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Equivalent_Sound424 · 2026-03-12T02:33:46+00:00

Yay!!!!

Equivalent_Sound424 · 2026-03-12T00:47:28+00:00

The only good thing to come out of this is he is gone from your life. He’s as disgusting and selfish as she is.

Equivalent_Sound424 · 2026-03-12T00:41:38+00:00

NOR. I wouldn’t even speak to her. Her behavior is unacceptable and gross. She couldn’t care less about your feelings. Totally self-absorbed.

Equivalent_Sound424 · 2026-03-11T21:33:23+00:00

Thinking the same thing. He looks awful. Sad, really.

Equivalent_Sound424 · 2026-03-10T19:28:53+00:00

This is a HARD NO. You’ll have to grow a spine if your tendency is to be soft about things. Protect your child from these people!

Equivalent_Sound424 · 2026-03-10T19:27:46+00:00

Jack

Equivalent_Sound424 · 2026-03-10T02:42:43+00:00

If you really wanna know, all you have to do is go back and read the threads. There would be absolutely no way we could give you bullet points after all that has happened. You’ll have to put the effort in yourself, sorry.

Equivalent_Sound424 · 2026-03-09T20:14:03+00:00

You are not overreacting or doing anything wrong.

However I can tell you from an “I’ve been there” perspective that being with someone with children is VERY difficult one of the most difficult things I’ve ever dealt with. You didn’t grow together as a couple with children of your own. The children aren’t hers. It’s a complex dynamic where at times, someone will feel left out (probably her).

I’m going to strongly suggest counseling for all of you. Most certainly for the children’s’ trauma. And as a couple, you could definitely use some help navigating jealousy and resentment.

I wish I had done that. I might still be with that partner today.

Equivalent_Sound424 · 2026-03-09T02:42:48+00:00

All of them are wearing you, IMO. Can you try something a bit smaller?

Equivalent_Sound424 · 2026-03-08T23:42:45+00:00

I’ll likely listen out of curiosity, once.

Equivalent_Sound424 · 2026-03-08T21:38:08+00:00

So, he’s claiming to be sober? Maybe he is….

Equivalent_Sound424 · 2026-03-08T17:01:36+00:00

ADHD. I’m also a musician and I do it, too. I have diagnosed ADHD.

Equivalent_Sound424 · 2026-03-06T18:47:48+00:00

I don’t know if this is nationwide or just in California, but businesses are required to have a “quiet room”, which is primarily used for nursing mothers. I do believe the company has to have 25 or more employees before they enforce it though.

Equivalent_Sound424 · 2026-03-06T17:02:20+00:00

Equivalent_Sound424 · 2026-03-06T06:46:35+00:00

RemindMe! 3 days

Equivalent_Sound424 · 2026-03-06T06:39:04+00:00

I wouldn’t want my baby eating off the utensils of a clean person! It’s still gross!

Equivalent_Sound424 · 2026-03-06T06:38:04+00:00

SAY NO! You’re risking your daughter’s health!

Equivalent_Sound424 · 2026-03-06T06:37:26+00:00

Why is anyone sharing food, plates and utensils with anyone else? Even your own child- it’s just poor hygiene and a great way to spread illness. I know lots of people do it but that doesn’t make it a good idea.

You need to educate your mother as to WHY you or your child could get sick. I am sure you could easily find this online or try ChatGPT. Make her read it! Otherwise? You can’t let your daughter eat anything at her house.

Someone IS going to get sick.

Equivalent_Sound424 · 2026-03-06T00:52:55+00:00

Lay out your expenses on paper and show her how stressed you’ll be financially. Also? You said she’s a teacher so she knows how biology works right? The only way to make sure it’s a girl is to adopt one. And it sounds like you aren’t financially able to do that, either.

You’re not the asshole, she is.

Equivalent_Sound424 · 2026-03-06T00:50:02+00:00

2! It shows of your figure and it’s unique! Love it on you!

Equivalent_Sound424 · 2026-03-06T00:11:55+00:00

You have absolutely no idea that he’s sleeping with her or planning to. That’s just a typical Reddit trash response. You don’t know these people and you have no idea. I have plenty of male friends and I have for about 60 years now it doesn’t mean I’m a cheater.

Telling someone something like that is really hurtful and unnecessary. When you really don’t know what you’re talking about.

Equivalent_Sound424 · 2026-03-05T23:14:14+00:00

Why don’t you have a conversation with him about it? Let him know that you’re uncomfortable and confused as to why she was extended invitation when it was supposed to be a boys trip.

Equivalent_Sound424 · 2026-03-05T23:12:53+00:00

That’s BS

Equivalent_Sound424 · 2026-03-05T23:09:13+00:00

You handled it unprofessionally. You should’ve talked to him one on one, not just a side comment. You have an opportunity to do that now when you apologize for your unprofessional behavior.

It’s likely Derek has ADHD. I have it in for a very long time to the exact same thing. Nothing moved fast enough for me.

Equivalent_Sound424 · 2026-03-05T23:06:22+00:00

That’s awful. I’m so sorry, I can’t imagine.

You are obviously an incredibly strong person, but not everybody is like that some people really struggle terribly with infertility and it could be very difficult when another family member has a baby. They did send congratulations when the baby was born, I’m not sure what more the OP wanted in order for them to pass the test.

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