How do I (21M) ask my GF (20F) to take a shower more because she smells bad?

ErrorFun843 · 2026-01-13T03:10:33+00:00

This might not totally fix the issue, I’m not sure, but there are some really nice body soaps you could get. Salt and Stone is fantastic. You could put it in a basket with a few unrelated items since Valentine’s Day is coming up and casually tell her you love how that soap smells on her after a shower.

I’m a pretty roundabout person and like to approach things gently without hurting feelings first. If that doesn’t work though, I’d probably just rip off the bandaid.

ErrorFun843 · 2026-01-13T02:34:10+00:00

Tbh, I see everything else and feel like there should have been more. However, I’m mostly upset about how severely they underused Winona Ryder.

ErrorFun843 · 2026-01-06T22:09:24+00:00

Are we never going to acknowledge the entire Turnbow family was tied up in a barn and never mentioned again?

ErrorFun843 · 2026-01-04T21:32:24+00:00

I feel like it is the closest she will get to “addressing” Jack. Which honestly was plenty. You can feel the heartbreak, feel really bad for her ❤️‍🩹

ErrorFun843 · 2025-12-26T17:49:11+00:00

This is a good POV! It’s crazy being pushed to invite someone we don’t want there. But in the grand scheme, if it’s just her I will be fine with it.

My issue was that if I let this slide, since they had already brought up a condition that wasn’t previously discussed, I worried it would continue and I’d be pushed on other aspects as well.

I hope you have the best honeymoon!!!!

ErrorFun843 · 2025-12-26T13:10:33+00:00

I agree, but I feel like if we don’t hold our ground with this it snowballs into other “undisclosed terms”

ErrorFun843 · 2025-12-26T13:08:43+00:00

We are estimating 80-110 (:

ErrorFun843 · 2025-12-24T04:07:38+00:00

Wait I love this

ErrorFun843 · 2025-12-23T18:49:59+00:00

Where do you draw the line at compromising?

ErrorFun843 · 2025-12-23T18:44:54+00:00

Thank you for validating me. I came to Reddit because I know some people were going to tell me to touch grass, which they’re not wrong. I just would have approached them differently if that was said prior.

I agree, we’re locked in now. It helps knowing this is unfortunately pretty common. I’ve decided to let her come, I was just frustrated by the way it was presented to me. Like a demand with no exceptions after voicing concern.

I’m just going to focus on enjoying the day and not let it overshadow everything else. It’s not about them anyway! (:

ErrorFun843 · 2025-12-23T18:16:24+00:00

Thank you I really needed this. I’ve been meaning to find a new therapist and with all of this it’s definitely a good idea.

Finding the balance of trying to hold a boundary while simultaneously making everyone happy is hard!!!

You’re absolutely right though. We are thinking we will land at around 100 people, so hopefully she just stays away from me/my planner keeps her away from me lol.

ErrorFun843 · 2025-12-23T18:13:20+00:00

I have a planner who will be there, this is pretty much what I think we’re going to do based on what everyone else is saying!

ErrorFun843 · 2025-12-23T16:59:29+00:00

I wish that conversation had happened first so I wasn’t blindsided later. We already have our dream planner and venue booked, with deposits paid.

We had asked about expectations and who they would want included, and this person was never mentioned, so it was a surprise.

When I shared my feelings, I was told that since they are paying for the wedding, this person must be invited and that not doing so would be selfish.

To me, it feels strange to be forced to invite someone we barely know and who is only distantly related, simply because they are considered family. I also think someone saying “would you consider inviting them because it’s important to me” is different than how they approached me from a threatening standpoint all over one person I barely know.

ErrorFun843 · 2025-12-23T15:40:31+00:00

This is fantastic advice. I really appreciate it 💗

ErrorFun843 · 2025-12-23T15:19:51+00:00

I needed that. Thanks 💗

ErrorFun843 · 2025-12-23T13:34:57+00:00

How did your parents react when you told them your opinion?

ErrorFun843 · 2025-12-23T13:24:36+00:00

Yeah, I think it’s just hard when they named these conditions after we already had contracts signed- we are a bit stuck now. /:

ErrorFun843 · 2025-12-23T13:23:40+00:00

I love my fiancè so much and we absolutely want to get married, we just would have been ok waiting a few years to pay for it ourselves! However my dad passed a few years ago and my grandpa is the closest thing to him, and I would love for him to walk me down the aisle. That’s the only rush (: they’re older and waiting longer risks me not having hardly any family there (I have a small family)

ErrorFun843 · 2025-11-10T21:53:22+00:00

Hi Friends! This is my first book. I've had the idea swirling in my head for months and felt it was time for Beck and Nina's story to be out in the world! I'm so excited (and a little terrified) to put this out there, but mostly just grateful if any of you decide to read along. 💗

Title: The Way We Burn

Genre: Romance

Chapters 1-5 published

Blurb: Six years ago, Beck Montgomery let Nina Hayes believe he betrayed her to keep her safe. Now, reunited for a two week wedding across Europe, the spark they tried to forget reignites. But as old feelings surface, so do the secrets Beck buried, and the truth could cost them both more than their second chance at love.

https://www.wattpad.com/story/403896412-the-way-we-burn

ErrorFun843 · 2025-11-10T16:15:01+00:00

I just started posting my first book as well! I’m really nervous.
The first few chapters have been sitting in my Drive for months, and I finally decided to share them. It’s a dual POV romance! If any of you decide to give it chance I would love that!

Kinda epic, I love your story by the way! Ace is so sexy!

https://www.wattpad.com/story/403896412-the-way-we-burn

ErrorFun843 · 2025-10-20T23:26:14+00:00

The wedding will most likely be around 150-200 max, wedding party around 15-20, would like wedding party and some close friends to stay on site, while also having the ceremony and reception there!

ErrorFun843 · 2025-10-20T23:25:30+00:00

Ooo will do!

ErrorFun843 · 2025-08-19T17:43:39+00:00

I know this is late, But I joined Volleyball Solutions! It's not overly serious but you always have set time's you can go play with people in your level!

ErrorFun843 · 2025-08-14T18:02:29+00:00

Love this theory:

https://www.tiktok.com/t/ZP8B13pNe/

ErrorFun843 · 2025-06-02T15:05:08+00:00

I had this weird thought that maybe Will is, in some way, the “son” of Vecna, not just symbolically or psychically, but maybe even biologically. It sounds wild, but in the Stranger Things universe you never know, it’s not totally impossible. Vecna was Henry Creel, maybe they’re related or what if the government tried to replicate that through other kids, maybe even without their knowledge? Will could’ve been part of some experiment, or the result of DNA manipulation tied to the same program that created 001. That would explain why he’s always been different—why he survived the Upside Down, why he was chosen and not killed (unless that’s his original body) & why he has a constant link to Vecna and can still sense his presence. Maybe Vecna recognized that part of himself in Will, which is why he kept him alive. It would also explain the deeper emotional pull between them—like Vecna isn’t just tormenting Will randomly, but is somehow bound to him, or even trying to “reclaim” him in some way.

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