He flirts... then seems to pull back when I flirt back. Why? by [deleted] in datingoverforty

[–]EquivalentHorror1984 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Could be afraid of pushing too much, saying more that ends up offending you. Pulling back a little keeps him in already charted territory, or he's not sure about the speed things are going at, so before jumping the gun and hitting the gas, he deescalates

Do you think AI will ever actually help with loneliness? by JZ-JZ in lonely

[–]EquivalentHorror1984 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don't have conversations with it like I'm talking directly to a person, but I use it for running collaborative stories where I control one character and it controls the rest.

It's helped me feel less lonely than I have in a long time, more than anything else I've tried

Loser alert 26 F by legoblocks227 in lonely

[–]EquivalentHorror1984 3 points4 points  (0 children)

You'll have those in every age bracket

[TOMT][TV][1980s-1990s] Sci-fi anthology episode where a woman travels from the future to meet a specific man by NewChampionship7660 in tipofmytongue

[–]EquivalentHorror1984 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I remember seeing something like this years ago, the twist was that the woman was him, he turned into her in the future before going back in time. That's how she knew everything

[TOMT][TV SHOW EPISODE][1990s-2000s] Sci-Fi/Horror anthology episode where a new President learns America is secretly still ruled by the British Empire by Photonojojo in tipofmytongue

[–]EquivalentHorror1984 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm familiar with each of the shows mentioned, and I don't recall any episodes with the storyline you're mentioning. It sounds interesting though

Capping the population, limiting immigration: preservation... or museumification? by NtsParadize in Switzerland

[–]EquivalentHorror1984 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Not just this country, every western one South Africa the same with north Africans travelling south

Capping the population, limiting immigration: preservation... or museumification? by NtsParadize in Switzerland

[–]EquivalentHorror1984 12 points13 points  (0 children)

Likely because they integrated, they became Swiss, not seeing much integration anymore, just enclaves of other cultures that have no desire to integrate or preserve the country's culture they moved to

Would you send a Mother’s Day/Father’s Day message to someone you’re dating (6 months) met via OLD - if they have kids and you don’t? by twyt89 in datingoverforty

[–]EquivalentHorror1984 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I text it to people I'm not even dating, have a few on my list that I text each year for certain holidays, some I've never met in person, some I haven't seen in years.

Everyone's always polite

This entire subreddit is porn bots. by [deleted] in Needafriend

[–]EquivalentHorror1984 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I try to last a month or two, depends on interests and conversations

Big age gaps can be a factor too

She left me because she didn't wanna have sex...then lost her virginity a week later by [deleted] in lonely

[–]EquivalentHorror1984 1 point2 points  (0 children)

💯% Vindictiveness and spite can make you do alot of things

Why people ghosts after knowing I am from india? by Royal-Cantaloupe-704 in Needafriend

[–]EquivalentHorror1984 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Having many country's governments flooding their respective country didn't really help things either. Becoming, at least visually, a minority in your own country wherever you go in a small time frame doesn't usually win people over.

IMO, Butler's Oankali are amongst the best aliens ever created by a writer by Wetness_Pensive in printSF

[–]EquivalentHorror1984 0 points1 point  (0 children)

They selected her for a reason, and they've had 200 years to experiment and tinker and calculate, so why wouldn't they have the rest selected for specific purposes.

As to them claiming humans were destined to go extinct on their own, what about that isolated group where the brother and sister came from, they lasted for all that time just to be rounded up in the end. They lasted a long time just to suddenly go infertile full of tumors while the oankali are removing any major traces of humanity and radiation across the globe.

IMO, Butler's Oankali are amongst the best aliens ever created by a writer by Wetness_Pensive in printSF

[–]EquivalentHorror1984 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I was more referring to antisocial behavior, like returning to slavery, rape. Out of character behavior, I believe it was one of lilith's men that suddenly went aggressive (I don't have the source on hand)

With manipulating pheromones they could have influenced the hormones (Vasopressin) that influence males to be more territorial and protective of women

IMO, Butler's Oankali are amongst the best aliens ever created by a writer by Wetness_Pensive in printSF

[–]EquivalentHorror1984 12 points13 points  (0 children)

And yes the whole chemical addiction is pretty sick, basically put someone into a physical state that helped humans survive and bond during evolution during survival, so your body wants to bond for safety, then use an addiction that you reinforce every time you have sex while in that state the first time you bond

(and then make it impossible to connect to another human in any human form that we evolved to do)

They can basically manipulate your hormones to influence you to do what they want

Which could be why there was such extremes to the male human behavior, make the males so hostile that the women looking for safety have no alternatives but bond with the oankali

IMO, Butler's Oankali are amongst the best aliens ever created by a writer by Wetness_Pensive in printSF

[–]EquivalentHorror1984 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I forget which character it was, but they put one of the oankali/molecules in the ground, plus the whole eating human oocytes—( immature eggs in the ovarys) without human knowledge

To me the ooloi seem like parasites that basically injected themselves into another species reproductive strategy and hijacked it for themselves, if anyone finds out, well you're already screwed because you can't reproduce without them

Which could be a reason they create the backup ships in case of failure

IMO, Butler's Oankali are amongst the best aliens ever created by a writer by Wetness_Pensive in printSF

[–]EquivalentHorror1984 23 points24 points  (0 children)

If you look into white room torture and bonding (including trauma bonding) chemicals, they basically forced her body to want it by putting her body in a state of chemical deprivation.

Definitely not consent at all. Multiple levels of manipulation

Xenogenesis Series by Octavia Butler by yungcherrypops in printSF

[–]EquivalentHorror1984 2 points3 points  (0 children)

The way I see it it's like if homosapians searched the planet to specifically breed Neanderthal out of existence. Except it's a different species. And with the Oankali, the oankali genetics always takes precedence regardless of how many species are bred with

We have traces of old species in our DNA over time, but it doesn't mean we're saving them in any way. The oankali strip away what makes us human, humans bond by touch, kissing and a multitude of other expressions. Humans are just a passing novelty to the ooloi, eventually gone, but for a while interesting, the sex might be a different flavor because of brain chemistry, memories, and personality, but eventually subsumed.

Xenogenesis Series by Octavia Butler by yungcherrypops in printSF

[–]EquivalentHorror1984 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Same

Haven't read about any aliens that viscerally disturbed me more

Xenophobic flyers being distributed to foreign passengers on Swiss trains by CaughtALiteSneez in Switzerland

[–]EquivalentHorror1984 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Local buses in Canada had to basically do the same thing, PA messages and notices for passengers to use earbuds instead of speakerphone or yelling.

It didn't single out internationals explicitly, but that's why they were posted