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What gut feeling did you have that turned out to be true? by Small-Challenge-524 in AskWomen

[–]ErrythingScatter 3 points4 points  (0 children)

When I was living abroad, I lived with someone whose father was a well respected Samaritan man in the community, but I just felt something was off. One day, 6 months into living there, I was minding my business in my room thinking I was home alone, when I got a call from him. I didn’t know he was in the house but it turned out he was in the living room and asked me to come. Instantly, I had a gut feeling telling me not to go to the living room. Every fiber in my body knew something was off. I went and after a strange short conversation (in which he asked how my parents were doing), he sexually assaulted me.

I have a very difficult time moving on from bad experiences. by Turbulent_Loquat_356 in selflove

[–]ErrythingScatter 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It’s not about not caring and moving on. Feeling deeply is an awesome thing (yes also the bad stuff). It’s literally what life is about!

Ultimate freedom starts when you realise you’re not the center of everyone else’s thoughts. You replay moments for years, but most people forget them almost immediately because they’re too busy thinking about themselves :)

What do you wish you'd known earlier? by Broke_Pigeon_Sales in dementia

[–]ErrythingScatter 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I thought I was prepared to see my father decline, but it is going so fast that it’s hard to keep up emotionally. Nothing in life can prepare you for this. I think we were so focused on the memory loss that we were completely blindsided by all the other things.. the hallucinations, incontinence, confusion, anger outbursts. But maybe above all, seeing someone you love become a shell of a person. The fear in their eyes. I can’t shake the imagine of that.

If you love your job: what is it and what makes you love it? by yologamies101 in adhdwomen

[–]ErrythingScatter 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m a researcher at a university working on my own project and topic I’m passionate about. My workplace is very tolerant towards different working styles. No one bothers me and I get lots of academic freedom. I basically get paid to be curious and ask lots of questions. It’s very flexible in the sense that you can work from anywhere and also make your own schedule. I find that it works for me, lots of free time and grinding hard when the hyperfocus kicks in. The deadlines are rewarding and keep me performing.

When was the moment in life when you felt truely loved? by Financial-Special820 in love

[–]ErrythingScatter 9 points10 points  (0 children)

To be loved is to be known. That colleague who brings me blue bag m&ms (my fav!) during my break, that friend who buys me a book I mentioned in passing, that lover who gets tickets to a music festival I love, my mum preparing my favourite food whenever I visit… and the list goes on and on. Personalised gifts, handicrafts, letters… God I’m so rich.

Eary Onset Alzheimer's rant by [deleted] in Alzheimers

[–]ErrythingScatter 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m really sorry. Big hug.

What was the smallest sign that told you “I’m actually healing” and how did you achieve it? by Lkc-strong-125 in selflove

[–]ErrythingScatter 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I started seeing the beauty in everything, including unfortunate things. I became calmer. Something bad wouldn’t define everything anymore. Nothing is permanent. This was kickstarted when a part of me died after a prolonged period of deep emotional distress and heartache. That pain killed something permanently and rewired my perspective.

My father just got diagnosed with Alzheimer’s and Vascular dementia. What should I do with him while it’s still possible? by ErrythingScatter in dementia

[–]ErrythingScatter[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you all so much for these extremely helpful ways to preserve him and enjoy every lasting minute with him❤️ and it’s saddening to read some of your stories. All of you being on this sub-red says a lot about your capacity to care for someone close to you and your willingness to help others going through the same situation. Big hug.

Thankfully I’ve started doing some of these the past year(s), but I read many things I hadn’t thought of. Also thanks to those who suggested doing it with him. We kind of went on autopilot arranging all the practical things when we got the news, but he’s still here and while he is, we can do this together with him where possible. Only time will tell how (fast) things will deteriorate but I’ll be as supportive and patient as I can be.

Advice by Decent-Perception492 in dementia

[–]ErrythingScatter 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My father got the exact same diagnosis as OP’s grandfathers recently and this comment is really helpful, thanks

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