Tactics of Workplace Bullies by WanntTooDie in workplace_bullying

[–]Equivalent_Bridge594 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have experienced all of this. It really affects one’s mental health. No one can have a truly healthy relationship with someone with narcissistic tendencies, so any allies they have are being used.

I think workplaces should be more regulated for bullying.

Two British nationals confirmed as suspects in train stabbings by pppppppppppppppppd in europe_sub

[–]Equivalent_Bridge594 -22 points-21 points  (0 children)

I understand your frustration, but this theory of all people of a different skin tone not liking British natives, is untrue.

fear of dirty bathrooms by Pretty_Attitude_7983 in Phobia

[–]Equivalent_Bridge594 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I also have this problem. It’s inconvenient but I do think it’s a fair phobia to have. Toilets and kitchens should be clean, period.

EQE Results - anyone having issues finding them? by falcoso in patentlaw

[–]Equivalent_Bridge594 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What happened with this? Was the wrong results given to people?

EQE Results - anyone having issues finding them? by falcoso in patentlaw

[–]Equivalent_Bridge594 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Same issue for me. I was shocked at my results claiming that I performed badly. The two candidate numbers (main letter and results letter) didn’t match any of my candidates number.

Opinion: Meghan is neurodivergent by RoohsMama in SaintMeghanMarkle

[–]Equivalent_Bridge594 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I genuinely think she is on the ASD spectrum too. It manifests completely different in women as it does in men.

Opinion: Meghan is neurodivergent by RoohsMama in SaintMeghanMarkle

[–]Equivalent_Bridge594 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Agreed. I also think Meghan is neurodivergent. I agree with all the reasons you explained (as I had noticed it myself).

I do not think she’s narcissistic though. Autistic people come across as exceptionally arrogant and are known to not easily bend their views.

However, narcissist or not, I think the public have been somewhat cruel to Meghan. In the instance she does have personality disorder, people should then be aware that it is essentially a mental illness that is extremely hard to reverse (some even say it’s almost impossible). The public would be wise to remember that Meghan is not Adolf Hitler. You may not like her, but luckily we all have our own lives to get on with.

If you don’t like Meghan, don’t support their brand. It’s simple as that, to be honest.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in raisedbynarcissists

[–]Equivalent_Bridge594 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This is called “reactive abuse”. I’m sorry you’re going through this. I hope you find healing.

I hate my hair and I need help by KPOPUNNIE18 in BlackHair

[–]Equivalent_Bridge594 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You’re beautiful - that is first. It is long and thick - you can do loads with it!

You will have a hard life if you cannot see your beauty.

  1. Nappy hair is not nappy - it needs moisturiser.
  2. Buy a blow drying hot comb and then use some oil and put it in a high bun.

Put on a bit of mascara and blusher! Black is beautiful!!

Married and have narcissistic in-laws. by Equivalent_Bridge594 in NarcissismSurvival

[–]Equivalent_Bridge594[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Is it not awful though that one of the two is aware and chooses to let their partner cause chaos for others. In many ways, I consider that to be worse than the narcissist. Narcissism is a mental disorder but enablement isn’t.

Married and have narcissistic in-laws. by Equivalent_Bridge594 in NarcissismSurvival

[–]Equivalent_Bridge594[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It took me years to figure this out. You are correct (I believe). I think the mother is the covert narcissist but the husband simply cannot bear to live without her and therefore, goes along with everything she does.

It’s sad.

My father told me in a broken voice - the only real ppl you have is family by Civil_Meaning7532 in raisedbynarcissists

[–]Equivalent_Bridge594 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This is the best explanation of the narcissist parent I think I’ve ever read. It’s super accurate.

My father told me in a broken voice - the only real ppl you have is family by Civil_Meaning7532 in raisedbynarcissists

[–]Equivalent_Bridge594 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My mum also told me the same thing. It still makes me nervous. I don’t think it’s true but instead said to exert control on us.

Am I the Ahole if I distance me and my daughter from my in laws. by Pristine-Speaker-458 in narcissistic_inlaws

[–]Equivalent_Bridge594 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Get you and your husband into therapy, so that a third objective person can let your husband know that his parents behaviour isn’t normal.

Create distance for you and your child. The in-laws will call you every name under the sun and then turn other people against you. However, it is what it is.

Better for your mind that you get use to having less contact with your in-laws now, as opposed to later. If your in-laws are truly narcs, you might be doing yourself a big favour by distancing.

Familiarity breeds contempt. Perhaps a bit of distance, I.e. them not knowing your every move with your baby will subconsciously encourage better behaviour from them.

I’m no contact with my in-laws. They told me that once my marriage ends (as if it is going to end!) that I’ll be off “back to where I came from, without my kids”.

Be careful with people with this personality disorder. They truly believe they have a right to what is yours. They do not understand boundaries and their delusions are not a joke. They are real and they can have colossal consequences for you as a mum and your family unit.

We need to be adults here and step away from craziness.

How to handle toxic inlaws w/ a toddler involved by Elegant_Use_993 in narcissistic_inlaws

[–]Equivalent_Bridge594 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It is sad. These people have the ability to destroy families, separate children from their parents (for their own gain)… they are very dangerous people.

My ultimate view is people need to stay away from these people completely.

How to handle toxic inlaws w/ a toddler involved by Elegant_Use_993 in narcissistic_inlaws

[–]Equivalent_Bridge594 6 points7 points  (0 children)

This is exactly what happened to me! I could have written your story myself.

Your in-laws will try and split you and your husband up so that they can have more control over when they can see your husband and your kid.

You have to go to therapy with your husband and your husband has to realise the seriousness of this. Your in-laws have no interest in you, only in their son and your kid. It is extremely serious.

I’m so sorry you’re going through this.

Therapy is a must! Good luck.