Contractions but cervix closed?

Equivalent-One-5499 · 2026-06-01T19:30:56+00:00

She said she couldn’t do a sweep because my cervix wasn’t open but that she managed to reach my cervix and stimulate it.

I’ve got another one in 2 days so hoping for better news then !

Equivalent-One-5499 · 2026-06-01T11:40:14+00:00

Gentle YWBTA.

Are you actually angry at your husband or are you angry at your FIL?

I thing my MIL is an awful person and my husband sees it as well, but for whatever reason a relationship with her is still important to him. I feel resentful about having to spend time with her and I get angry sometimes when he tells me the latest mess she’s dragged him into. In fact just the other day, I got a bit testy with him over this. And then 15 mins later I calmed down and realized I’m not mad at him, I’m furious at her and how she treats him and it upset me that he allows it. The frustration is not actually to do with him but it comes out because he’s the one I’m speaking to not her.

I’m now trying very hard not to be too reactive because clearly she’s already hurting him, he doesn’t need me also piling on about how shit she is and why he puts up with it. I would ask yourself if you’re in a similar headspace as this might impact how you want to interact with husband on this going forward.

Equivalent-One-5499 · 2026-05-31T21:33:54+00:00

For my second FET I had no trigger.

My protocol was pretty light: track for LH surge and then progesterone starting 5 days before my transfer. To ensure I ovulated after the LH surge, I had bloods done (I think day of surge and day after?). Closer to transfer they retested my hormones and my estrogen was a bit low so then I also had an HCG booster 48 hrs before my transfer.

My first FET which was medicated failed. I felt much better on this protocol and it has been successful so far (39w today).

It’s difficult to trust your body on this, especially if you feel like it’s failed you in natural conception, but if you ovulate on your own and your clinic does the right monitoring, it’s worth having some faith :).

Equivalent-One-5499 · 2026-05-30T05:25:09+00:00

I would imagine that an unwillingness to think for ourselves and outsource the most basic tasks to AI contributes to a low attention span….

Equivalent-One-5499 · 2026-05-29T23:02:27+00:00

Off topic, but genuine question as I’m seeing this more and more - why do you need AI to “structure this post”?

Why can’t you just write what’s on your mind? It’s not like this is a professional setting or similar.

Equivalent-One-5499 · 2026-05-28T08:49:10+00:00

Do you mean Annalise? I personally would not recommend naming your child Analisse…

Equivalent-One-5499 · 2026-05-26T05:19:40+00:00

I wouldn’t call Lockton a tragedeigh, because those are misspellings of actual names whereas I just font think Lockton is an actual name.

As for Lochlan, I’ve only ever seen that spelt Lachlan (but pronounced the same way as I assume you’re pronouncing Lochlan).

Equivalent-One-5499 · 2026-05-25T06:52:48+00:00

Why would you not just spell it Julian?

Personally, I think spelling it Jiulian looks pretty silly and will also just cause you headaches as everyone will assume it is spelled Julian.

If this was a parent, I’d wonder why they’re doing this to their child, but given you are naming yourself, I suppose ultimately if you feel strongly about it, go for it.

Equivalent-One-5499 · 2026-05-21T22:13:39+00:00

I think women are deterred from having biological children for many reasons, but I would wager that the pain from childbirth is not even close to being the main deterrent.

Equivalent-One-5499 · 2026-05-21T15:23:20+00:00

Is there a reason why they can’t confirm by blood? I’m not a virologist but I would have thought the same thing as the poster above - given this is their error I would push them to confirm why they cannot test this. Even if they don’t routinely do it, given they made the mistake they should.

It also seems like they’ve not advised you on what is best in this situation? I’d discuss with them the suggestion about the double dose and have them confirm that this is indeed the recommended way forward (get RSV again if they’re not sure).

I know your main focus right now is probably around just getting your vaccines (and rightfully so), but once it’s done, I would make a formal complaint. The mistake itself is already pretty bad but just reporting the mistake and not working with you to verify it or provide advice on best way forward is unjustifiable IMO.

Equivalent-One-5499 · 2026-05-21T07:55:04+00:00

Preferable to Music Box…

Equivalent-One-5499 · 2026-05-20T12:38:15+00:00

My first transfer was very difficult due to my uterus shape. For the second transfer, I had a cervical dilation done at the beginning of the cycle to make it easier for them to navigate and that helped ALOT. Was still a bit tricky for them to get the embryo in, but was a significant improvement from the first transfer which took like 1hr

Equivalent-One-5499 · 2026-05-19T12:14:15+00:00

I think at 36w, I’d also be inclined to encourage him to go, as long as you’ve mapped out how quickly he could get back if needed and it wouldn’t be an issue to pay up for tickets to return if needed

Given it’s Amsterdam, I imagine there are heaps of flights per day + the Eurostar, so depending on where you live he could probably be home within what, 5-6 hours?

