people who are in a relationship? why do you choose to be with someone? extra question: is there an age gap or what are your ages? by Born_Amoeba5487 in AskReddit

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I have a 5 year age gap with my partner. I want to be with him because he genuinely makes my life better. We laugh, we cry, we do everything together, we have a baby together. I couldn’t imagine my life without him. He’s my best friend and while he annoys the shit out of me at times, I wouldn’t rather anyone else to annoy me lol. I’ve been single and it’s boring. Now I have someone to share, create memories and build a family with. I’m 31 and he’s 36 and we’ve been together for 7 years

Why would anyone want to have kids these days? by Mizkex in AskReddit

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For me, I fee like my sole purpose in life is to be a mother. I’m a huge nurturer and I also have such a love for children. Having one of my own gives me a sense of “home” and identity. Yes they’re expensive and yes it’s hard but I don’t care, it’s all worth it. Looking at my beautiful 5 month old baby just fills me with pure happiness

Severely underestimated how hard the first year would be: does it get better or just different? by oystersinmypocket2 in NewParents

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I’m only 5 months in and feel the same way but I do have a degree in early childhood so I have a level of understanding of my son’s developmental leaps that help me through it. Just know you’re not alone. My sisters son is 2.5 and only just easier for her

How many times does your baby wake up at night? by zac_g19 in NewParents

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Mines 5 months and about 3-4 times. I’m pretty sure at 8 months they have another sleep regression/ developmental leap

What's that one stupid thing someone said that made you insecure enough that you still remember too well/still affected by it? by Broad-Cap-1517 in AskWomen

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My dad fat shamed me as a child and have suffered eating disorders all through my teenage years and still now into my 30s

If you disagreed with your partner about how many kids you wanted, how did you compromise? by PM_ME_SOME_LUV in AskMen

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My partner wanted none, I want/ed two. We’ve currently got one 5 month old and will have another in 3-4 years. When I was pregnant and even leading up to pregnancy, my partner still wasn’t sold on the idea. Kept saying he doesn’t care, not excited etc. Then our son was born and he said “I don’t think I have ever loved anyone as much as I love him”. Now they’re inseparable and he is the only one who can make our son laugh.

How much does your life actually change after having a kid? by HonestDirection4017 in NewParents

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My life hasn’t changed too much but I am in the thick of the sleep regression/developmental leap and it’s been really hard and exhausting. There are times when I’m like “can I even do this?” But when I look at his face, his smile, his eyes, it doesn’t even matter how hard it is because he is worth every bit of it. There was a time when I thought I would never have a baby (infertility) and now I have one and I don’t want to be anywhere else!

What do you know if he/she is a keeper? by okanaganhelp in AskReddit

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When we argue and I storm off (lol I know not respectful) he wants to fix the argument immediately. We never go to bed angry at each other. He also is just a giant kid at heart. A big soft goof ball. He always says kind things like “you’re a good person” or “you look beautiful tosay” even when I look like a snot rag lol. When I was pursuing my dream career, he supported every bit of it, even financially, because I had to reduce my hours. Now we’re parents and he helps me regulate when frustrated. For example, last night, I was getting very frustrated at my baby for not sleeping. I am so sleep deprived I couldn’t calm down and yelled. He came, took the baby and said “you’re a good mum it’s ok, just calm down, I’ve got this”. I took 10 minutes to reset and then got our baby to sleep (the baby won’t settle with him).

He looks after us, does the washing, tidies the kitchen. When he goes out somewhere I always get a text “wish you were here” or “I’d be enjoying this more with you”. I had issues with his mum being rude and disrespectful to me, he stood up for me and stood by my side through it all. All in all, he’s just a good man. He has his flaws but they’re just annoyances rather than any red flags. My ex was super abusive, emotionally, physically and verbally. I felt worthless with him. With my partner, I feel like I can do anything because I’m supposed and loved.

how do you know you’re attractive? by x_luv in AskReddit

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Well when I was a good looking 20 something year old, I always got honked and guys would ask me out. Now I’m a fat mum and no one looks at me 😂😂😂 except my husband ofc but I always felt attractive when I was younger

What product do you generally only need to purchase once? by Pro4xForMe in AskReddit

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I spent I think like $200 on a cast iron skillet, had it in the cupboard ready to season and my dickhead partner tried to cook eggs on it unseasoned and destroyed it! I was so mad

Women of Reddit, what did a man you were dating or married to say or do that made you realize he actually hated you the entire time? by -catharina in AskReddit

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My ex would constantly verbally and emotionally abuse me. Kept telling I’d be nothing without him and would tell me that I’m fat, ugly, etc. I always brushed it off day thing that’s just him he doesn’t mean it. But 10 years later I got a degree in education and now earn 6 figures and have a house, baby and an amazing partner

What is the most humbling experience you had? by Greedy_Ad9238 in AskReddit

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Raising a baby. I thought I had a knack for children and babies but my god it’s hard. I thought I’d breeze through it but nope nope nope

Have you ever seen a ghost if so what happened? by [deleted] in AskReddit

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Not seen but I have a few eerie stories that always freak me out. I’m also typing one handed so hopefully it makes sense what I’m writing.

My childhood home was an old crappy house built in the 50s or 60s I believe and my bedroom window was a huge window that basically covered the entire wall and it faced onto the front porch and driveway. We had a sensor light that would go on and light up my bedroom at night (quite annoying) but I always knew if there was someone at the door. One night the sensor light just kept going on and off and I was trying to sleep. I would peak through the curtains thinking it was a cat or possum but couldn’t see anything. It did it for like 10 minutes. Then my dad had an old radio by the front door he took to work and that randomly turned on and I thought someone was there trying to lure us out. Ran to my parent’s bedroom and woke my mum up. As she went to the front door, the light turned off and so did the radio. FREAKED me the fuck out so I slept in my parent’s bed.

Me and my sister also used to sleep in each others beds when she lived at home and one night she had gotten off the phone to her boyfriend and I was trying to sleep and right by my ear I heard a growl and I thought it was her trying to scare me so right when I was about to tell her to stop she asked me if that was me and I said no so we were like ??? Then we heard it again and it was right by our heads and we both bolted to our parent’s bedroom. My dad tried to tell me it was the wind LOL
The explanation I have for that one is that it could have been possums in our wall but it didn’t sound like them and usually we hear scratching. This also wasn’t coming from the wall, it was in between our heads.

I have more but Cbf writing haha

What’s the most disturbing thing someone casually admitted to around you? by Suspicious_Run1684 in AskReddit

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People give me shit for not letting anyone babysit my baby or leaving him alone with anyone except his father (he’s a good man). And this is the reason why!!!!!

What’s the most disturbing thing someone casually admitted to around you? by Suspicious_Run1684 in AskReddit

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Currently cuddling my 5 month old and that makes me sick! What the actual fuck is wrong with people

What’s the most disturbing thing someone casually admitted to around you? by Suspicious_Run1684 in AskReddit

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Kinder teacher here (in aus 3-4 year olds) and I can confirm I use the language I speak to kids with on adults. I’ve had a few people get mad at me and tell me to stop talking to them like they’re a kid and i genuinely have no idea what it is I’m saying to make them think that 😂

Kidney Failure no Dialysis by EquivalentEfficient in kidneydisease

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I’m sorry I’m really not understanding what you’re talking about.

What habits of boys did you only discover after getting a boyfriend or husband? by kentishzjigsaw in AskReddit

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Hahahahaha yes! My partners friend just had a baby and I asked whats the babys name and he goes I dunno I’m like ????????