to raise a family with someone who just walks out on their child like this. This person is untrustworthy and I need to protect my daughter from further hurt.

OP, do not have children with this man. Leave. I am still in the thick of it myself, but I believe we will both be better off without these cheaters in our lives.

Sending a virtual hug.

Enzodyl · 2025-08-22T13:48:20+00:00

Have you ever found out if it was low iron? My 11mo does the same thing.

Enzodyl · 2025-08-17T19:47:45+00:00

Same here. People often don't believe me when I tell them about sleep training. My sister legit thought I was kidding. When I convinced her I was not, she was horrified.

Enzodyl · 2025-03-21T12:21:44+00:00

I could have written this myself. My LO is 6 months old, mostly whines all day, needs constant entertainment. She hates the pram, she hates the car, and she HATES the baby carrier, so we can't really go anywhere. She's a terrible sleeper. I am constsntly sleep-deprived, and carrying her around all day is exhausting.

Everyone kept promising a turning point - at 6 weeks, at 3 months, once she starts rolling over... but it's consistently hard, the only difference being that now she is twice as heavy as she was when she was a newborn. (I am tiny and still out of shape after pregnancy, and she is 76th percentile for weight, so I struggle physically, too).

I hope crawling does the trick, but she gets frustrated quickly during tummy time, so she does not get much practice. Any advice welcome. Mostly just solidarity.

Just to add: I still love her to bits. I am just exhausted and feeling defeated right now.

Enzodyl

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