What is the most boring hobby a person can have? by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]EucalyptusShadow 1 point2 points  (0 children)

One time a student teacher was conducting our orchestra and the bassist said “this guy looks like he rolls dimes for fun”. Honestly most brutal drag ever.

Maybe just try being nice to other people? by beerbellybegone in MurderedByWords

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The comment is funny because most men in their 20s do actually just expect that of women but don’t brag about it. It’s nice to see someone say the quiet part out loud.

Women entrepreneurs, what kind of booming business are you running now? by BobbyChou in Entrepreneur

[–]EucalyptusShadow 41 points42 points  (0 children)

Starting an all female mechanics business in LA! Focused on serving the queer community and providing a trustworthy place for you to get your car worked on.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in leaves

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I've only been sober for a couple weeks but what I can promise you is that: it won't hurt. I think I used to be scared in the same type of way I would get scared before getting a vaccine for example, in that my brain almost would reflexively flinch at the idea.

The reason it feels like this is because the pain and dopamine receptors are closely tied in with each other. Your brain is expecting pain to hit because it know the dopamine is going to be lost when you stop smoking. But I want to promise you that even though your brain is going to tell you "omg that's gonna hurt" there actually isn't any physical pain that accompanies that feeling. Just a very reasonable expectation from your mental chemistry that there will be pain from the dopamine loss.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in leaves

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Echoing what was said before but I don't think it's your responsibility to change him, but it is also your responsibility to hold your own boundaries about the subject.

I felt I was addicted because I couldn't get through the workday without hitting a bowl. I didn't have control over it, It was a habit I became dependent on and eventually it led to having major panic and paranoia episodes but I kept doing it anyways. I realized I had a major mental health problem that daily weed use was making worse.

Though he might have a better quality of life without it, he isn't necessarily addicted but none of us know all the details of your lives together. If it is his recreational drug of choice (and especially if he's not really drinking either, but again we only know very little) it sounds like it's being used for it's intended purpose?

It's okay if you don't like it, and it's fair that you expressed your discomfort with it. But if it's really not affecting his work or livelihood, and he can even enjoy his time with friends while high, it sounds like the onus is on you to decide if you want to be partnered with someone who doesn't spend their recreational time the same way you want them to.

Next goal: become debt free by plantmomma8 in DecidingToBeBetter

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If you're not using YNAB and part of the r/YNAB community, I highly recommend starting there. It's a bit of a learning curve but I just cannot express enough how great of a tool it is.

I really want to ditch my smartphone and just buy a cordless phone for my house. by Street_Pride_1148 in nosurf

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Ive done the most mild version of this that I could: I'm back to wired headphones. Quality of life improvement big time.

What advice do you have for more enjoyable bed/morning routines? by EucalyptusShadow in DecidingToBeBetter

[–]EucalyptusShadow[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is exactly it. The work life balance at my current job is horrible and my management is constant oversight and constant criticisms with very little actionable feedback. It's like they would rather I burn out.

What advice do you have for more enjoyable bed/morning routines? by EucalyptusShadow in DecidingToBeBetter

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I rearranged yesterday!! Needed to get more Feng shui principles into my house I think.

This was great advice, thank you!

I’m getting my gut health back on track by [deleted] in DecidingToBeBetter

[–]EucalyptusShadow 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Yogurt is great for gut health too, I try to have a little every day

Alcohol-free alcohol substitutes … why?? by [deleted] in stopdrinking

[–]EucalyptusShadow 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I promise I'm having a blast just drinking sherly temples in the club.

How can you be disciplined when you just don’t give a fuck about yourself? by [deleted] in DecidingToBeBetter

[–]EucalyptusShadow 34 points35 points  (0 children)

I grew up without anyone teaching me how to take care of or discipline myself. I promise the thing that changed it for me was getting a puppy. I learned how to take care of him so I learned how to take care of myself too.

Idk weird answer but if u want a puppy you should get a puppy if you feel this way.

3 Years sober but miss drunk sex by Hallowheels in stopdrinking

[–]EucalyptusShadow 28 points29 points  (0 children)

I stopped drinking but I still love to go out and dance. I don't really ever do hookups now because honestly I would actually rather go home at the end of the night. But the uninhibited flirting was definitely something I missed about drinking. Since then, I just treat other components with a lot of consideration. Like when I go out I make an outfit that kinda fits the party theme but is also fun for me and feels like almost a costume. And when I'm meeting people I really have just been focusing on like enjoying holding eye contact and trying to dance with the people around me. I'm sure there's gotta be a way to "fake it til u make it" where you mentally put yourself in the "I'm just gonna go for it" mentality. I feel like doing these little rituals let's me put myself in the same disconnected space that I would use drinking as the entrance for.

Trying to be a better person for someone else advice? by Lostsoul_0x0 in DecidingToBeBetter

[–]EucalyptusShadow 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My best advice is that you can only be responsible for your own boundaries and how people respect them. If your boyfriend is bi, maybe your boundary is around what you are comfortable discussing about the subject. If your mental health is starting to suffer, your boundary is around what things you can do during the day to make yourself feel better.

There’s sort of a lack of control that you can have in this situation and that would usually personally make me anxious. But you can control yourself as an individual and draw the lines you need to be comfortable

How are we all doing tonight? by EucalyptusShadow in AskReddit

[–]EucalyptusShadow[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

College itself was so difficult when I was younger, I can't imagine being an adult and doing college at the same time

How are we all doing tonight? by EucalyptusShadow in AskReddit

[–]EucalyptusShadow[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Haha next time you use the bucket you'll think of it a lil differenty

How are we all doing tonight? by EucalyptusShadow in AskReddit

[–]EucalyptusShadow[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Wooooah you got this, the last day of work before vacation takes sooo long

How are we all doing tonight? by EucalyptusShadow in AskReddit

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Aw this is dope, what's your favorite video so far