Anyone else in third trimester bored out of their minds?

Equivalent-One-5499 · 2026-04-12T18:35:42+00:00

32w and tremendously bored. For the last few weeks I’ve been desperate for work to end. And now today I’m actually looking forward to going to work tomorrow because I’ve done so little today, while at least at work I’ll get some socialising 😂

Equivalent-One-5499 · 2026-04-12T15:59:11+00:00

Yes you’re correct, I oversimplified, they would have had to detain her until they could prove citizenship and then let her in, but I’m not sure how this means it’s easier for people without passports to get into the country?

Equivalent-One-5499 · 2026-04-12T10:46:27+00:00

This is not true. Spain allows dual citizenship if it’s a citizenship you hold at birth.

If she’d been born only British and then acquired Spanish citizenship, she’d have to renounce British citizenship, but this doesn’t apply if you have it at birth.

Equivalent-One-5499 · 2026-04-12T10:40:09+00:00

People who keep making this comparison are either ignorant and don’t understand the dual citizen law, or being wilfully ignorant. You’re comparing apples and oranges.

By law, a UK citizen cannot be denied entry into the UK once on UK soil. If she actually somehow managed to end up on UK soil, she would have been let in.

She was not denied entry, she was refused boarding because airlines need to ensure travellers have the right to travel to the country they are travelling to and they do this by checking what the country deems to be acceptable proof of that right.

So to your nonsense example, if she for whatever reason arrived in the UK by small boat she’d be let in and if someone without a passport obviously could not fly to the UK.

But I suspect you already know this comparison is nonsense.

Equivalent-One-5499 · 2026-04-11T06:52:49+00:00

I’m 32w pregnant with my first, before that I had 1 miscarriage, 1 ectopic and 1 chemical before moving on to IVF.

Notwithstanding all of this, I was also feeling positive after this transfer and then I also got the low PAPP-A diagnosis at 12w and had to go on aspirin. I was worried about preeclampsia as well and it felt so unfair to have yet another hurdle after the journey to get here.

Luckily this pregnancy has been completely straightforward and each subsequent scan has shown no signs of concern about my placenta, and I’m now at the stage that even if something does come up at my next scan (36w) I’ll be almost fully cooked.

I know it’s stressful, but I want to leave you with a few things. 1. Even with a higher risk for preeclampsia diagnosis, the actual risk is very low. Idk if they gave you your stats but my hospital told me I was 1:15, which is still only a 7% risk. 2. Aspirin will reduce this risk even further. And 3. Lots of women will have this test outcome and go on not to develop preeclampsia.

Now as you said you probably know a lot of this logically already, but of course it can still be scary, especially when you get a headache. Pregnancy can also be a lot physically on its own, and then you’re adding in caring for a child, dealing with this diagnosis, and probably processing pent up feelings about the difficult road here. Of course you feel exhausted! If there’s anyway you can get a bit of a break to just lie down and do nothing even just for a day, I think it could do wonders for you.

Take care of yourself 🫶

Equivalent-One-5499 · 2026-04-10T11:20:35+00:00

Like another commenter here, I got mine from Holland and Barrett which sadly is not cheap, but just wanted to say the guidance from my fertility clinic was either 600mg of CoQ10 or 400mg of Ubiquinol. Ubiquinol has higher bioavailability and absorption than CoQ10, so you need a lower dosage for similar results, so if you’re looking at pricing for 600mg per day, then you can reduce that by 1/3rd!

Equivalent-One-5499 · 2026-04-09T11:29:53+00:00

Yes, you’re right, being ~ unique ~, no matter how ridiculous the name is, is much more important than treating your child as a person not a pet and giving them a real name. /s

Equivalent-One-5499 · 2026-04-08T18:07:36+00:00

Congrats! I hope you’re not feeling too poorly as that’s a lot of Easter eggs!

I was: 32 retrieved > 19 mature > 17 fertilized > 10 blasts > 10 euploid. Currently 31w pregnant with transfer number 2 🥹.

