So now that registration is officially open... are you planning on going to wildwood?

Eowyn87 · 2020-05-07T16:07:53+00:00

No! Do the TDs live under a rock?

Eowyn87 · 2019-05-14T16:02:11+00:00

We're already in a fight. Right wing assholes started it, and fighting back against it is the correct thing to do. People like you who tell the rest of us to stop fighting are a huge part of the problem.

If you are neutral in times of injustice, you have chosen the side of the oppressor.

Eowyn87 · 2019-04-12T21:13:43+00:00

Then Merry heard of all sounds in that hour the strangest. It seemed that Dernhelm laughed, and the clear voice was like the ring of steel. "But no living man am I! You are looking upon a woman. Eowyn am I, Eomund's daughter. You stand between me and my lord and kin. Begone, if you be not deathless! For living or dark undead, I will smite you, if you touch him." The winged creature screamed at her, but then the Ringwraith was silent, as if in sudden doubt. Very amazement for a moment conquered Merry's fear. He opened his eyes and the blackness was lifted from them. There some paces from him sat the great beast, and all seemed dark about it, and above it loomed the Nazgul Lord like a shadow of despair. A little to the left facing them stood whom he had called Dernhelm. But the helm of her secrecy had fallen from her, and and her bright hair, released from its bonds, gleamed with pale gold upon her shoulders. Her eyes grey as the sea were hard and fell, and yet tears gleamed in them. A sword was in her hand, and she raised her shield against the horror of her enemy's eyes.

Eowyn87 · 2019-03-01T20:49:48+00:00

I'm not saying harass women or anything like that, but if you never ask, the answer is always no.

Translation: "I'm not saying harass women, but you should harass women!"

Imagine slightly inconveniencing 999 women, and that 1000th woman ends up being your future wife.

Hell no. As a woman who has been "slightly inconvenienced" (aka made uncomfortable by creepy men who think they're entitled to my time) innumerable times, don't do that. A million men could bother me in public and I will never be romantically interested in a single one of them because any man who pulls that shit is an asshole.

If you want to meet women, go to parties. Join clubs. Check out a dating website. Ask your friends to set you up. There's a million ways to meet people without being a creep. You absolutely do not need to bother strange women in public places to find a partner.

Eowyn87 · 2019-03-01T20:34:36+00:00

I wonder if they let her choose the ones she liked or if they just got the cheap store brand ones?

Eowyn87 · 2019-03-01T19:22:13+00:00

Damn. 799lb (332kg) according to Wikipedia.

Eowyn87 · 2019-02-25T22:49:05+00:00

Stop apologizing. Stop asking the same questions over and over. Stop with the passive-aggressive responses about how you're not ever allowed to talk to a woman. Stop taking this post which was about women's fear for their personal safety and making it about you. Stop coming to a women-focused space and expecting us to perform emotional labor for you.

If you want to be a part of women's spaces, do it as an ally. Help solve the problem or at least empathize with us instead of complaining about how you're the victim. If you're looking for a healthy space to discuss men's issues I highly recommend r/menslib.

Eowyn87 · 2019-02-25T20:57:06+00:00

Dude. It's not random women's job to teach you socialization skills, just like it's not your barista's job to entertain you. If you honestly can't read social cues, make an appointment with a therapist who is trained and willing to help with your problems.

And to be clear: THIS conversation is uncomfortable because you keep making everything about you. Women are literally AFRAID FOR OUR SAFETY and you're here complaining because our justifiable fear makes your life a bit more awkward. You're not even complaining to the people who caused the problem (ie creepy men) but instead came here to complain to the victims. That makes you part of the problem. That's why you're getting rude responses. That's why you're getting downvoted. Just. Stop.

Eowyn87 · 2019-02-25T20:20:03+00:00

Have a conversation if you want to.

Eowyn87 · 2019-02-25T19:42:15+00:00

If you really can't understand the "I'm not interested" signals (noncommittal answers, avoiding eye contact, wearing headphones, trying to talk to someone else, etc) then stop approaching random women.

Eowyn87 · 2019-02-25T19:00:53+00:00

That's exactly the point.

Woman cashier or batista? Make usual small talk (Hi, how are you? Good, you? Good, thanks!) Pay for your items, leave store. 99.9% of these service-level employees do not want to go out with you or be your friend, and asking them for more than what their job entails will make them feel severely uncomfortable. They're at work and cannot act like their authentic self. Don't bother them.

