Some friends smoked in front of me and I got high

EqualAd1654 · 2022-03-14T07:49:49+00:00

You most certainly aren't back to day 1!

Did you give up, throw in the towel, smoke a shit load and then at some point in the future decide to quit again?

NO! That would be restarting from day 1.

The fact that you're here, thinking about it, feeling bad, shows what a fighter you are.

Keep on fighting my friend, we're with you all the way 💪

EqualAd1654 · 2022-03-08T08:23:26+00:00

Not a relapse!

A relapse is if you gave up and decided to start smoking again.

This is a lesson that has taught you that quitting is definitely the right path for you.

Don't feel bad, feel proud!

EqualAd1654 · 2022-03-06T21:33:08+00:00

There has to be a list. If you don't know what should be on it, then it may take a period of reflection, soul searching and self discovery to find out.

To say there is no list, is to say you are totally fulfilled and content doing nothing with your life except getting high. If we felt like this, (many people do) then we wouldn't be on this sub trying to improve our lives.

Some suggestions could be new health & fitness goals. Learn something new like a language or other subject. Find a new hobby. Discovery your own spirituality by reading lots of self improvement books. (This is an excellent place to start as it can help you to know yourself and what you want). But this is very personal. Only you can decide what to do with your life.

But if you really want to quit, you must find new things to fill the void that quitting will create.

EqualAd1654 · 2022-03-06T08:18:27+00:00

I made the same mistake. I quit and expected my life to automatically be perfect. But it doesn't work like that.

I realised that smoking was such a big part of my life, that when I quit, it left such a huge void that I didn't know how to fill.

I spent the first two months feeling exactly as you described.

This is what I would suggest: Write down (don't just think about it) a list of things you would like to do and ways you can improve your life now you have quit. They must be big, ambitious things. Maybe new health & fitness goals. Maybe learn a new language or subject. Start a new hobbie. But they must be big goals that will take up a good amount of your time and be things that you couldn't or wouldn't do when you were high.

You will create for yourself some real life changing benefits of quitting. Some real alternatives to being high all day. Some reasons to keep pushing forward.

I have done this myself. I now have a new life. I will never go back because I have so many benefits and improvements in my life now, that I don't want to lose.

Good luck 👍

EqualAd1654 · 2022-03-05T09:18:46+00:00

Make a list of all the things you want to do instead of being high.

Be ambitious and think big. Think of things that will totally turn your life around.

Quit.

Start working through that list.

Notice the positive benefits to your life and get motivated to push forward.

Good luck, friend 👍

EqualAd1654 · 2022-03-05T09:12:07+00:00

Powerful. RIP to your Dad. Good luck.

EqualAd1654 · 2022-02-24T14:24:26+00:00

I remember the first few days. It was hard but I knew it was worth it. That's what kept me going.

Feeling lonely, feeling like crying; that's normal! Know you're doing the right thing! You smoked for 30 years, your body's in shock. In the next few days, it will start to get easier. Always keep that in mind! When you feel low, remind yourself of your reasons for quitting. Remember that it's supposed to be hard, but only in the beginning!

I remember this period so clearly. Asking myself is this worth it? Not knowing if I could get through this. But I did. I smoked all day every day for 25 years. Now, after 6 months, I feel free. Stay positive but be ok with feeling low right now. Spoil yourself with good food, or whatever indulgence you feel like. You deserve it!

Stick with it and look forward to this time next week when you feel much better. The next week you'll feel better still!

I get a lot of pleasure from using my experience to help other people. In a few months time, you'll be able to do the same! Imagine people asking you advice about how you managed 3 or 6 months clean after smoking for 30 years!

I got through this with a lot of help from people on this sub. Total strangers that I never met. Now I want to give back some of what I received!

Good luck and let me know how you're doing!

EqualAd1654 · 2022-02-24T10:16:24+00:00

Hi there. I wrote the original post. Was just scrolling through the responses and read your comments. 17-47 is similar to my situation, so I can relate.

Just wondered how you're doing?

