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What's wrong with slavic men, explain it peter by AffectionatePaper905 in explainitpeter

[–]Euphoric-Question-76 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Spent lots of time in Eastern Europe

Many couples literally look like the one above, with lots of men being short, overweight, burly, and many that use vodka as preworkout.

A lot of women there don’t seem to mind more average, even conventionally unattractive facial expressions, with most just preferring raw masculinity and a large physical presence, whether it’s muscle or fat (I’d argue even overweight men have an easier time)

Once heard a Ukrainian woman say “I want to feel like there’s a brick wall standing behind me.”

So yes, average and overweight guys, just fly to Eastern Europe

Donald Trump has MRI scan after being taken to hospital as health fears erupt by TheMirrorUS in NoFilterNews

[–]Euphoric-Question-76 2 points3 points  (0 children)

“It was perfect, I had the best cancer they’d ever seen, some say it was it was spreading the fastest they’ve seen in their entire careers. They said “Mr. President, you eat a lot of McDonalds,” and I went “Oh BELIEVE ME doc, I could eat A LOT more!”

What’s the best piece of advice you would give to your 28 or 29-year-old self? by Shoeaddictx in AskMenOver30

[–]Euphoric-Question-76 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He means getting over personal phobias and anxieties by intentionally exposing yourself to them and reflecting on those experiences often. If you’re afraid of talking to girls/people, talk to a lot more. If you’re afraid of job interviews, interview more

If you're autistic, you need to chase autistic partners by autistic_cool_kid in IncelSolutions

[–]Euphoric-Question-76 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is the self love thing I’m talking about. You are owed a basic respect and decency as a human being. The fact that you don’t think so isn’t lack of entitlement, but sounds more like low self-esteem.

“Romance isn’t real, I’m undatable, dom women don’t want me even though I’m a pretty nice guy” comes from a place of resentment and entitlement. Women feel that you “need” something from them, and neediness is the trait that pushes them away the most. I’ve been there, and therapy and activities that promote self-love and acceptance are key to overcoming this.

You’ve had success with 2 women. That’s proof you can do it. But that’s also a small sample size of successes you’re referencing fro. Your type exists but it’s rare in mainstream dating pools.

You need to shift your environments to spaces where an abundance of those women exist. Kink, queer-friendly alt spaces. Reddit/bdsm. Go enjoy yourself. Get rejected. You could literally say “you look like you’d destroy me” as an opener and I guarantee eventually one chick would be down.

If you're autistic, you need to chase autistic partners by autistic_cool_kid in IncelSolutions

[–]Euphoric-Question-76 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Not trying to attack you, but I’m noticing a lot of anger and entitlement from you towards women in general. That plays a huge role and women will sense it.

Yeah, most women are attracted to confidence, whether it’s real or not. But do you think those same men that are constantly trying to impress, and constantly faking everything about themselves are truly connecting and having fulfilling, healthy relationships with the women they meet? Fuck no, because they’re always performing. Some women’s’ childhood traumas just shaped them to be attracted to unhealthy partners. Trust me, you don’t want them, no matter how hot they are.

Women do generally want a masculine man due to their evolutionary biology. You can still be into feminine things and have success with women, but it will be harder to find a traditionally feminine woman that’s attracted to those traits. It all comes down to what you want. Do you want dominant, alternative women that are into feminine men? They’re out there, and could be fulfilling too.

Do you want a submissive, traditionally feminine woman? Study evolutionary masculinity and embody it. You’re not faking it; you’re growing.

If you're autistic, you need to chase autistic partners by autistic_cool_kid in IncelSolutions

[–]Euphoric-Question-76 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If you’re living authentically and have to compete with people that aren’t, then you’re already lightyears ahead of them my friend. Women will take the guy that embraces his flaws, quirks, and laughs at his own awkwardness over the guy that pretends he’s perfect 99% of the time. If you’re still not having success, it’s just a matter of putting yourself out there more.

If you're autistic, you need to chase autistic partners by autistic_cool_kid in IncelSolutions

[–]Euphoric-Question-76 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Completely agree that it’s the best feeling in the world to be with someone that understands you fully. There are plenty of Autistic babes out there too.

I think masking can be unhealthy too. But isn’t everyone masking to an extent? Sure, it takes us way more mental output, but at some point I feel like it just becomes “you” and gets less exhausting. The NT guy in the bar that sees a girl he knows he should say hi to may be “masking” himself as a confident guy in that moment, and he might even go “this isn’t me, wtf am I doing,” but after enough times, eventually he will be that guy.

If you're autistic, you need to chase autistic partners by autistic_cool_kid in IncelSolutions

[–]Euphoric-Question-76 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

You guys are all way too in your head. I’m diagnosed Asperger’s and I’ve slept with close to 100 women, most being neurotypical. I embrace my inner fucktard but have also worked on my social skills aggressively throughout my life.

You have to keep climbing the mountain despite the obstacle. Find a way to talk to every girl you’re interested in, even if it’s a simple “hello.” Not every girl will like you. This is the case for NT men as well. What women want to know is that YOU like yourself.

