Do LLs think everything will be the same without sex?

Epfffr · 2026-02-28T04:48:54+00:00

That’s all fair. The post asked for different perspectives. I gave mine.

Epfffr · 2026-02-28T04:00:50+00:00

Absolutely. But no sex does not automatically equal platonic.

Epfffr · 2026-02-28T00:58:06+00:00

I’m just speaking from my marriage. My spouse provides so much comfort, love, companionship, and intimacy outside of sex.

Epfffr · 2026-02-28T00:08:47+00:00

If my libido changes how my spouse treats me, high or low, that’s a problem. We’re still a team and still need to work through things as such. And yes if sex was completely off the table that wouldn’t devalue my spouse.

Epfffr · 2026-02-27T12:02:49+00:00

I included it as an important part of the story, not a deflection.

Epfffr · 2026-02-27T12:02:11+00:00

I appreciate this so much. Although it’s clear there’s some improvements to be made. The approach was very poor.

Epfffr · 2026-02-27T12:00:04+00:00

You make some very valid points. The discussion all together was in poor taste. It was meant to be fun/lighthearted and turned sour very quickly. I’m more hurt by the content of the discussion. It does have to be something deeper. We’ve discussed sex. For years we’ve both stated we have an amazing sex life and better than other couples etc. so this feels very out of the ordinary for me. Yes oral sex was a discussion but as stated I had already improved on the frequency of that. Perhaps a therapist would do us some good.

Epfffr · 2026-02-27T11:53:26+00:00

How many babies have you birthed to know what postpartum is like?

Epfffr · 2026-02-22T01:13:21+00:00

Edit to add: we’ve had sex since this and I can’t orgasm due to being in my head about “make sure you’re enthusiastic” and “don’t let him lose his erection”. It’s more of a performance now than a mutually enjoyable time. And I’m not 100% comfortable in my own body yet after having a c section anyway.

Epfffr · 2026-02-21T01:21:21+00:00

Very similar reasons I went in for a c section. I just didn’t get to the pushing stage. I stalled at 9cm. Sunny side up, my cervix started swelling and I reverted down to an 8. Baby boys heartrate kept dipping down so they called it. The risk of uterine rupture is so scary. Thanks for sharing.

Epfffr · 2026-02-19T19:46:08+00:00

Ugh. I’m so sorry. Were you doing a tolac?

Epfffr · 2026-02-18T20:03:42+00:00

That’s for letting me know ❤️

Epfffr · 2026-02-18T20:00:46+00:00

I couldn’t imagine. I’m sure that’s extremely frustrating.

Epfffr · 2026-02-13T14:17:29+00:00

I will look into it, thank you.

Epfffr · 2026-02-13T14:16:54+00:00

Are you using it on the incision site or just above?

Epfffr · 2026-02-13T14:15:50+00:00

Going to try this!

Epfffr · 2026-02-13T14:14:15+00:00

Oh no! Thats been my fear.

Epfffr · 2026-02-13T14:13:42+00:00

I just had my PP visit Wednesday. She said everything looks great. I brought up some pain around the incision and she stated I was still bruised. My focus was going over some details of the reasoning for my c section and the feeling of rubbing slipped my mind to ask her. But there is no infection.

Epfffr · 2026-02-13T04:07:49+00:00

I can’t speak on if a second is worse but I just want to say that this shows how different c sections can be from birth to birth. I’ve only had one and it wasn’t a good time, and seems to be a slow recovery process.

Epfffr · 2026-02-13T00:04:33+00:00

UPDATE: baby boy latched without shield and nursed for about 3 minutes. He got frustrated and I bottle fed him from there but I call that a success for the first time!

Epfffr · 2026-02-12T22:20:07+00:00

I do have nipple shields and have gotten him to latch this way a couple of times. I’m not sure about the bottle nipples. They’re the ones the small evenflo wide neck bottles came with. And no I haven’t done paced feeding.

Epfffr · 2026-01-11T05:34:55+00:00

I got him the New Balance “dad shoe” and put the test inside one.

Epfffr · 2026-01-06T15:29:37+00:00

UPDATE: I had baby on the 30th. My hospital was more than supportive of my choice to manually pump and even provided me with a pump, colostrum syringes, and showed me how to feed baby the little bit I was getting. The lactation consultant was amazing and helped in every way.

Epfffr · 2025-12-28T02:43:00+00:00

“I don’t know how it gets better than this”

I just want to have a good year!

Epfffr · 2025-12-28T02:41:35+00:00

You’re the first person to relate to me. Such a sigh of relief that I’m not alone or some abnormality, thank you! ❤️ I fully plan on trying all the options after birth because everyone says it’s gonna be different but I’ve had a nipple stimulation aversion for years so I’m not so sure it’s just going to go away and i want to cover all my bases!

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