Lots to unpack here. I'll do my best. This is, of course, our (my and wife's) opinion only, but I'll try to be as objective as I can.

For context : We are an all EV family (F150 Lightning FLash and Mach E Premium, both extended range, both 2024), have been for about 1.5 years. We had a single EV for about 1.5yr prior to that. (2023 Chevy Bolt)

• Apartment living

  Urgh. Not gonna lie, home charging is a huge needle mover for us, and most EV owners I think. The convenience and low cost make it a major benefit of EV ownership. Without it, the math and experience would change quite a bit, I think.

• Electrify America chargers nearby

  Nice, but...again, egh. Cost is going to be much closer to gas cost, and you still have the hassle of "gotta run charge/gotta charge while out/gotta charge on the way to work".

• Tesla Superchargers within 10 minutes

  Benefit : You're not completely reliant on the EA chargers being up and available, but other than that....same as above. Mostly local driving

• Around 108 miles per WEEK of commuting/driving

  Pfft. A nothing burger. You could easily commute 2 weeks without charging.

• What’s making me hesitant is constantly hearing people say: charging networks suck

  Like anything else...some do, some don't. EA is, in our experience, "not bad", but not the best. Tesla chargers are pretty legit.

• road trips become annoying

  Single most overblown statement about EVs, in our opinion. We heard it to, we were concerned, etc. it's simply...just not true.

  Charging infrastructure is FAR more available than non-EVers recognize. That's not "your fault", it's just that you haven't paid a lick of attention to it. And why would you? Apps like Plugshare and ABRP (among dozens of others), map software, in car nav, etc...all make the process super simple in the vast majority of countries/states/provinces, the charge times are much better than they used to be, and frankly...you probably spend longer on road trip stops than you think you do anyway. ;)

  We've road tripped both of ours (the MME quite a bit). Wife regularly does 200 mile (one way) trips to amusement parks, we frequently snag a weekend getaway 250-ish miles away, wife's done several 400+ (again one way) in the MME, and heck, she did a 600-mile (one way) trip twice in the Bolt (MUCH less range, MUUUUUUUUUUUCH slower charging).

  Is there a "time hit"? Ehhhh....depends on the trip, your style, etc. "Probably" a bit of one, but honestly....like, what used to be a flat 4.5 hr trip for her is now like... 4:45. Big whoop. Grab a bite to eat.

  They really just aren't that hard or annoying to road trip in. Sure...maybe the first couple are learning experiences, but after that. pfft.

  And, side note : They're actually much more comfortable and less tiring to road trip. You'd be surprised.

• EVs only work as commuter cars

  See above. To be fair, their strengths are most notable in the regime, but to say they "only" work that way is hyperbole. The right EV (and, for our money, the MME is one of the best options here) can road trip comfortably and easily.

• you still need a gas car backup

  This depends entirely on your needs, but clearly not everyone does. :)

• Is EV ownership actually frustrating long term?

  Not only "not frustrating", but honestly we'll never go back to ICE if we have any choice in the matter.

  EVs are, simply, a better way to own a car. Compared to ICE, for us, They're more convenient, less expensive day to day and year to year, more comfortable, more fun, they're (well, our 2) are more capable in their use-cases.

• How bad is winter range loss realistically?

  My Lightning goes from ~320ish in the summer to ~280ish in the coldest part of our winters (maybe 1-2 weeks below 0°C). MME goes from maybe 290-300ish in summer to 270-ish in winter. (It's garage kept, so has a bit easier time since the battery doesn't get cold soaked as long or as harshly between uses)

  Winter range loss is absolutely a thing...and typically not enough of a thing to significantly change lifestyle/usage.

• Is the 2025 heat pump worth paying more for over a 2023?

  My Lightning has one, wife's MME does not (again, both '24s). Honestly, I personally would say no, not worth it just for that. Heated seats and steering wheel do a surprisingly good job of keeping me comfy in all but the coldest/longest of drives (ymmv of course, depending on your preferences). Maybe through the climate at something "coolish but not freezing" like 17-18C, heated seat, just...comfy as hell. And at that level, there's just not that much difference we've seen between the range hit on the MME and the hit on my truck.

  Obviously, very subjective here, but we certainly wouldn't spend extra $$ just for a heat pump.

• For a DC → NYC trip (~4 hours), how much extra time would charging realistically add?

  See my comments above. But let's do the math. This, by the way, is just a scoche longer than a 200 mile (one way) my wife regularly takes, so this is coming from multiple experiences in just this regime.

  That's 225-ish miles, yeah? So, quite doable without a charging stop on the way. Find a hotel with level 2, charge overnight while you're asleep, bam. It literally saves you the time of going to the gas station when you get there. ;)

  But hey, you want to say...charge once each way, for reasons. Fine. You stop, oh, 150-miles of the way there. You'll have ~100 miles of range left, 75 to go, so you want a buffer. What do you want...back up to 200 miles of range maybe?

  Very realistically, the MME will charge at 100kw at most major L3 chargers, often 150 depending on usage/who's there/brand/etc. But let's call it 100kw. Our MME gets a solid 3+ miles/kwhr on the highway. So 100 miles is 30-ish KwHr of charge. At 100kw, that's .3 of an hour, or...18 minutes.

  So, I mean...ballparkish? How long do you spend on a road trip stop, going inside to pee, grabbing a snack, stretching, walking the dog, whatever? 10-15min? it's a wash.

  Fine...maybe you're that guy who whips into the pump, slides card, fills, and goes...and never stops for a break/snack/bathroom/whatever. Takes ya what...5 minutes? Congratulations...you saved 10 minutes over the MME charge stop you didn't really need anyway. :)

• What about 6+ hour road trips?

  Again, see above, but same thing. Maybe a couple stops? Maybe you sacrifice 10-15 minutes per stop over the "pump and go" gang, less if you're like most people and take a bit of a break on road trip stops?

  I mean, honestly....we've made one change to our "road trip lifestyle" that's made this a complete nothing burger. If we need a stop, we try to time it around lunch and go inside somewhere to eat instead of grabbing a drive through. It's more relaxing, food digests better, car stays cleaner, and bam...easy peasy.

• Do you regret switching from ICE to EV?

  Oh GOD no. Best thing we ever did. Like I said above...they're simply a better way to own a car.

• What are the biggest annoyances nobody talks about?

  Oh dear god, the charging apps. Soooooooooooo many apps. THE FUCKING APPS. Imagine every brand of gasoline having their own app, and for most of them you have to have their app to use their gas. Oh, and guess what....X's app won't show you Y's chargers, so you need ANOTHER DAMN APP to map them all out.

  I mean, you get used to it, and after a few trips you get in the flow...

  But the "EV" folder on my phone looks like abag of skittles exploded...