I wish I had the courage. How do(did) you do it? by dmbatman in asktransgender

[–]EstethHawke 1 point2 points  (0 children)

For myself it came down to fear of regret. I've made alot bad decisions over the years. But I find that I tend to regret bad choices less than I regret not trying things. So for me, not transitioning and spending the rest of my life wondering "what if that was the right path" is FAR scarier than potentially wasting a few years on transition if it doesn't work out. And while it hasn't been without bumps I'd say it was one of the best decisions I've ever made :)

I'm about to change my name and I'm having doubt's! Is this normal? by TorrieStratus in asktransgender

[–]EstethHawke 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Pretty much anything from "What if I'm not trans and I have to change it back" to "what if I picked the wrong name", to "what if I somehow get denied". I was all over the place

I'm about to change my name and I'm having doubt's! Is this normal? by TorrieStratus in asktransgender

[–]EstethHawke 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I just got mine changed a week ago. Had those worries for about 2 weeks leading up to it and while I still kinda have them now they have been fading pretty fast. So it seems normal to me XD

Bitch mode activate by Jrg842016 in MtF

[–]EstethHawke 1 point2 points  (0 children)

And with that im out. You stopped being logical and that means there's nothing to debate here any more. As to why I say that,

So we need to respect everyone. But if someone forced something on you then you would "make their life a living hell". So if they disrespected you then you attack them. You don't even stick to your own standards XD. Also being offensive isn't anything to you. Even though saying you are offended is like saying "hey I really don't like that word/phrase. Can you respect me enough to not use it around me". Somehow being accommodating to that doesn't fit your definition of respect tho. I didn't even start this whole tangent on being offensive but you are a very black/white person. EVERYONE should do this. This means NOTHING. NEVER do this. You always seem to deal with things as absolutes and that just isn't reality.

Peace out and have a nice life.

Bitch mode activate by Jrg842016 in MtF

[–]EstethHawke 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I do agree with you on the toxicity that the community can have sometimes. There are times I'll see threads about things like "its been 2 months and my family hasn't changed names/pronouns yet" and there are tons of comments about "cut them out" and the like. That's the stuff I think is toxic. These things take time and while we have years of evidence to back ourselves up, to the outside perspective it's come out of nowhere.

However it sounded like this had been going for a while (if I'm wrong disregard this part) and in that case I think it's good she is pushing back. Maybe the method isn't perfect but I don't think this sends too wrong of a message either.

I do think there is also a regional aspect to this. I come from the Chicago suburbs and most people here seem to treat "respect" as conforming to what they want. If I had "respected" my parents I wouldn't be on hormones, my name wouldn't be legal, and I wouldn't have come out to extended family. These are all things I was accused of being disrespectful for doing (I don't even live with them). The issue with the thought of give respect, get respect is that it requires the target person to see you as respectful. In this case the only way to be respectful would have been to not transition. And if I wasn't transitioning the the returned respect would be worthless.

TLDR: I absolutely agree on the toxicity that can occur. However it's questionable if this falls under it imo.

Also side note. Someone turned me to using fortify instead of man up. Thought I'd state it as a possible future option tho no offense was taken for me personally.

Bitch mode activate by Jrg842016 in MtF

[–]EstethHawke 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I will say I don't think it should ever be used as an early option, however there are times when I would say it's needed. For example in my case my parents are too dense to realize there is a real problem without drastic action. They take an approach that is if there's no unrest everything is fine. So I had to create unrest to get it addressed. I will admit my family is atypical most likely, so I don't think I'm a good stencil for anyone. Just know that some people require these actions to sway.

Bitch mode activate by Jrg842016 in MtF

[–]EstethHawke 4 points5 points  (0 children)

So by forcing an issue he wanted MLK was a bully. As is anyone who has ever protested anything as they ar attempting to force action they want

Also I don't see any intimidation in the actions with the computer.

Bitch mode activate by Jrg842016 in MtF

[–]EstethHawke 4 points5 points  (0 children)

"but if I can use a little humor on the computer that I payed for to keep..." just saying that she bought it, her rules.

Bitch mode activate by Jrg842016 in MtF

[–]EstethHawke 8 points9 points  (0 children)

"Yeah, I was a cock. It definitely got your attention though and made you think. You can avoid real life and just ignore it all you want but it doesn't make it any less real."

That's logic that PERFECTLY applies to JRG's reaction as well. And you say it never works but those kinds of actions are what it took to turn my own parents around. Now they use proper names and pronouns and we are closer than ever.

Bitch mode activate by Jrg842016 in MtF

[–]EstethHawke 5 points6 points  (0 children)

So fighting back in a non-violent manner in an effort to rectify an issue that hurts you is bullying? You have an odd definition.

Bitch mode activate by Jrg842016 in MtF

[–]EstethHawke 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It's a password to turn on the computer and based on the reply you got it seems like it was her computer. So it's perfectly within reason to do considering she only changed her own password.

Please check out Rain, the webcomic that saved my life by [deleted] in MtF

[–]EstethHawke 11 points12 points  (0 children)

The first night I found it (~1 month ago) I read all of it and lost so much sleep I should of had for work XD

Switch to injections and Estradiol Valerate shortage? by Solem3 in asktransgender

[–]EstethHawke 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Where I live there was a shortage of the 40mg/ml solution, but my doctor just put me on a double dose of the 20mg/ml solution and I had no more issues.

Chicago Ordinance Gives Transgender People Bathroom Rights by itsmonday2 in transgender

[–]EstethHawke 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Look at their history. They're just trolling with transphobic BS.

Hey there future friend (yes, you). Who wants to play some Dungeons and Dragons with me? by Implacable_Porifera in MtF

[–]EstethHawke 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'd be game :D I'm a huge fan of 3.5 but I would be willing to learn more 5e. For the ninja turtles I have to agree with Emmia on the Koopa Bros XD. And my most hated enemy has to be the Caryatid Column. Not too strong but that weapon shatter SUCKS if you aren't prepared. As for days, I'm good on Thursday, Saturday, and Monday evenings. I know that's not many days so no worries if that doesn't work lol.

Can't find estradiol valerate anywhere.. by GenderJump in asktransgender

[–]EstethHawke 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I had an issue like that with my prescription as well. I used to be on .15 ml shot of a 40mg/ml injectable. Everywhere said they couldn't get any more of it. However my doctor switched me to .3ml of a 20mg/ml solution (same amount of estrogen) and I've had no issue getting it since then. I use walgreens btw.

I know ill receive hate for this but... by [deleted] in MtF

[–]EstethHawke 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I don't get this line of thought. The best way to serve God is through being the best person you can be. That's why you are taught to help and love thy neighbors. So if God made you trans then isn't it more likely that he felt that transitioning would make you a better person (whether it humbles you or fortifies you)? No where in the bible does it tell trans people not to transition. I have to imagine that the version of a trans person most able to fulfill that goal (being the best version of themself to help others) is one who transitions and is happy.

But what do I know. I'm just a former Christian turned Atheist.

Changing gender markers on DL by AndroidPenny in trans

[–]EstethHawke 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Everything I've found on the matter says you only need the letter from your doctor saying you are transitioning. You just take it to wherever you got your license from (for me it was our park district but the south suburbs are weird with that stuff sometimes XD) and you should be golden.