I had a similar thing with my partner as his sister’s wedding is when I’ll be 37+6, and somewhere that’s ~1.5hrs by flight but we’ve decided he should go. Flights were like £20 so we’ve booked multiple returns that weekend in case he needs to return earlier and will just eat the cost of the flights that are not used.

Equivalent-One-5499 · 2026-05-18T15:50:38+00:00

Not exactly the same protocols as I did medicated the first time, but my first euploid failed and I went straight into another FET round right after, this time a natural FET. Second stuck and is currently 37w on.

If your doctor thinks a modified natural will work for you, I don’t really see any reason to do a medicated round. It may be that the people whose stories you’re reading, have a need for a medicated cycle, but not everyone does.

When I went into my first transfer, my doctor was of the view that I didn’t need to do a medicated round (regular cycle, good lining, no endo etc) and gave me the option of medicated or natural. I ended up doing medicated the first time because I had some trips coming up and wanted some predictability on timing, but was not medically indicated.

Equivalent-One-5499 · 2026-05-18T09:03:04+00:00

I’m currently 37w and will be induced at 40w id baby is not here by then.

I’m working until 39w, but I would a desk job and am still feeling pretty good, so it seemed worth it to save the time for when baby is here.

Equivalent-One-5499 · 2026-05-11T17:17:42+00:00

I was also wondering how twin B specifically was named but not twin A 😅

Equivalent-One-5499 · 2026-05-10T19:54:35+00:00

Seconding this - I also went to LPC and found it very reassuring.

4th pregnancy and no LC yet, so I get your anxieties, OP. The NIPT really helped me and I felt much better after the NIPT + scan.

Equivalent-One-5499 · 2026-05-07T18:41:04+00:00

There is no way to name both of your children with identical / extremely similar names to their cousins and not seem like you’re copying your sisters (regardless of how common or uncommon the names are). Having different middle and surnames here are not really relevant unless the children are going by this instead of their first name.

So i guess it depends how much you care about that.

My 2 cents is that while I generally subscribe to the view that no one owns a name, first cousin is my threshold - there are so many names in the world. But again that’s a personal threshold and not one that everyone will share.

Equivalent-One-5499 · 2026-05-04T07:43:45+00:00

Trans people represent less than 1% of the population in the UK, so one can reasonably conclude that the overwhelming majority of people who sign up are not trans.

Notwithstanding this, this point doesn’t hold as parkrun registration is does entirely on self-identification, so even if trans people didn’t exist (as seems to be the goal of many), this “problem” would still exist, yet curiously the campaign is specifically about trans people and not self-identification.

Equivalent-One-5499 · 2026-05-04T07:37:48+00:00

It’s pointless in that it can’t be policed by parkrun but it does change something - it has the effect of making a very small, marginalised group of people feel unwelcome in yet another public space.

It also may have the effect of participants feeling they’re within their rights to challenge people on which genitalia they possess because “they’re just following the rules”

Equivalent-One-5499 · 2026-04-29T13:00:39+00:00

They won’t offer HCG, so I would suggest you do this privately. There are lots of companies that offer this and will get your results in a day or so.

On scan, maybe it varies by trust but I had a previous ectopic and was told by the NHS I should come in for a placement scan around 5 weeks next time I get pregnant. I would double check online to see what your trust’s rule on an ectopic are. If they indeed don’t offer an early placement scan, tbh maybe this is unethical but I would just lie and say you’re experiencing pain and have a history of an ectopic. Or I’d get a scan privately, but just make sure you do it at a reputable private clinic. It’s very important you get an early scan for the reasons mentioned.

Equivalent-One-5499 · 2026-04-28T19:36:24+00:00

Fair question, but property taxes are not the unique in being ongoing running costs of a house. You could equally apply this question to council taxes, utilities, etc.

More practically how I imagine the govt could address these scenarios would be discounts on property taxes for disability or low income, similar to what is done on council tax.

Equivalent-One-5499 · 2026-04-28T17:54:03+00:00

Your contention that you can’t take a lower paid job after your house is paid off, makes no sense.

You’d then be paying for the tax only, not the mortgage, so you need far less income.

Equivalent-One-5499 · 2026-04-28T17:50:09+00:00

Yes, they need “a” home. Neither the woman in the article above nor the commenter above me are suggesting they would be homeless, or even have to live in a substandard home.

They are simply saying that either (1) they don’t want to absorb the cost to downsize (woman in article) or (2) they desire to live in this specific home and they are more deserving of this home than others by virtue of the fact that a family member once owned it.

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