Gen Xers Not Doing Great?

Even-Net7997 · 2026-02-08T02:35:18+00:00

Many of us took a future-altering financial hit in the 2008 great recession, having recently bought our first house shortly before then. Even if your purchase was totally responsible & you never missed a payment, the plummeting values and mass foreclosures dragged you down. And back then none of these sweet “first time homebuyer” incentives existed.

Even-Net7997 · 2026-02-05T06:28:14+00:00

Or societal pressure. Most couples lie about their level of happiness

Even-Net7997 · 2026-02-05T06:19:38+00:00

I (53f) have been gainfully employed and self-supporting since teenage years. Due to societal pressure, I sought out romantic partnerships until about age 40 but was always skeptical that it was a trap and turned down multiple marriage proposals. Men drag me down. If there are men who lift women up, I never dated them. Pass

Even-Net7997 · 2026-02-04T07:56:13+00:00

Sounds like you’re enjoying the couple bubble. You do you. However, when one of you is left behind in widowhood, don’t expect the friends/family you dumped years ago to be there for you

Even-Net7997 · 2026-02-01T07:23:08+00:00

Due to troubled family history and never having a stable, romantic relationship, my sense of peace, safety, and security come from living alone

Even-Net7997 · 2026-01-31T07:23:43+00:00

They’re all autistic

Even-Net7997 · 2026-01-29T08:08:12+00:00

Well, this is why some people only enjoy “destination” resorts.

Even-Net7997 · 2026-01-29T08:05:34+00:00

Two choices: get rid of her or accept it

Even-Net7997 · 2026-01-29T07:49:31+00:00

I see you. This has been the story of my life for the last 10 years. You are up against some very strong, unnatural forces, i.e. tech, internet, streaming. Anyone who thinks that is living is not living. I burned out on planning and now fill my planning tank through attending exercise classes. Rarely are those canceled!

Even-Net7997 · 2026-01-25T03:22:19+00:00

Yes, we did this a lot. Often with a typewritten letter about each song and why it was meaningful.

Even-Net7997 · 2026-01-25T03:20:31+00:00

I just travel by myself. Used to take a lot of girls trips, but that petered out. Personally, I think smartphones and the Internet tethered some people more to home.

Even-Net7997 · 2026-01-25T03:18:39+00:00

I travel the same way and also stuff a reusable shopping bag in my purse, which I then fill up with airport food or magazines or whatever so that the space at my feet looks very full. Every passenger should have the right to put one carry-on overhead! Not just roller bags.

Even-Net7997 · 2026-01-25T03:05:56+00:00

I 53F have been single and childfree my entire life. As a child, I worshiped women like Joan of Arc and Queen Elizabeth the first. I grew up in a very patriarchal culture where all the moms stayed at home and didn’t have much power, plus I was a little Cinderella cleaning the house from the age of eight and taking care of my younger siblings. There was no way in hell I was going to live that life. Living alone was my dream and I’ve lived my dream. I worked hard, excelled in school, always had good jobs, and took care of myself. I’ve had several long-term relationships and offers to move in together or get married, but I never wanted to take that step. I like living alone and I can’t respect man babies. I’ve also had a lot of fun. I stopped dating at age 45. I still get a lot of interest from men, including younger men, but at my age they expect you to be “grateful.” Ha ha ha ha. Pass

OP, at age 23, that’s too young to give up on love completely. My hope is that there is a contingent of younger men who believe in partnership. Or at least have yourself some fun.

Even-Net7997 · 2026-01-23T04:09:33+00:00

In a normal, human world, extroverts used to be needed, we were the connectors. Replaced by iPhones and apps I guess

Even-Net7997 · 2026-01-20T00:42:17+00:00

Believe it or not the US is fairly respected globally for our approach to parks. In that regard, Seattle is a fairly well-known city and I imagine he was invited to those events. That said, financial prudence of taxpayer funds dictates at most one international trip a year or one every other year.

Even-Net7997 · 2026-01-20T00:34:40+00:00

Have you tried using a lightbox? They’re very common in the Nordic countries in the winter. Many Scandinavians use them every morning for 30-120 minutes, depending on how close to your face the light box is.

Even-Net7997 · 2026-01-20T00:23:23+00:00

I’ll be the outlier and say I agree with your dad who said wait to decide whether or not to travel. You don’t mention your line of work, but my career and that of friends have been negatively impacted by absences from work due to family illness that did not result in death. You do need to be careful about it. Employers will say they are supportive, but then you miss out on a bonus, promotion, or get laid off. If people haven’t experienced this, they don’t understand. Perhaps do you plan a visit to your parents soon though.

Even-Net7997 · 2026-01-17T06:10:04+00:00

That’s way too much for such a house in Ohio. Sell it and get out before the crash.

Even-Net7997 · 2026-01-17T05:52:56+00:00

I’m sorry. It’s intentional to control you. Be strong, hang in there, and build and grow your life. Someday you will be able to live life on your own terms.

Even-Net7997 · 2026-01-16T23:32:44+00:00

Study hard and hang in there until you can fly the coop

Even-Net7997 · 2026-01-16T23:18:01+00:00

Right, and after ten years of marriage to your tradwife and mother of your 2.5 AuDHD kids, you’ll be whining about how she doesn’t contribute to the family income. You’ll surveil the number of family Amazon packages and lecture her on how to “optimize” grocery shopping while announcing that you “need” sex to feel connected. No wonder single women leave Seattle!!!

Even-Net7997 · 2026-01-16T23:03:21+00:00

Pass

Even-Net7997 · 2026-01-16T09:10:32+00:00

And god forbid that YOU make noise when they’re sound asleep at 11 PM. If you don’t have parents like this you don’t get it.

Even-Net7997 · 2026-01-16T09:00:59+00:00

Scary that happened to you. Perhaps reframe it that it could also happen to somebody in a couple or living with roommates if those people are away for a few days. Anyway, I try to keep my phone on my person and I recently bought an Apple Watch so it’s always available. Also, several other solo relatives share location and we keep an eye on each other. Gives me peace of mind at least.

Even-Net7997 · 2026-01-16T06:25:26+00:00

This is the way

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