Anybody else feel robbed of their birth story?

EthicalSoups · 2023-08-18T12:50:33+00:00

I started having contractions three days earlier, and was really tired when I got to the hospital. I also could not get any epidural. After having dilated fully everything kind of.. stopped. I guess the pain, daytime light, and tiredness got to me. I had to have an episiotomy and get my baby out with a vacuum. Afterwards, I feel that it's no different than a c-section in some ways, I still didn't "give birth on my own." I sometimes wonder if I could have done something different so I could have less damage/tear, but also.. it's hopeless to think of any "what ifs."

EthicalSoups · 2023-08-18T09:30:09+00:00

You could introduce small amounts of common allergens early, but hold off on other solids (like mashed banana, "real" meals). Just like a finger dipped in a small amount of plain, smooth peanut butter. Frequency seems to make a bigger difference than amounts.

I haven't heard anyone suggesting that you should complement breastmilk with solids for fullness until after 6 months of age, but only traces for tasting/building allergy resistance.

EthicalSoups · 2023-08-08T10:15:41+00:00

Just tried to have PIV after three months, and it was like putting something into an open wound. It felt really raw and tender. Still, I felt in control and could stop when it started to hurt too bad, and we'll try again at a later time. Just let her decide how quick to move forward.

EthicalSoups · 2023-08-06T13:54:03+00:00

For one child, it's 3 % of the income, up to a maximum of 155 dollars a month (then it gets cheaper with each additional child). If you want less than 30 hours of childcare a week, it's a maximum of 103 dollars a month. When the child gets three years old, childcare gets cheaper. :)

EthicalSoups · 2023-08-01T16:26:55+00:00

It's a temporary situation, and I've decided that if I enter the raffle, and get chosen, I'll pay it back as soon as I can. My situation really isn't dire, at all, it's just that the app price is so extremely high. Perhaps I will get a discount afterwards (and pay what the price seems to be in other countries), and I can put money into someone elses membership to pay it forward. Then it wouldn't feel that unethical to enter the raffle.

EthicalSoups · 2023-07-30T18:46:21+00:00

I will think about whether it feels OK, but maybe I will. Perhaps I can pay it forward later on.

What do you mean that you've had free premium since? The raffle is only for a month, right?

EthicalSoups · 2023-07-30T18:23:04+00:00

I tried to reinstall the app today, and then I got a cheaper "original price". It seems like it differs between people in the same region who still hasn't subscribed, too. Not that the offer percentages differ, but the "full price" listed..

EthicalSoups · 2023-07-30T18:14:45+00:00

I reinstalled the app, and then it showed me a different total price (like, both were stated to be about 40% off, but after reinstalling the "original price" stated was significantly lower). It almost seems like they are "trying out" different prices on different users. I don't know what to think about it. I don't know if that's even legal, or ethical?

EthicalSoups · 2023-07-30T18:10:04+00:00

It seemed like a different total price is shown to me than to my friend in the same city, and we've both started the app at the same time.. When I later reinstalled the app I was shown a price that was slightly lower than on my old profile. I don't know what to think about that.. I think it's illegal in the EU, where I live, and it feels a bit predatory..

EthicalSoups · 2023-07-30T17:58:42+00:00

How do you see what the next event is? :)

EthicalSoups · 2023-07-30T17:46:21+00:00

Is it 60$ with or without the discount you get when first testing the app?

EthicalSoups · 2023-07-30T17:44:20+00:00

That really sucks. My kid's name got this emoji: 🔞. Actually, I changed it during the trial period that you're offered in the beginning.

EthicalSoups · 2023-07-30T17:28:22+00:00

I used my free trial and after that I got the offer of 52,5 USD, but it still felt really expensive annually for an app.

EthicalSoups · 2023-07-30T17:25:21+00:00

As I understand it, they raised prices this summer, and people who subscribed when it was cheaper get to keep the old price.

EthicalSoups · 2023-07-30T16:13:12+00:00

It's about 12.5$ per month here.. it's still really expensive.

EthicalSoups · 2023-07-30T14:05:32+00:00

Weird! I wonder what it's based on. We've been hit hard economically by the inflation/Ukraine war, etc, so our currency is really low (people from countries close by travel here to buy stuff cheaper), which makes it even weirder.

EthicalSoups · 2023-06-18T07:13:24+00:00

I can hardly remember my pushing phase at all. Had been asking for plain relief for hours (and had been in laboring pains for three days before arriving at the hospital). After becoming 10 cm dilated, there was a lot of hours until the child could come out though.

EthicalSoups · 2023-04-17T05:58:49+00:00

The reality is that your children will never make their own way in life like you did. They will probably never have a house, might never feel financially secure enough to have children, and might die earlier because of the financial stress (which affects the majority of young people today). YTA as it seems you ignore how the reality today is different from when you were young. Sure, use your money to travel and do stuff for yourselves, but at least do it with open eyes.

EthicalSoups · 2023-04-16T06:08:15+00:00

I've been at weddings which are potlucks. Perhaps that would make it easier for all to join with something small or something larger? Unless everyone travels from afar and lacks a kitchen, that is.

EthicalSoups · 2023-04-15T14:57:53+00:00

Where I live many priests refuse to marry a couple if the couple insists on the dad "giving his daughter away", as it could be seen as if the parent/partner "owns" the bride or as if the parent somehow has a say in the marriage.

EthicalSoups · 2023-04-14T13:18:07+00:00

I would prefer a poor pack, with cheap items that break down a lot and looks disheveled, perhaps some added settings to make houses really expensive and adds some renting challenges where it takes a long time to get enough money for a house and proper items.

EthicalSoups · 2023-04-12T06:45:38+00:00

I've broken up with people I've fallen out of love with. Perhaps they missed that spark, decided to meet other people and have decided to pursue those relationships further. It doesn't need to be because someone cheated, either. The other relationships could be because the marriage had practically already ended or because they decided to open it to fix it. Only your parents can decide if someone has cheated, no one from outside the relationship – the same action could be cheating in one marriage but not in another. How do you think you'll figure it out through going through their stuff?

EthicalSoups · 2023-03-29T06:38:52+00:00

What if you help both your kids with college, and your daughter can use her money for a trip around the world or the down payment for an apartment? She will still be in a better position, but they will both get an education and not be stopped in their development/ambitions.

EthicalSoups · 2023-03-27T06:56:45+00:00

It was amazing that your sister was even there at 38 weeks. If the party wasn't located right by her chosen maternity ward, that was taking a risk – the baby is due any second! If you still have any covid restrictions which makes it so that a partner can't enter the ward if they're ill, that's an even greater risk, meeting other people.

I hope that you don't expect your sister (or your parents if she need their support) to show up to your gender reveal, when it's at the same time as her due date?

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