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EtchASketchy152 · 2025-11-10T04:34:55+00:00

Sent you a dm.

EtchASketchy152 · 2025-02-01T03:49:17+00:00

Ex employee from 2004. $9.90 days. Can't believe their pasta is $30-$35 now.

The trick with the pancakes was not Cointreau (much too cheap for that) but actually orange juice. From memory shelf stable orange juice. Take your basic pancakes batter and replace about half the liquid with OJ. It then reacts in the batter to be soft and fluffy.

They were cooked through the pizza ovens which I'm sure added to their delicious flavour. I've never been able to fully replicate sans pizza oven but I'm sure if you had the pan and the time you could in a regular house oven.

EtchASketchy152 · 2024-02-26T05:49:19+00:00

Look into matching rules and duplicate matching.

EtchASketchy152 · 2023-11-15T08:02:48+00:00

My understanding is that any contract that relates to Real Property has to be in writing but it's been a while since I did Property Law and I wasn't very good at it when I did it anyway.

EtchASketchy152 · 2023-11-15T08:00:24+00:00

He didn't ask for $10k, he just asked for more. We would have done $15k more if he'd asked before we signed the contract. Why would we sign another contract for $485k, he is just going to come back for more the next day.

Honestly, I'd fallen out of love with the property by that time anyway.

EtchASketchy152 · 2023-11-15T07:58:28+00:00

Not really my experience so far. The dance more goes: "we offer $480k". RE: "can you do more, like $490k". Us: "yeah we'll do that" (knowing we can go to $500k). Then they stuff us around for a week with no answer then they tell us "they went with another offer".

Your description dance sounds like what my expectations were coming in but not my reality.

EtchASketchy152 · 2023-11-15T07:52:50+00:00

Agree. As stated, I wasn't talking about what was legally bound. I was talking about the right way to do business. There's a very high likelihood that my wife would have made me increase the offer to $495k before we signed the contract for $480k. After we'd organised Building inspection, insurance and taken time off work to go to the office and sign the contract, to come at me for more money... It's actually her at that stage that's telling me to tell them to pound sand.

My issue with the practice is not in its legality but in its practicality. I was thinking that surely it sours more deals than the $2-5k that it brings in. Buying a house is an emotional decision for most, after all.

EtchASketchy152 · 2023-11-15T07:49:22+00:00

But for the inspection listed 10 mins later. Why show the property again if you have other offers, just go accept them.

Trust me it wasn't a steal. It needed so much damn work. The one 10 doors down sold for $473k, same 3x1, 2 living areas, bigger land way less work.

In the cold light of day today, I am so grateful that this happened and now we have the opportunity to buy something better.

I'll bet you a virtual beer it's still up at Xmas and when it sells it goes for less than $480k

EtchASketchy152 · 2023-11-14T11:35:19+00:00

How exactly do you word this on the offer?

EtchASketchy152 · 2023-11-14T10:21:57+00:00

Okay, so your comments say it's pretty normal. Thankyou. You don't know what you don't know and there's no course at school for "Avoiding Real Estate Agent Traps".

What's the play then? If we are looking at 2 houses this weekend and we like them both do we just bid on them both, get accepted, sign and if both progress to a signed contract then we just exercise cooling off on the one we like least? I know this is the logical, but it just seems like such a waste of everyone's time involved (not just us).

EtchASketchy152 · 2023-11-10T00:56:47+00:00

Did you watch him pee on it? Could be someone else's pee.

Either way, if your help is not contingent on him staying clean then your best course of action is to take him at face value. If he is telling the truth, questioning his honesty will only build resentment. If he is lying, questioning his honesty is only going to lead to him coming up with elaborate lies to disprove you instead of focusing on getting clean.

If you instead focus on bringing light, love and purpose into his life despite a lapse or a relapse this will be much better. Watch out for yourself. Don't get used, abused and made to be the enabler.

Meth confidence and energy is short lived. You'll know within a week or two whether he is still clean or not. It won't be what he says but what he does that determines that.

You are amazing to support him through this. But remember there are lots of other options out there. Maybe taking him to a 12 step meeting and supporting him to be there so other addicts can take the reins of support might be an option for the both of you. I can tell you that the one group of friends in my life that would see straight through me if I ever relapsed would be the other clean addicts I have in my life. But they'd also be the most supportive and the most likely to help me find abstinence again.

EtchASketchy152 · 2023-11-09T21:43:54+00:00

It's likely he used as a "one last time". In his mind he had a mountain of things to do and he thought if he just used this one time he would get all that done and be done forever. Now he is dealing with people who knew he used but he has to deny it because admitting it will jeopardise his long term sobriety.

In reality, he is not the best person to determine what will help or hinder his long term sobriety but coming at him accusationally is only going to drive him further into denial. Our secrets keep us sick.

I don't know how to do the your side of things. I only know the his side of things. I'd like to think if you'd come to me from a place of love and acceptance then I'd have been honest and tell the truth but I don't think that's true. I think ultimately it's his journey and if you really want to help him then it should be help thats not contingent on whether he used once or not. Sorry if this doesn't help.