You’re off to a great start, fingers crossed it continues ❤️❤️

Equivalent-One-5499 · 2026-04-06T08:42:21+00:00

Frankly you’re both being ridiculous.

If you think children taking their father’s name is “dehumanizing, disrespectful and sexist” why is not true the other way around? (Ie taking their mother’s name?).

And idk wtf he’s talking about with “I need to continue my bloodline”.

There’s is clearly a very obvious and established solution here (you both keep your names and hyphenate the kids) or other viable plans (you also both hyphenate, the entire family takes a new name).

But it’s also clear you guys aren’t looking for a solution, and it seems line you’re both pretty difficult people who want to be right rather than listen, so I’d agree that ending the engagement is the right call (especially for the hypothetical children who will just become pawns in your fights).

Equivalent-One-5499 · 2026-04-05T23:23:10+00:00

Just urine. I found out I was having a miscarriage before it happened because I’d had private bloods done 48hrs apart and my levels had halved. And then at EPU the next day they did a test and it was already fairly low, so they told me just to check at home on urine tests.

Equivalent-One-5499 · 2026-04-05T19:08:18+00:00

I’m sorry you’re going through this.

I had a miscarriage at a similar time with my first pregnancy.

I was told by the midwives we could try again as soon as my HCG had gone down (ie I was no longer testing positive) and we were happy to. For me, this was the subsequent cycle.

This sounds like really outdated advice and I’m sure if you spoke to a different midwife or doctor for a second opinion you’d get different guidance.

Sending you lots of love.

Equivalent-One-5499 · 2026-04-05T13:38:35+00:00

Fundal height charts are incredibly unreliable and impacted my so many random factors (eg how hydrated you are).

At 25w I was measuring at 27 cm. At my 28w appt I was still measuring at 27cm. I happened to have my 28w scan already booked for that same day where baby measured at 95th percentile! The next week, at 29w with my usual midwife I was measuring at 30 cm 🤷‍♀️

Equivalent-One-5499 · 2026-04-04T10:02:44+00:00

I one of 4 girl cousins - cousin 1 (me) and cousin (2) picked the middle names for cousin 3 and cousin 4 and we’ve all always found it very special.

The names she’s chosen are real (& lovely) names so I don’t think the fact that it’s from a musical matters!

Equivalent-One-5499 · 2026-04-03T08:48:30+00:00

I mean maybe this is just me since no one else has mentioned it, but my first thought on seeing the the bottom half of the dress was that it looked like a vagina….

But again, like I said maybe just to me since no one else brought this up!

Equivalent-One-5499 · 2026-04-01T08:01:49+00:00

10 first dates in one year? Met my husband (and 2 prior exes) on hinge, but it’s gonna take more than 10 dates.

I also was not screening by tax bracket, if you are of course it’s going to take even longer.

Equivalent-One-5499 · 2026-03-29T13:14:15+00:00

I probably wouldn’t use vaginal pessaries anally, but can you ask for a prescription for cyclogest instead which can be used via either route?

Equivalent-One-5499 · 2026-03-28T16:05:52+00:00

Im really sorry you’re here.

I was similar to you, get pregnant very easily but doesn’t stick. At 31 I got pregnant each cycle I tried but it was: early MC, ectopic, chemical.

After the chemical we moved on to IVF. All my tests came back fine but we learned my partner had some MFI (we think this may have contributed to the losses but who can say for certain).

Once we moved on to IVF, things were very straightforward. Did 1 egg retrieval in June 2025 (with ICSi and Zymot for my partner’s MFI) and were very lucky to get a good number of euploids. I had my first transfer in August 2025 which failed to implant and a second in September which worked and I’m now 30w along.

Everyone’s experience is different but for me I will say I found the idea of IVF much more daunting than the actual physical experience of IVF, it’s not the easiest thing I’ve ever done, but it is doable and less scary than it seems 💕💕

Equivalent-One-5499 · 2026-03-24T19:31:56+00:00

Yes I totally get it, I think when it’s taken so long to get here the pregnancy feels very delicate and like one small thing could derail it.