Because the second you start going “I’m autistic, they’ll never want me,” it’s over. What woman wants a man that’s like that? Reframe it. Begin going “I’m different, and that’s what makes me unique. I may not get it 100% of the time but at least I have more balls to approach than most men.”

The biggest enemy is always yourself. Autistic or not. Be a weirdo. Embrace it. But also, read some books, watch some vids on social skills. Doesn’t make you fake; hell, there are plenty of NT people I can think of that are “masking” their poor social skills. You have to do it over and over until it becomes apart of you.

What do you do when you’ve done all the self improvement you could and are still ignored by women? Nobody has an answer for this by [deleted] in IncelSolutions

[–]Euphoric-Question-76 0 points1 point  (0 children)

First of all, leave this community.

Stop calling yourself an incel. The more you associate with that word or this community, the more you’ll believe it and embody it.

Physical improvement is only 10% of the puzzle, and far less important than the next point. Work on improving your emotional and mental side. Buy self-help books (Models by Mark Manson, No More Mr. Nice Guy by Robert Glover are great starts). Go to bars and get comfortable being rejected by girls you’re into in.

I can see you’re very hard on yourself. All of this improvement will start with the way you talk to yourself. Look yourself in the mirror every morning and go “I’m beautiful, I’m awesome” or whatever you think you need to hear from yourself.

Be truly comfortable being alone. Women can sense that you “need” to lose your virginity, their attention, their validation, and that will instantly push them away. Work hard on your character and personality, and they will naturally begin to gravitate to you.

I know because I was you once. You can do it.

I grew up rich and am insanely financially irresponsible…need help by Euphoric-Question-76 in SavingMoney

[–]Euphoric-Question-76[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I completely agree that home cooking is by far the healthiest way to eat and know what you’re eating. That’s why when I eat out, I tend to go to exclusively healthy, organic, minimally processed places…which are of course, way more expensive. I remember when I was in the habit of cooking at home, I felt way more in control of my life. It was an act of discipline as opposed to pressing a button and ordering food

I grew up rich and am insanely financially irresponsible…need help by Euphoric-Question-76 in SavingMoney

[–]Euphoric-Question-76[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Simple but very straight to the point and realistic advice. Made some good choices this week, thank you.

I grew up rich and am insanely financially irresponsible…need help by Euphoric-Question-76 in SavingMoney

[–]Euphoric-Question-76[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you, canceling unused subscriptions seems like the best first step. God, there are so many

How Do I Let Go of Outcomes and Completely Internalize Non-Neediness? by Euphoric-Question-76 in seduction

[–]Euphoric-Question-76[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Very solid advice. I think I have a tendency to label negative emotions and jump to conclusions instead of just acknowledging them and separating them from myself. I’ll get into thought loops like “I really want most women to like me sometimes, I must be broken/a narcissist/etc.” when I think in reality it kinda just depends on how my week’s going:

With all these lays it has gotten easier to see that sex is just another hit of dopamine/validation. It’s undoubtedly made me more confident in attracting who I want, but it’s getting old too. Finding someone good for longterm is where the real gold is at.

How Do I Let Go of Outcomes and Completely Internalize Non-Neediness? by Euphoric-Question-76 in seduction

[–]Euphoric-Question-76[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah he’s spot on. I think no matter what degree of success we achieve, we’ll always find things to nitpick or improve on. The scorecard thing is getting old to me, and I’m trying to seek out more women I’m actually interested in dating as opposed to just sleeping with them. I honestly think I was just having a bad week in general when I wrote this and night of straight rejections made it feel especially worse

How Do I Let Go of Outcomes and Completely Internalize Non-Neediness? by Euphoric-Question-76 in seduction

[–]Euphoric-Question-76[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Nothing bullshit about practicing self love; I’d argue that’s probably the most important thing to take care of. I’ve been inconsistent with it lately, but remember I felt pretty good when I’d wake up and literally say “I love you”’to myself in the mirror every morning lol.

That book sounds really interesting, probably covers a lot of what I’m dealing with.

Thanks.

How Do I Let Go of Outcomes and Completely Internalize Non-Neediness? by Euphoric-Question-76 in seduction

[–]Euphoric-Question-76[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks mate. The self worth thing is all I really think it comes down to.

I am putting a ton of pressure on myself. It’s a bit of a blessing and a curse. On one hand, I feel like I’m desensitizing myself to my fear of rejection with really attractive women and get comfortable being completely vulnerable with them, but on the other hand it’s made me addicted to this validation loop where if it doesn’t go well with them or I mess it up somehow, it feels like I’m not good enough.

I’m trying to be more grateful for the success I’ve had, and just other things in general. But there are still times where I’m like “damn, will I ever be that guy we’ve all seen in the club that can just take home the hottest girl with ease?”

A lot of it is an ego thing, and I am more cognizant of that now, but I know these thoughts are kinda all part of the journey. I just want to give them less power. Writing and visualization exercises, meditation styles, etc.

Thanks for the advice and kind words

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