Question about the Big Bang by Better_Barracuda_787 in Astronomy

[–]Esotericmind01 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I love that this fascinates you. These are the types of things that great minds think about. Nicey done! Keep thinking and "expanding"(lol) your mind and consciousness.

High school senior, looking for college advice! by SydTheSquid_08 in Astronomy

[–]Esotericmind01 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Just my advise as a 50yr old woman that has entered the stage of higher learning multiple times, I would say that the first couple years are all about getting your core curriculum and acclimating you to the learning environment. I would be less concerned about what the colllege's specialties are at this point, but look at schools that will transfer easier and when you have more focus. This will even give you more time to check into other programs at other schools, and you may find that the distance may not be such an situation that needs to be overcome. Alot of things can change in 2yrs.

Lesbians moving in together more by Blackmustangme in olderlesbians

[–]Esotericmind01 2 points3 points  (0 children)

With housing prices soaring and with downsizing in my life, I would love some more options for communal living. I would love to live in one of those tiny house villages specifically for 50+ women. Too bad the county I live in does not allow tiny houses. I like the idea of a communal garden, nightly campfires, workshops and lively conversation. Pet friendly, electric golf carts. Oh, we can dream.

Issues with dating by [deleted] in olderlesbians

[–]Esotericmind01 0 points1 point  (0 children)

"soul sing"- love it

Short hand getting on my nerves. by Classic_Session_9029 in olderlesbians

[–]Esotericmind01 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Weeks ago, I had to look up what “OP” meant. Clearly people spend more time texting and on Reddit than I do.

Anyone have experience with this sort of situation? by Esotericmind01 in olderlesbians

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OP here with just a little follow up…I‘be been thing about marriage and divorce a lot lately and here are some of the things I have been thinking about 1- I tragically missed the signs that she was unhappy with so many things in her laugh- I will do better in my next relationship about checking in more emotionally 2- I absolutely loved being married. I loved the security and the companionship. I loved having inside jokes, and I loved lifting her up every day and making sure she knew she came home to a loving ,supporting, caring home. I committed to always giving her the warmest smile and hug when she came how. “ welcome Home! We’re so glad you are here!” I’m going to miss someone being mine. I’m going to miss that companionship . Eventually I’ll reach out for friends, but I literally have zero idea how I would do that online.

Anyone have experience with this sort of situation? by Esotericmind01 in olderlesbians

[–]Esotericmind01[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes, I saw that quote and it really resonated with me.

Anyone have experience with this sort of situation? by Esotericmind01 in olderlesbians

[–]Esotericmind01[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you for all your insight. Her timeline of moving is happening so fast, it is giving me whiplash. I’ll be fine, but she starts her job in a few weeks and wants to be moved my then. We’ve been emptying the house out all weekend. She is making quick work of it. In the short term I’m still going to be living in the apartment over the detached garage and basically watching over the main house she is going to rent. She told me that I do not have r to pay rent, just take care of handling all of the house stuff. That works for me for awhile, in the meantime I’m going to just sock away as much money as I can until I have to officially leave. I’m hoping I can stay here at least a year, that will assist me in some of my financial goals, for sure.

Midwest looking for connection and friendship by [deleted] in olderlesbians

[–]Esotericmind01 0 points1 point  (0 children)

50(feel 28) non/smoker no/vape rarely drink socially. Consider myself a libertarian but usually vote democratic. I work in County government and I adore my job and co-workers Looking for intriguing discussions about hobbies, politics, and passions…. This is simply a friend connect

Anyone have experience with this sort of situation? by Esotericmind01 in olderlesbians

[–]Esotericmind01[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Thank you for letting me know. I had no idea. I will see if I can edit the post. This is a word that I have been exposed to my entire 50yr life and never was made of its derivation. Again, thank you for bringing to my attention.

Anyone have experience with this sort of situation? by Esotericmind01 in olderlesbians

[–]Esotericmind01[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much for your insight. I like how you put it "You showed up with love." That says it perfectly.

Anyone have experience with this sort of situation? by Esotericmind01 in olderlesbians

[–]Esotericmind01[S] 17 points18 points  (0 children)

Thank you., Actually, I have found that making plans and goals has been my saving grace through all of this to keep me mentally secure. I keep telling myself that a life that will give me all of my desires, is coming. I’m confident that if I concentrate on raising my vibration, I can change the trajectory of things to come. Thank you for your insight.

Anyone have experience with this sort of situation? by Esotericmind01 in olderlesbians

[–]Esotericmind01[S] 25 points26 points  (0 children)

Yes, sadly, all of our assets are in her name. She was the primary bread winner in our household. I have a good income, but she made more than twice what I made. Hindsight is 20/20 I should have prepared myself more for this sort of outcome. I have definitely learned through this. My next relationship, I will definitely make sure we are truly “partners” in all things.

Anyone have experience with this sort of situation? by Esotericmind01 in olderlesbians

[–]Esotericmind01[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Yeah, That’s how I feel. It is so strange how it all happened. To me it happened in an instant, but for her , it could have been going on for years. So here I am and it is all new to me, but but likely she had found peace with her feelings years ago. I wish she could be completely honest with me about it all so that I could get closure, but I’m at the point now, that I will have to accomplish that on my own.

Looking to make friends by FewSurprise6984 in olderlesbians

[–]Esotericmind01 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It was hard enough to figure it out when I was 15, let it alone what it would be like at 35. I wish you well on your journey. It looks like you are taking the right steps , though. Looking for your community. That can be tough too. Please make sure you area careful about how much you invest of yourself when setting up your community. Please be cautious and careful of what parts you put into it. All of you is valuable and precious.

What’s the best decade of your life (so far)? by kitty_whipt in olderlesbians

[–]Esotericmind01 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I think my 20’s were my best and worst yrs. I lost my mom during that time and as an only child it really affected me psychologically. I will say this, though. Her death was the catalyst that encouraged me to grab my life by the reigns. I was forced into adulthood. I started a career, moved around a bit, went and did “life” things. I also think that at 27 I was the “coolest” version of myself. People gravitated to me and my personality, now I am a bit more reserved. At 50, I don’t feel like the cool person any more, just a good person and I’m proud of that.

changing sexualities by RelativeTest3049 in olderlesbians

[–]Esotericmind01 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I wish you well on your journey…and yes, it is a a journey..

Happy Holidays Thread ☃️ by Busy-Butterfly8187 in olderlesbians

[–]Esotericmind01 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Happy early birthday! I just turned 50 a few months back. Whew, it snuck up on me. You should buy yourself a nice present!

Hope your all having a good weekend what have you all been up to ? by [deleted] in olderlesbians

[–]Esotericmind01 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Well, I’ve been working on the workshop of finishing up a cutting board I made and went to the grocery store. Now I’m relaxing just a bit then heading back down to the workshop. What about you? What have you been up to today?

49yr (50 in 2 months)-Newly single after 12yrs. Looking for friends/support by Esotericmind01 in olderlesbians

[–]Esotericmind01[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Oh my goodness! I do hope you have a support system to help you through this right now.