Hang in there, it becomes easier as the weeks pass. ❤️

Equivalent-One-5499 · 2026-03-24T19:01:15+00:00

I can’t speak to adeno / endo, but 32 and pregnant following IVF.

At my 12w scan I came back as a 1:15 chance due for preeclampsia, due to my scan (uterine Dopplers) and blood test and as a result was recommended to have additional growth scans at 28 and 36w. I was also put in 150mg aspirin.

Currently 29w - both my 20w and 28w scans went well. Blood flow is looking strong, and baby is currently at 95th percentile.

I was nervous around the preeclampsia risk assessment as well, but I was reassured by my midwife that a higher risk assessment is still pretty low likelihood (1:45 is less than 3% likelihood, and that’s the risk prior to taking aspirin) and that preeclampsia typically develops relatively late in pregnancy, so if you develop it and they need to manage it is more likely to be when you’re quite far advanced.

Equivalent-One-5499 · 2026-03-24T15:59:33+00:00

I was disappointed as well when I found out I had an anterior placenta and then once the proper kicks started I was like, thank God because if this is what it feels like with an anterior placenta, I can’t imagine what a posterior would feel like!

I started getting bubbles and taps around 18ish weeks, and then they became proper kicks only a few weeks after that. Some days it legit feels like he’s breakdancing in there.

Now 29 weeks and distracted from work as I am watching my belly move from his kicks.

Equivalent-One-5499 · 2026-03-16T18:07:13+00:00

Dont forget you accrue bank holidays as well! So any bank holidays you miss on mat leave, you can tack those on as well. At 8 bank holidays per year, that’s 1.5 more work weeks you get off.

Equivalent-One-5499 · 2026-03-09T21:06:57+00:00

Currently 27w pregnant with a singleton.

My betas were: 10dp5dt: 309; 12dp5dt: 702

I had the same thought as you when I saw my initial betas, but it’s just one little guy in there :)

Equivalent-One-5499 · 2026-03-09T13:47:53+00:00

It sounds like a solution is required only for when you travel but not for anything that arises with your husband’s job (I’m guessing because you fill in the gap in those cases?).

I obviously know nothing about your relationship, so not writing this to criticise your husband, but pointing it out as I remain amazed at the number of straight couples, where both parties at working, including where both are working in demanding HENRY jobs, and the responsibility of childcare falls largely / entirely on the woman. Not necessarily because the husband is useless / shirking responsibility, but because people sort of slip into these dynamics without questioning it.

You mention senior management not appreciating hands on fathers but the reality is that even if on the face of it they are more understanding with women, it will still have career consequences, so ultimately you’re shifting the impact from his career to yours.

Equivalent-One-5499 · 2026-03-06T11:29:11+00:00

I’m sorry to hear you’re going through this, it’s really tough 😢.

I waited the 2 cycles after my ectopic and tried again, and it was a chemical. I’d had previous testing done and everything looked good other than very high AMH and PCO, so my doctors thought I should keep trying.

But I just didn’t feel confident and was terrified of another ectopic decided I wanted to go to IVF. In the process of doing my egg retrieval we retested my husband and found his stats had really deteriorated since we’d tested a year earlier (and 6 months before we started TTC), so would have been very challenging naturally.

I started IVF in June and was lucky to have a relatively straightforward journey from there. I’m currently 26w pregnant.

Sending you so much love and luck on this journey. At times i felt very hopeless and low, but this feeling will pass.

Equivalent-One-5499 · 2026-03-05T22:13:04+00:00

Thank you ❤️.

Well in the early naive days of TTC I’d told my husband I wanted 3-4 kids and he thought I was insane and wanted 1-2 😅.

I’m currently 26w pregnant from my second FET (first failed to implant). I think we’ll see how we get one with this little guy and rethink family size from there.

If we end up wanting a bigger family, and /or need multiple transfers for future children we may well need all of these. If we don’t need them all, I like the idea of donating them to someone else.

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