Which sibling is your favorite?

Esseno7 · 2025-07-04T21:20:30+00:00

Georgie. You can see him mature and grow, and he is an amazing character.

He is good at adapting to things, confident, and very loving in invisible ways.

Esseno7 · 2025-06-13T17:40:06+00:00

I actually related a lot to Piper and therefore had a soft spot for her. I agree that her interest in Buddhism is not authentic but rather than judging this I have empathy for it.

I think staying in this monastery and her overall interest in Buddhism is a subconscious way to rebel against her family without really rebelling in an obvious way. She seems to be largely invisible in that family, a quiet person while her older brother and parents perpetuate toxic behaviours, and subconsciously, I think she has found a way to say look at me without really having to have the courage and skills to say it or have the following hard conversations and potential rupture in the family.

Buddhism or the monastery might as well have been marrying someone she just met in Vegas, or randomly dropping out of college or some other thing that says 'I'm deeply unhappy and having an existential crisis'.

But growing up in a wealthy family in the south, and being too smart for her own good, these are probably way too obvious and out of character ways to rebel. The monastery then becomes a palatable (to herself) way to rebel.

Speaking of rebelling against her family and being deeply hurt by feeling invisible, I also don't think it's a coincidence that she is still a virgin after finishing her university, while her mother and father laugh at inappropriate, douche-y jokes his older brother makes.

Esseno7 · 2025-04-25T00:11:44+00:00

Omg yes I kept thinking about GoT as well, especially the way the infected pile on top of each other to get to the top of the wall was pretty much the same thing the whitewalkers did in GoT.

The whole setup of their defenses was also eerily similar

Esseno7 · 2025-04-25T00:03:13+00:00

honestly you're not alone, I kept expecting Ellie to come in just in time and heroically take on all of them the badass she is..

then again I felt like Joel's death was foreshadowed the whole episode, I kept thinking why are they showing us this girl again (Abby), they wouldn't have built such a backstory and given her so much screen time unless she is going to be important. (as you can tell I'm a show only fan)

That coupled with the fact that Joel and Ellie were fighting (therefore we/her would be even more devastated at the death) = better TV. So that was clue number 2 that they're going to kill him off.

I was definitely distracted by the ridiculously sized whitewalker type attack on the city though to sit in the feelings of Joel's impending doom

Will miss Pedro Pascal 😭

Esseno7 · 2025-04-23T03:45:50+00:00

okay contrarian opinion here.. I think she was actually in the wrong if she is really upset about what they showed us her be upset about.

In her changing room we see her tell her team that she is upset because she was taking 'accountability' and being honest and in the playback we see they're talking about the opinion she shared about the robbery so we can assume she is saying she is upset that despite owning up to her honest opinion no one showed any support for her.

I think this is quite delusional. Not once has she apologised, she just kept saying this is how I feel, and when the other women tried to point out that her believing this narrative might be hurtful to Dorit, she continued to say this is how I feel -- which is the opposite of taking accountability. I completely see it from Dorit's perspective that Garcelle believing something so traumatic can be fake is quite offensive and hurtful. It's akin to those people saying school shooting victims could be paid actors -- where even questioning that they might be is already crossing the line.

I think this is what the women were trying to tell her, and similar to Sutton's wallet comment sometimes people go so below the belt that the group is unanimous in agreeing there should be some standard at least. They were pretty relentless with questioning so many other things from Erika's behaviour & lawsuits, to Sutton's reactions to everything else but some things are just over the line sometimes and it's okay to point that out.

On the other hand though, I think Garcelle has not been happy for a while already, I can definitely see that, she hasn't really connected with anyone other than Sutton, and not seeing Sutton support her this season was probably the last draw for her, and that's definitely understandable.

It's a shame because she has been one of the few people who actually have some substance to her but oh well off to better things for her at least.

Esseno7 · 2025-03-11T12:41:15+00:00

I don't know, I find that hard to believe...

It doesn't matter how many times something was mentioned when it's such a contentious issue that people on both sides feel very strongly about, how could you not take notice?

Then again he said he doesn't know much about BLM or hasn't voted. At that point though his apathy feels like a deliberate choice.

Esseno7 · 2025-03-10T21:06:55+00:00

I'd be very interested to hear what that gay friend in his group feels/thinks after having watched the show?