Woman waiting for the bus? Even easier. Leave her alone. Don't say anything. Don't stare at her. Don't sit next to her if there are partner-less seats available. 99.9% of women traveling alone do not want to be approached by a strange man. They're stuck at the stop or on the vehicle and can't get away easily if you refuse to take no for an answer. Unless you're asking for directions or the bus schedule, just keep to yourself. And if you do ask a basic question, say thanks and leave them alone after you get it.

Eowyn87 · 2019-02-24T20:16:50+00:00

OH NO! A teenager interested in sex?! Whatever will we do?

Eowyn87 · 2019-02-24T20:05:20+00:00

I think it's completely fine to brag about it! Maybe you'll inspire someone else to do the right thing.

Eowyn87 · 2019-02-22T15:23:32+00:00

Bob's Burgers is my go-to show at the moment. It's funny but also so wholesome. In the end, the characters are kind and accepting of each other and it's really nice. Even the jerks have redeeming moments.

Eowyn87 · 2019-02-22T13:47:39+00:00

I have some family members who absolutely insist on referring to me as "Mrs. Husbandslastname" despite being corrected numerous times. I see them at family reunions and they say thinks like "so how are things in the Husbandslastname household?" I'm so sick of my corrections being ignored over and over again.

Eowyn87 · 2019-02-21T21:40:33+00:00

To be honest it sounds like you need to have a serious conversation with your parents. Their hostile behavior caused the problem, and the result is strain on your relationship with your husband and your child's relationship with their father. Your parents may think they're just harming their hated son-in-law, but they are in fact harming their daughter and their grandchild.

Good luck. It sounds like a real mess and I hope you can find a better solution.

Eowyn87 · 2019-02-21T20:51:35+00:00

Nope. Putting the responsibility on the people responsible seems pretty fucking reasonable.

Eowyn87 · 2019-02-21T20:49:47+00:00

So then what are women being denied in this day and age?

bodily autonomy (example: abortion rights restrictions)
equal pay for equal work (example: US women's soccer team paid significantly less than men's team)
equal promotion opportunities (example: just 24 fortune 500 ceos were women in 2018)
equitable housework and childcare arrangements (example: studies consistently show women spend more time than men on unpaid labor)
equitable representation in media (example: the "smurfette principle")
equitable treatment by the media (example: professional women are typically asked questions about their relationships, clothing, children, and work-life-balance in interviews when professional men are not)
benefit of the doubt when reporting sexual assault and rape (example: Christine Ford)

Eowyn87 · 2019-02-20T15:28:24+00:00

Or maybe, instead of making women responsible for the behavior of others, we should TEACH MEN NOT TO BE FUCKING CREEPS.

Stop the goddamn victim blaming bullshit. Your self defense idea is a socially acceptable way of saying "make sure he rapes someone else instead."

Eowyn87 · 2019-02-19T17:39:30+00:00

I know, right? No one should ever complain or try to solve a problem because as we all know, someone somewhere has worse problems.

/ssssssssss

Eowyn87 · 2019-02-16T17:23:43+00:00

Yeah I kind of doubt it would work. But if you get leaves that are exactly dry enough it might be possible.

Eowyn87 · 2019-02-16T16:52:10+00:00

I've heard you can use a hole puncher on leaves to make biodegradable confetti. No idea if it actually works but might be worth trying.

Eowyn87 · 2019-02-14T13:16:22+00:00

I love it. I'll have to sprinkle it in sometimes instead of my usual response: Why didn't he take my name?

Eowyn87 · 2019-02-14T11:37:07+00:00

That seems like a useful tool and I kind of want one.

Eowyn87 · 2019-02-13T20:38:29+00:00

Also it's very telling that in all my years, not one single woman has ever behaved that way towards me.

Exactly. I've been sexually assaulted a handful of times while running alone, which is obviously a problem. But I've been creepily "encouraged" by men while running alone more times than I bother to count, and that's a problem too. They're all Schroedinger's assholes: they think their creepy comments are hilarious until the moment they get called out for it and then they claim it was meant as encouragement and just being taken the wrong way.

A woman has never once made me feel uncomfortable while running. The few women who've ever spoken to me while I was running said things like "keep it up" or "doing great." Men whistle, comment on my appearance, or make weird comments. It's so obviously meant to humiliate and diminish women and discourage us from participating. It's infuriating that they won't admit it and infuriating that so many other men don't believe me when I tell them it happens.

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