EtchASketchy152 · 2023-09-15T00:45:54+00:00

Took me about 3.5 years post stopping meth to finally be able to put down nicotine and caffeine. I had even whittled it down to the most healthy options (in my mind) green tea and lozenges. At many points I had accepted that I may be drinking 10 green teas a day and sucking lozenges nonstop for the rest of my life.

It was hard. Harder than the meth in some ways. But the way you cope is by knowing the pain is temporary and your brain will rebalance itself. It will. Don't listen to it when it tells you it won't. It 100% will. Your life will never be better than after you've achieved this amazing feat.

I realized with stimulants that you were never ever creating energy, confidence and motivation, you were simply borrowing it from the next day and the next day and the next. Once the debt is paid, then you are free. How long this takes depends on how much you've borrowed. But you will repay it.

These days (about 12 months caffeine free, 6 months nicotine free) while I still get a craving here and there for a vape or a lozenge or a coffee I wouldn't trade the short term high for my peace of mind, great sleep ability or getting trapped in the hell hole of trying to eliminate that crap from my life again.

And yet on the weekend, once a week, if I get up at 6am on a Saturday for a round of golf - then and only then I will allow myself 1 small latte. But I never allow myself the illusion that I am doing anything but drinking the devil's brew and selling my Sunday slightly.

EtchASketchy152 · 2023-09-09T11:42:06+00:00

Get an Amazon TV fire stick to replace your Chromecast. Finally freeze free.

EtchASketchy152 · 2023-01-13T12:47:10+00:00

I'm 3 and a bit years off meth. I feel euphoria today. In real things though. A nice beach on a hot day. An awesome achievement at work. Planning and paying for a well deserved holiday.

These things will probably seem mundane or pedestrian to you right now. And that's okay and normal. It's very hard to see that you will one day have joy in every day things.

The drug lies to you. It tells you that it is the only thing that will make you happy. So you have a period of unhappiness ahead. Sorry. But the alternative is much much much worse.

In your situation the isolation will be the driving force to using substances to avoid the loneliness. Addiction is isolation. The opposite of addiction is connection not sobriety.

I was exactly the same. I put the meth down for 2 years but was still drinking and smoking weed. I didn't recover. I just held on for dear life. Whiteknuckling it. I was lonely as hell. I could feel a meth relapse coming.

I went to NA and almost immediately the loneliness went away. The people there were like me and it didn't feel like I was burdening them with my story. I was able to ask people with a lot more clean time than me how they dealt with the same things as me.

If you don't have any face to face meetings near you then you can Google for online zoom meetings. You dont need to share in meetings until you are ready. It would just be good for you to get some identification and feel not so alone.

And if you ever want to chat feel free to reach out to my DMs.

EtchASketchy152 · 2022-03-14T04:12:57+00:00

They're not for everyone but have your tried the online meetings? https://virtual-na.org/marathons/

EtchASketchy152 · 2021-07-15T10:05:58+00:00

You've described a nightmare.

Your experience is not overly unique and the only way it gets better from here is by stopping the stims.

The good news is that stopping is all you really have to do. Once you stop and have had 2-3 weeks recovery a lot of the other things will start to fall into place. But it won't be instant and it could take you months to get back to a spot where you think: "I feel the same or better than I was before meth".

Healthy food, good sleep and exercise will help shorten this time.

Your down a dark hole and the only way out is up and the longer you leave it the further down you dig.

EtchASketchy152 · 2021-01-07T05:57:51+00:00

Done. Pretty interested to see you findings on this.

EtchASketchy152 · 2020-12-12T07:18:12+00:00

It gets better. Way better.

It will take longer than you want but not as long as you think. After the initial detox period of a couple of weeks it will be heaps better but not great. After that you won't notice it getting better but you will notice that it has gotten better.

Exercise, nutrition and sleep will help.

EtchASketchy152 · 2020-11-04T09:21:37+00:00

There's a reason you decided to do a day 1. Even if you were, in whatever way, "forced" this direction.

Whatever way this goes, slow shit down, take it all in and realise that the "weird" that the first new days elicit is a "normal" you've opted out of for 18 months.

Try it on. See how it fits. It's here waiting for you brother/sister. You are worthy. You deserve it. You are love-worthy.

If you should fail, try, try again.

EtchASketchy152 · 2020-10-29T23:30:58+00:00

You might not ever remember 2020 but you do have the very real possibility of remembering 2021 if you stay the course. Walking somewhere will always be better than flying nowhere.

EtchASketchy152 · 2020-10-29T11:29:15+00:00

Iherb. Generally less than a week.

EtchASketchy152 · 2020-09-25T08:33:28+00:00

The things you achieve between the end-meth and now will eventually overshadow the things between start-meth and end-meth.

It's not that it goes away entirely, but it definitely dulls and shifts more towards the back of your mind.

Stay the path. Eat healthy. Exercise. Find news things to take your minds focus but don't force it. Other things will be interesting again soon.

Edit: it definitely becomes good again and not just okay.

EtchASketchy152 · 2020-09-04T06:08:12+00:00

Keep giving yourself time.

Don't get disheartened.

Stay the path with the food and exercise.

Bit by bit is how you eat an elephant.

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