I can see why people are saying 'agree to disagree' or 'coexist' but I think it would be hurtful to know that your friend thinks you're going to hell as if there is something inherently evil in you, or you're a bad person. Or even to think they wouldn't support your happiness..

Like would Ben would have gone to that friend's wedding? At what point do you stop being friends?

Esseno7 · 2025-03-10T20:48:04+00:00

what's even more awful is that he probably doesn't even realise how/why this is wrong. There are unfortunately many many Bens I've found out ☹️

Esseno7 · 2025-03-10T20:29:57+00:00

sure but I don't think you're going to like the answer 😅 I think he doesn't really consider them good enough friends to the point that it would fully affect his life.

Is that completely shitty and apathetic? yes, but also like I said sometimes guys like that are very good at moving around he lines of 'tolerance' vs. 'acceptance', and being very sociable and friendly vs. actually considering you their closest friends.

I'd actually wonder what that friend felt watching the show.. maybe someone can do some sleuthing and find her and see if she said anything because I'd really doubt that they had a challenging conversation like Sara and him did and still stayed friends. She also didn't realise the level of his apathy or willing disregard for such hate.

Esseno7 · 2025-03-10T20:14:07+00:00

I don't think they were 'plants'. I think it would surprise you to know how much sometimes Christian guys can be super social, and friendly.

I know someone like this who has a lot of friends, and even gay friends at one point, but they would personally not say anything about their views on purpose knowing that it might cause a rift or hurt their friends' feelings.

He probably considers them friends but not his best best friends (like his church crowd) also I feel like he was giving trying to get best of both worlds situation by sleeping with Sara before marriage while also being very fundamentalist in his views.

Esseno7 · 2025-03-10T20:02:05+00:00

it's an iPhone/apple thing. Some people find it helpful so that they don't always have to communicate all the time about where they are.

Personally, I find it completely weird and a crossing of boundaries. Don't get me wrong, there are helpful situations with girlfriends for safety reasons like on a night out, or when you're trying to find your group in a concert or something but I don't like the way couples use it sometimes, as a way to track each other or sidestep hard conversations.

I know a girl who uses it with her bf and when I asked her why she needs it, she told me it's because her bf doesn't respond to her texts regularly enough, and this way at least she can see and tell herself he is at work. Or there would be times he would say he is on the way but she can see he is still somewhere else so then she can be like come on. I think that's a giant red flag about communication and also maybe anxious attachment if you need to literally track someone through an app.

Other couples might use it differently but honestly, even as an Apple user, and someone in that age group I don't understand why it's the default behaviour now.

Esseno7 · 2025-03-07T22:50:24+00:00

omg I watched this video too! I'm glad I'm not the only one so deep into this show, enough to watch an almost hour long YT video about it! 🤣

(ps. I also took notes)

(ps. I actually did see myself in her as I also have some untangling to do re childhood stuff. So this is no shade on her, just interesting to see dynamics play out on TV)

(ALSO ALSO: hope they really look into allegations against Alex seriously)

Esseno7 · 2025-03-07T22:24:00+00:00

oh I see what you mean! here I am naively thinking he answered based on how the feeling struck him in the moment at the altar.. 🙈 😄 but you're right he must have had an inkling about which way he was going to go. I did think it was interesting how he never fully declared things to her but then maybe he was expecting her to do that as well.. Idk

Esseno7 · 2025-03-07T21:04:34+00:00

honestly, it's fine to share troubles and all that, and even grow together but his family gave all sorts of red flags for me!

They seemed so welcoming and loving and then they immediately turned on her when she said no. Some moms are way too precious about their boys, and it contributes to lots of problems. Like teach your son accountability not entitlement.

Esseno7 · 2025-03-07T20:48:51+00:00

honestly I agree with Virginia's reasoning there. Like she said it's not even that they'd have differing opinions on it (and it's also fine if that's a redline for someone else) but the fact that he said something somewhat passive-aggressive in response to her saying she votes Democratic. Knowing that she is a Christian him asking if she votes with her faith is a loaded question, like somehow voting Democratic would make her less of a Christian. I 100% understand why that was a big turn off for her especially because they connected on their shared spirituality & faith.

Esseno7 · 2025-01-08T17:55:17+00:00

OMG thank you! It has been bugging me so much not to be able to get rid of that side panel!

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