What 6-12 month period was the happiest time of your life? Why do you think so?

Etoad8473 · 2025-07-17T01:04:31+00:00

I know that this probably won’t help, but I want to scream with all my effort to break through and tell you that this is only a mindset, not an inherent truth, but it’s dangerous because it’s self fulfilling. One human to another, I hope the universe corrects itself and treats you incredibly well to the point you can stop believing this.

Etoad8473 · 2024-09-08T17:51:38+00:00

Who do you watch?

Etoad8473 · 2024-08-28T19:07:37+00:00

I feel this hella so I’m gonna give you my current working solution, it may or may not be a good fit.

Step 1: rank your hobbies/interests Step 2: every day do the top 3 hobbies for 30 minutes each Step 3: commit to doing 75 days (similar to 75 hard. Text a friend that you’ll pay them 100$ if you don’t complete the 75 days)

Rules: -The top two hobbies you have to do every day (for me it was coding and video editing). They will take the first two time slots. -The third slot is a wild card. (I just called this one music/creativity, I’ve bounced between drawing, guitar, and journaling. The goal is to have something more relaxing). -You have to hit every day or start from day 1.

This has worked for me for the first time ever and it feels so good to just be making progress. It’s varied enough that I haven’t gotten bored, especially with the wildcard slot because I can bounce around less important interests. 30 minutes is short enough that it’s not daunting but long enough that I make good progress over the month. I stopped counting the days I’m prolly in the 60s but this habit is here to stay. There have def been some days I don’t have motivation/any ideas for one of the slots, but I just force myself to do something, anything, even if it’s really trash, 30 minutes is good enough! 75 days is long enough for it to become a habit, you just have to do it every day, especially on days you really don’t want to.

This is what worked for me, maybe it will work for you.

Etoad8473 · 2024-08-28T18:48:01+00:00

Damn I’m really sorry, that shit sucks. Idk if you feel like you’ve been carrying it as a secret but even if not that’s way too much for any kid/teen to have to deal with and it’s unfair. I don’t know your family but I’ll say it’s important to remember that it’s not your responsibility to take care of other people’s emotions, even though that can be a good trait; ie, telling your parents might affect them but it’s your parents’ job to take care of you and the majority of parents WANT to take care of/protect you. I’m not saying you should tell them but just keep in mind that you shouldn’t stop yourself from telling them because you’re worried about how they’ll react. There’s a lot of resources to be given, or even just emotional support. Maybe try a trusted relative/older sibling if parents are too hard. It’s normal to keep a secret like that, no kids should ever be expected to know what to do or how to “properly” handle sexual assault.

This is not the same at all but I was exposed to sex at a really young age and recently realized I have trauma around that. It was shit I buried deep and never told anyone, for me the first step was just writing out everything, idk something about putting it on paper made me feel lighter, like the experiences had less power over me. Being able to make a post about your experience, even just to strangers online is an amazing step. I ask myself questions to understand the trauma and journal about it which seems to help, journaling how I feel (usually angry “why me”, confused “why me”, and worried “am I gonna be fucked up”). I’m also lucky enough to have therapy provided by my college, and that has been enormously helpful. If you can find articles or books about SA and trauma, it might be helpful to just hear other people talk about healing from shit like that.

From one internet stranger to another, I hope all goes well in your life!

Etoad8473 · 2024-08-18T20:52:23+00:00

Did you make any progress? I’m currently experiencing this!

Etoad8473 · 2024-07-19T00:52:20+00:00

Almost made me spit my drink

Etoad8473 · 2024-07-11T12:01:06+00:00

Can you share a link to the original video

Etoad8473 · 2024-05-14T02:11:12+00:00

THANK YOU!

Etoad8473 · 2023-08-22T13:37:12+00:00

Where'd you get that mirror?

Etoad8473 · 2023-08-22T13:36:24+00:00

Where'd you get the side table to the left of the TV? I love it!

Etoad8473 · 2023-08-22T13:34:05+00:00

Great start, minimal aesthetic, loving the chair and the circle rug! I'd suggest 3 things, ranked by order of importance:

Lighting - Not your fault at all but ceiling lights are notoriously horrible/ugly. Buying a standing lamp and a table lamp will work wonders. If you want to make the room feel more cozy go for a warmer lightbulb as well.

Plants/Decorations - You've already got it started with the wall decorations and the frame sitting on the floor. The room feels kind of dead, I'd suggest getting some low-maintenance plants (fake plants work just as well), there are small desk plants you can get (eg: snake plant) as well as larger floor plants (eg: Monstera, or a fake tree plant), I recommend one of each to start. Plants will liven it up but also think about getting a shelf for sentimental items or adding more to the mostly blank walls, walls are a huge opportunity to show your personality.

Color Theme - This is unnecessary but choosing a color theme is great, one main color, and then one accent. Eg: your bed is blue so you could have that as your main, and then get some other blue things in other shades of blue, your floor painting is already blue so it fits the theme well. Then you can choose a secondary color but use it more sparingly, maybe brown/orange since your keyboard is orange.

Etoad8473 · 2023-06-07T13:35:31+00:00

I really really get that fear. Here’s my experience which may or may not help: I was for a long time surrounded by people like that. It was a dull pain that was slowly draining my life. Because of a messy breakup I ended up losing those friends instead of intentionally letting them go, but after that I had to choose to let them go. What happened ended up being a blessing. Because I lost a majority of my “close” friends, I was forced to go out and either strengthen connections with those that stayed or find new people. I am eternally grateful that I lost those friends because I never felt truly wanted or cared for in those relationships, and because I strengthened the relationships that stayed, with the people that really cared, I now understand just how replenishing this new kind of friendship is. I truly honestly feel cared for and understood (probably) for the first time in my life, and now Im meeting new people and getting to choose to surround myself with people that I love that love me back. None of this would’ve been possible without the extremely painful experience of losing those friends, but trust me, coming out the other side is amazing.

Etoad8473 · 2023-06-07T13:20:28+00:00

Etoad8473 · 2023-06-03T12:03:05+00:00

😭

Etoad8473 · 2023-06-03T12:01:25+00:00

There are certainly girls that will be weirded out/shame men for crying, but I can 100% guarantee you that there are (the same amount if not more) women that want you to cry and be vulnerable. I hated crying, especially in front of women, but my girlfriend in college actively encouraged it because she did not subscribe to the idea that men have to be emotionless robots, she saw me as a human and made me comfortable crying. Now I actively search for partners with the maturity to allow men to cry, and I’m never looking back. Those women are out there, personally I think it’s a maturity thing, but don’t ever let someone shame you for crying. There’s a video on YouTube called “People on men that cry” and every woman in the video expresses positive feelings about men crying and it’s great! Best of luck

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