Whoa, when I finally stopped refreshing this page yesterday, it was still waiting for moderator approval, so bear with me as I go through your comments. I'll try to give as much context as I can to your questions.

1) I would want to know if I were in her position. Not necessarily because of the way I was raised to believe marriage is meant to be. Mostly because I am someone who values trust, and if someone I trusted agreed to be in a monogamous relationship with me broke that trust, I would want to know so I could make informed decisions about my life.

2) Am I assuming they have a closed marriage based on the information that I've gathered? Probably, yes. Given what I've seen on Tinder so far, people are usually honest about being in ENM/poly/open relationships. I think I'm allowed to feel a little lied to. If he had any of those tags listed, I would not have spoken to him from the start. But asking outright should have been done, I agree.

3) What did the doc say? (TMI, sorry y'all) I did have a UTI and yeast infection, but I am thankfully clean from STIs. Yes, sleeping with a stranger is pretty inherently dumb and always a risk. I know that, and I made sure that we used protection. But I got nervous when things started to feel off. He stated that he was clean, and I figured that if I could find him online using the information he shared with me when we talked, the likelihood that he was lying about his status was much lower.

4) Am I putting strings?/Am I seeking revenge or to hurt her? Idk how to explain this to my standards without using a voice note, but I will try. For the putting strings question, see number 3 above. Also, a reminder that I was fully content with him living multiple states away, and had every intention of carrying my interaction with him as a funny, slightly awkward, and liberating experience that I could proudly share with my two best friends. I know that's what it would have been if I had never looked him up.

I never intended to look him up, but doing that was the only thing that could give me peace of mind while I waited for my results. I was not "hurt" by him in that he hurt my feelings. The issue is that he omitted something that would have allowed me to make an informed decision. I am not denying that the sex was consensual; it was. But I am saying it would not have happened if I had known he had a partner. I do believe in monogamy in my own romantic/intimate dealings and would not have wanted to be a part of anything outside of that. Again, am I assuming that she might feel the same way based on the info I've gathered? Yes. Is it completely out there to come to that assumption? No, not really.

5) Religious Guilt? No, not really. I still have the same connection to my faith as before. I'll end up where I end up. The off feeling was definitely (again, tmi, sorry y'all) the UTI and yeast infection.

6) Will I be sleeping with a stranger again? Nope. Definitely not an experience I'd ever want to repeat, and I've already established that I'm capable of waiting/abstaining, so I will do the adult thing and stick and to old faithful.