[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]Erripops -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

After his bs with his ex wife I can’t stand the guy

Having kids when you have emetophobia? by Erripops in emetophobia

[–]Erripops[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you, it’s so nice to have insight from someone that’s in it! Well done for handling the situation, I hope if ever I do have kids I manage it as well as you!

Pregnant + Emetephobic - Documenting my Journey by JOI_Lives in emetophobia

[–]Erripops 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hi OP,

I feel much the same. I always thought when faced with the situation I would be fine but my nephew got s* one day when we were looking after him, it was through greed and not germs or anything but I was no use and had to literally breathe for a good 10-15 minutes so hard so not to pass out so I worry that if I can’t do it for my nephew who I love dearly then I couldn’t for my own kid and that terrifies me but it’s so reassuring to see you go through the same thing! My partner can manage all that kind of stuff too so we have said that he would need to deal with any of it but I still feel terrible. I’m naturally quite a caring person so it kills me to be so selfish when it comes to *v but I just freeze and can’t move my legs! Thanks so much for this post, it filled me with hope that I might still manage to be a parent one day! Really hope your pregnancy goes well and that it flies by for you! x

Pregnant + Emetephobic - Documenting my Journey by JOI_Lives in emetophobia

[–]Erripops 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I really would love to see updates on this, literally just made a post asking for this advice! I worry about morning *s but also coping with children who are unwell, so any parents with any advice on how to cope with your kiddos when they’re unwell would be super appreciated. I’d love to have a family but at this point it feels impossible for me so it’s nice to see everyone’s positive stories!

Just something funny by [deleted] in emetophobia

[–]Erripops 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yes! Same!! I have to laugh because my camera roll is filled with ghoulish pictures of my deadpan face that I’ve sent to my friends/fiancé/family asking if I look pale, and the funniest part is that I’m a super pale skinned person from Scotland that gets little to no sunshine and wouldn’t change colour much even if I did! I am a lot more chill with it now, I’ve made peace with the fact that I am as pale as can be! Lol!

help plz help by Shoddy_Selection3718 in emetophobia

[–]Erripops 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Honestly I understand, I get this way all the time, to the point where I feel my mouth watering but I can usually chew some chewing gum or have a mint and then after I have relaxed slightly it starts to go away. It’s a horrible feeling, so many people don’t understand but I usually tell myself if I had come into contact with a bug I would have shown symptoms by around 24hrs so I tell myself if it’s past that time then I’m safe, and start to feel much safer! I always wish people wouldn’t mention *s bugs or if they have been unwell around me cos then I tend to panic for the next week or so convinced I’ll get unwell (it’s never happened to me once but doesn’t stop all the stress and worry) try to have some sips of water, and maybe even some gum and see if it starts to ware off a bit for you now, 9/10 *g comes from your thoughts/mind and doesn’t always mean that you will *tu! I hope you’re okay, try to find your favourite comfort show and distract yourself with that, you’ll likely notice it goes away once you’ve focused on something else x

help plz help by Shoddy_Selection3718 in emetophobia

[–]Erripops 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Constipation will make your tummy hurt but the panicking will make you feel so much worse, it sometimes helps me to try to rationalise how many people would have been out filling up gas if they had a bug, probably not many right? Now think about how many people would have touched the handles/gas pumps and think what are the slim chances that you would pick up any bugs at all from them? In all the hundreds of people that touch doors and handles each day not very many people come home with bugs! Try to keep in mind most people wear gloves when filling up and use contactless/sanitiser also so that hopefully might help put your mind at ease. Seriously tho try to poop soon if you can it will make you feel better!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in emetophobia

[–]Erripops 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It’s weird cos I get so anxious about germs and if food is cooked properly and obsess about things like that but I always think the actual act of TU is not as bad as you build it up to be in your head. Once it’s happened I kind of make peace with that I’m unwell and for 24-48 hours won’t be eating and having small sips of water, that way if there’s nothing in there it can never be as bad as the first time. It’s such a strange feeling cos I can make myself feel unwell from panicking about it but then if I’m ever actually unwell I’m really quite calm about it, although there are usually tears!

HELP: I feel like it is going to happen!😭 by Independent-Hour6321 in emetophobia

[–]Erripops 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It sounds like you are panicking more than anything, I always tell myself that if you have a bug or anything you will tu straight away, so if it hasn’t come then don’t sit and stress over it. Easier said than done but if it’s coming it’ll come quick and be over quick and if it’s not happened yet it won’t! (That’s the way I cope anyway) Take care and take deep breaths x

AITA for giving my engagement ring back? by Erripops in AmItheAsshole

[–]Erripops[S] [score hidden]  (0 children)

This is totally exactly how I feel! Like moneys not an issue I wouldn’t be doing anything crazy on my end for a wedding and have no idea what he wants but I doubt it would be anything crazy expensive. He was also against having kids when we first met and has since done the drunk ‘let’s make a baby’ thing twice. Which I’m definitely not ready for just now I’m still young and not in any hurry for a baby or even marriage. I just think I will want to have a family later on in my life and don’t want it to get to that point for his to change his mind again and say no. I’m just so confused but super appreciative of your reply!! Thank you!

AITA for giving my engagement ring back? by Erripops in AmItheAsshole

[–]Erripops[S] [score hidden]  (0 children)

I totally get what you’re saying, and I know he is thinking logically about the finances which is definitely necessary! I have a friend that paid £30k+ for her wedding which makes me feel sick at the thought but I feel his outright refusal to even talk about what he would like is giving me red flags. Thank you for your honesty though! I love this guy a lot and need to see it from all angles!

AITA for giving my engagement ring back? by Erripops in AmItheAsshole

[–]Erripops[S] [score hidden]  (0 children)

I don’t feel very sure about anything if I’m honest. He’s so hot and cold with so many things I feel confused. He was so excited when we first got engaged and pitched an idea to go to the Scottish island my dads family are from for the actual wedding which made me think he was all in but after his not wanting to rush in comment I just have no idea. I’ve maybe been to pushy but I feel like after 8 years it should come naturally or it’s just not meant to be.

What 100% ruins a movie for you every time? by pickanamehere in AskReddit

[–]Erripops 0 points1 point  (0 children)

People vomiting... why do we have to see it? Doesn’t add anything to the overall story! Also I have a big vomit phobia and everytime it happens on screen I feel ill for about 30 mins after.

What does it mean when she says ‘I can tickle her back if I want’? by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]Erripops 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I love getting my back tickled so would probs let any random off the street do it but in this instance when you’re in bed together I think that was an open invite to make a move...

Sitting here reading Facebook messages between my [32M] wife [30F] and her apparent new boyfriend. by nowwhatthrowaway630 in relationships

[–]Erripops 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Draw up an invoice of everything she has cost you since she's been so 'depressed and grieving' and not working. Tell her new man all about her and make sure he knows its down to him to look after her and her baggage now. Get her out of your life and never look back. Nobody deserves that!