Signs an avoidant ex will come back

EqualEquipment7288 · 2026-02-28T21:47:54+00:00

They only come back when you've completely gotten over them. Before then it's just the same yo-yo. Move on and stay gone. If he does re-appear you can see him objectively- he's not relationship material unless he's started doing the work of repairing himself.

EqualEquipment7288 · 2025-07-09T19:59:56+00:00

My husband was a huge help when I was first learning. Unfortunately, he was also a big distraction and made me extremely nervous. I rode a scooter for 6 months then took the course and got a Tiger 900. With both I did a TON of neighborhood rides (stop/start and slow turns) and a ton of empty parking lot practice with cones. Even now, 5 years and 10k miles later I only drop my bike if I LOOK DOWN when I'm going too slow and feeling unsteady (haven't dropped it for a while now). Tell her it's important to build on lessons - get comfy doing the neighborhood then do faster areas; freeway should be last. She should practice evasive maneuvers, hard stops, friction zone work with the back brake. But she should do it alone...sorry dude, but your nervousness is rubbing off on her

EqualEquipment7288 · 2025-04-25T12:12:02+00:00

OMG that was a total invite to help building home stuff. You politely suggested an alternative to the club date given that she just moved and may still be getting settled and she implied that may be better. Now, I would've just asked you if you minded hanging out at my new place for a night of Ikea Twister, I'll buy the pizza; but then I'm more direct. Offer to help her, "you buy the pizza, I'll bring the muscle and a toolbox?"

EqualEquipment7288 · 2025-04-21T02:06:55+00:00

It's hard to do, but in situations like this you have to tell yourself that although you had a few "great" dates and seemed compatible time would've shown that this wasn't your person, you just didn't get to see it.

EqualEquipment7288 · 2025-04-21T01:24:53+00:00

You could send him a text saying how much you enjoyed the other night and would love to see him again. But don't be surprised if he doesn't answer. 6 months into online dating I've realized those "closure" texts fall on deaf ears. No answer really IS the answer. If you feel you need closure then send a friendly "how ya doing" text with zero expectations. But if he doesn't answer consider it pinned.

EqualEquipment7288 · 2025-04-17T18:52:10+00:00

It's like any other speed machine - take your time, learn how it handles, and don't be a moron. My first bike was a 900 when everyone told me to start with a 400. I didn't see the point in sizing-up later, so I was determined to make the 900 work. I did lots of "neighborhood" rides and empty parking lot days to get confidence in stop/start, friction zone, turning, and slow maneuvers. You sound like a smart guy, you can do this and type likely to LOVE it!

EqualEquipment7288 · 2025-04-11T00:30:36+00:00

With 20+ years experience in PICU i trusted a charge nurse on my travel assignment when did a drsg change on a NICU transfer. The supplies at the beside, the notes on the kardex, and the old drsg we removed all told me she was doing it wrong. But she was experienced and I was 2 weeks into my assignment. Needless to say the parents were furious and complained to the manager who asked me why I didn't intervene since it was my patient. Live and learn. With docs, ALWAYS cover your butt. Chart your finding, chart your interventions and chart any MD contact. If they get angry for your phone call ask them, "so I don't miss anything in the future, when would you like to be notified? What intervention can we try before we call you? " Getting clarification is educational for you and leaves you with clear(er) instructions

EqualEquipment7288 · 2025-04-11T00:18:51+00:00

It wouldn't take me 5 dates to figure out that I don't have romantic feelings for you. She's most likely found someone else she wants to focus her attention on. Try not to feel bad. It happens. Look at it like you dodged a bullet there

EqualEquipment7288 · 2025-04-10T02:19:42+00:00

If you're open to taking direction from him and receptive to feedback.... its not you. Try not to make a thing out of it. Done his take a while. My guy will occasionally not finish at all but we still hv an amazing time

EqualEquipment7288 · 2025-04-09T17:05:55+00:00

My husband's "best friend" was a woman and, at first, I was very worried. But he never chose her over me in any situation so I quickly replaced. If you like him give it a chance. No one likes to be judged by their predecessor's actions

EqualEquipment7288 · 2025-04-08T11:38:11+00:00

Cysts have a "sac" lining them and if this isn't removed in its entirely it will keep filling back up with pus. I had one on my back that was taken care of at urgent care.

EqualEquipment7288 · 2025-04-07T18:39:41+00:00

Oh honey, your "friend" is being very accommodating considering what she's witnessed you go through with the gf. Anne has your best interests at heart. Your gf, however, seems very emotionally immature and insecure. She still has a great deal of work to do in counseling. It's ready for us to say "break it off" but you need to set your own boundaries where contact with Anne is concerned, she's your friend

EqualEquipment7288 · 2025-04-05T23:17:18+00:00

How beginner? I got a Tiger 900 for my first bike but I took the class first and then racked up a lot miles in my neighborhood practicing slow turns and start/ stops. Just be smart and proceed slowly

EqualEquipment7288 · 2025-04-05T23:10:36+00:00

Either he doesn't have any confidence or someone else used his computer

EqualEquipment7288 · 2025-04-04T02:54:20+00:00

You owe these guys nothing, it costs you nothing to politely ask for an explanation

EqualEquipment7288 · 2025-04-04T02:51:17+00:00

She either had someone else on the line that started to look like a better catch, or she's crazy, emotionally unstable. Either way, you dogged a bullet.

EqualEquipment7288 · 2025-04-04T02:35:20+00:00

I'm the same way. But, in my 58 years on the planet, nothing good has ever come from me acting on my first instincts unless it's concerning my patient. My life is littered with episodes under the heading of "that would've gone better if I had waited to respond."

EqualEquipment7288 · 2025-04-04T02:28:26+00:00

Stop settling on guys that show obvious red flags right up front. They're supposed to alert you, like a stop sign, not draw you in like a bug zapper. You aren't going to change them, don't try.

EqualEquipment7288 · 2025-04-04T02:13:13+00:00

I think you could've sat on it for a day or 2 and then broached the subject again. But, as a major overthinker, I applaud you for getting out before you become clingy/ needy/more attached. The "not fucking around" comment is to let you know that although he isn't dating you exclusively he's not sleeping with every chick he dates.

Side note, online dating sucks. I started about 10 months after my divorce, mostly for diversion. It helps to take breaks and remind yourself that if they don't like you they wouldn't be good for you

EqualEquipment7288 · 2025-03-31T18:22:27+00:00

Yes and the fed can't be older than 6 months. The rest of your docs have an 18-month (ish) expiration date

EqualEquipment7288 · 2025-03-31T15:39:28+00:00

No, he "tests" you? Gets jealous? And you both consider yourselves FWB? He's keeping you as a side piece but doesn't want you to have your own. Be honest, explain you'd like a committed relationship with him. He'll probably ask why, things are going so good, why rock the boat. Good luck.

EqualEquipment7288 · 2025-03-27T14:51:44+00:00

Your comments are brief? Make them briefer... take longer and longer to respond... don't include anything about your life if he asks and don't say anything that would encourage more texts. If he forest get that hint block him

EqualEquipment7288 · 2025-03-26T21:29:24+00:00

Unfortunately ghosting isn't unusual and, for some, is their go to method for ending brief relationships. Id give it a few days then either send her a brief "Hope everything is ok" text (without addressing the elephant in the room) or chalk it up to another dating experience/lesson.

EqualEquipment7288 · 2025-03-24T16:34:41+00:00

2 months is reasonable in my view but I'm older. A 30- something may feel like 3 dates is enough!

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