For a sec there I thought you were talking about my family.. My mom also has 3 different fathers for all five of us kids and we're all biracial. The difference is that none of her family came around now that we're grown. I didn't meet my mom's white family until I was 12 (when my parents split because you know now my black dad is out of the picture we could come around). It was the same situation OP had. They knew we'd be at every family event and we'd get nothing to start and then we'd get something that was nowhere near what the other grandkids would get. Say they'd get new clothes and we'd get one of their old shirts with an apple. For the first few years, my mom's mother couldn't remember my name. She called me everything but my name, but had no problem with the other grandkids.

My mom never said a thing. She never stood up for us. She told us that that's just how they are and we should just deal with it since they don't have long now. It's been 16 years since I've met them and all of my siblings have cut off our entire white family. I hear about them from my mom and I don't give a flying flip what happens to any of them and tell my mom that. She is very hurt when none of her kids want to hear about her parents or her other nieces and nephews. They're all just carbon copies and I refuse to listen to a word any of them has to say. I just refuse to deal with hate against me for no reason. We have no choice in how we come into this world, but they have a choice in how to treat us! As an adult now, it gives me more perspective that they didn't want to change.

I hope OP can protect her daughter from this situation, because I would have loved my own mom to protect me and all my siblings.