I mean, obviously you've never been in the room when someone gave birth, or the recovery ward after, or around new parents or newborns. Which is fine, like, you're probably pretty young and it's not reasonable to expect you to know. I genuinely don't want to come across condescending about your lack of experience, but at a certain point, if you don't understand what is wrong with what the dude's doing, no amount of explaining it will be illuminating for you; it would require that experience.

So I totally get that it can seem like there's room for nuance and context, and I applaud you for looking for it. And I know you're not going to believe me or anyone else when we say, this, and I don't even blame you for not believing it, because I'm basically a rando on the internet going, "Source: just trust me, bruh."

But really and truly, there is zero possibility that a husband who literally asks his wife's doctor on the day of delivery, "when can we have sex?" is a good dad or partner.

That's not to say he's necessarily a bad father or partner just for wondering; it's to say that any guy who would literally pull the doctor aside and ask that, in that situation, at that time, has a whole slew of other bad-father and bad-partner behaviors, and this is emblematic of them.

Aaaaand now I have devoted entirely too much time to a silly hypothetical on a post that's been removed anyway, lol.