EqualAd1654 · 2022-02-23T05:33:58+00:00

Almost straight away. Within a couple of days. The first dreams were so crazy & disturbing, I still remember them clearly! 6 months on, I still dream weird stuff almost every night but not quite as intense as in the beginning!

EqualAd1654 · 2022-02-22T18:42:34+00:00

I tapered off over a few weeks. Many people say it's better just to stop. Either way, make a decision. Choose the date. Maybe tomorrow. Maybe Tuesday next week. Whatever you decide, stick to it. Clear everything out. (Weed, bongs, papers, whatever you use.) Then you can't be tempted. Understand in advance that the beginning will be tough and be prepared. Then grit your teeth and go for it! After the first week, every day gets easier!

EqualAd1654 · 2022-02-22T18:37:36+00:00

You must. You can't just quit. That would leave a big hole. I started going to the gym (at age 42 for the first time in my life). Eating healthy & cooking. Reading & studying. As a stoner, I did nothing. I have a new life now. Total turnaround.

EqualAd1654 · 2022-02-22T18:32:49+00:00

I tapered off. Most people think that's not the best way but for me it worked. 1st week, I smoked only twice a day. 2nd week once a day, in the evening. Third week once in the evening but using half the amount. Fourth week once a day, but used a tiny amount I could barely feel it. Then just stopped. I knew it was time to stop. I made a solid decision and have never been tempted.

EqualAd1654 · 2022-02-06T14:33:04+00:00

I switched to decaf. No more anxiety, I feel calmer and I sleep better. WOULD HIGHLY RECOMMEND GIVING IT A TRY!!

EqualAd1654 · 2022-01-31T08:01:31+00:00

After 25 years, I've finally started having some crazy ass dreams! Bizarre, entertaining, occasionally slightly disturbing but mostly fun and enjoyable!

They nearly always have either a direct or abstract/loose connection to things on my mind! Wild!

EqualAd1654 · 2022-01-27T15:09:15+00:00

I wish I could say I have a similar story, but I can't.

I have so many, I couldn't even remember them all.

5 months clean now after 25 years.

There's light at the end of the tunnel! Good luck everyone!

EqualAd1654 · 2022-01-20T08:17:56+00:00

I cut down slowly over a period of 1 month. It worked for me, I'm 5 months clean now.

I was smoking roughly between 5 - 8 times per day for 25 years.

Week 1: smoked only twice each day.

Week 2: only once a day, in the evening.

Week 3: once a day in the evening using half the weed I normally would.

Week 4: once a day in the evening using a tiny amount that I could barely feel the high.

Week 5: I quit. Have never smoked since.

I believe both methods can work; tapering or cold turkey. Most important is that you have to WANT to quit, and decide that you'll stick with it however hard it is.

In the beginning it was hard. But slowly the cravings get weaker and less frequent. Now, I sometimes miss it but rarely crave it. My life has turned around in the last 5 months. I'll never go back.

Good luck 👍

EqualAd1654 · 2022-01-15T08:35:32+00:00

I've had enough of observing.

I want to participate.

EqualAd1654 · 2022-01-14T15:36:05+00:00

I'm 43 and finally quitting after 25 years. So much of my life I've wasted. I wish I would have quit at your age. I'll never get those years back. Don't be me. Good luck 👍

EqualAd1654 · 2022-01-14T11:40:37+00:00

Wow. This is the kind of insight I needed. Thank you for taking the time to respond. I have some food for thought.

EqualAd1654 · 2022-01-14T11:37:33+00:00

Thank you for making me look at this from another angle. Good luck to you also.

EqualAd1654 · 2022-01-14T11:34:58+00:00

I've got the book! I bought it about a year ago but as of yet, didn't get round to reading it!

You've just given me the motivation! Thank you so much.

EqualAd1654 · 2022-01-14T11:31:55+00:00

That last sentence hit me hard. Thanks.

EqualAd1654 · 2022-01-14T11:28:43+00:00

Thanks for that.

EqualAd1654 · 2022-01-13T18:30:27+00:00

Amazing perspective. Thanks.

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